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 Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 3:54 pm
I've been suspiciously absent for the last few weeks. I've been trying to get something back on track that was knocked screwy in December.
Back in December (December 13th, 2007 at 4:23 in the afternoon to be exact . . . ) I got into an enormous fight with my family. We were having the annual christmas party at our house with all of our closest family and friends. I was mingling, being happy, loving the praise for my latest report card, talking about upcoming band trips and making small talk with people I barely knew, but somehow knew me.
It turned out that my mother had sent an invitation to a girl she thought was a friend of mine. But she wasn't a friend, perse. She was my ex girlfriend.
So I was laughing, having a good time, and then I see Jenny standing there, in the middle of MY living room, hitting on MY mother and sucking up to MY best friends. And then my mom started questioning what my relationship was to Jenny, and a lot of things came out. See, I hadn't come out to my parents yet. Nobody but the people I dated and my friends knew I was gay.
Sparks started flying as my mother started yelling at me. And every single one of my relatives took HER side. And that b***h Jenny just stood there and ******** smirked at me, pardon my language, but that is just how ticked off I am!
So I got in trouble. I haven't said more than two words to my parents since and Goddess only knows that I've tried to make things better. I love my parents so much and it really effing hurts that they are ignoring me like this.
This is what I need advice on:
Should I give my parents time to let this sink in and wait for them to contact me, should I keep trying to talk to them and discuss what happened, or should I just say "******** it all" and move in with my grandparents in Alabama?
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 4:50 pm
Your parents are behaving immaturely.
They should love you no matter what.
Obviously you are trying to make amends, you should keep that up, moving in with your grandparents would be the easier thing to do, but the thing that would work out better in the long run is if you patched things up with your parents. You know that, your a smart girl. =]
Now, how we go about doing that is the difficult part!
So I'm imagining you are avoiding each other for the most part? I would suggest, though it'll be awkward, finding more and more chances of 'bumping into each other' when you know that you'll have time to talk to them alone. Alone is a keyword. You don't have to say anything to them just yet, give them the chance to make the first move. Make sure you are all in relatively decent moods, we don't need a fight breaking out. Repeat this for a while, until they say something. Been a while? Getting frustrated? Okay, then YOU are going to have to say something. Start out with something innocent enough, ask how their day was, after a while conversation will flow and you can slip it in.
That's as best I can think of for right now, tell me if you need any more help or with any updates =]
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Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 7:29 pm
Grape-soda-whore Your parents are behaving immaturely. They should love you no matter what. Obviously you are trying to make amends, you should keep that up, moving in with your grandparents would be the easier thing to do, but the thing that would work out better in the long run is if you patched things up with your parents. You know that, your a smart girl. =] Now, how we go about doing that is the difficult part! So I'm imagining you are avoiding each other for the most part? I would suggest, though it'll be awkward, finding more and more chances of 'bumping into each other' when you know that you'll have time to talk to them alone. Alone is a keyword. You don't have to say anything to them just yet, give them the chance to make the first move. Make sure you are all in relatively decent moods, we don't need a fight breaking out. Repeat this for a while, until they say something. Been a while? Getting frustrated? Okay, then YOU are going to have to say something. Start out with something innocent enough, ask how their day was, after a while conversation will flow and you can slip it in. That's as best I can think of for right now, tell me if you need any more help or with any updates =] Yeah i tottaly agree with u 2 exclaim
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Posted: Wed May 28, 2008 7:01 pm
Grape-soda-whore Your parents are behaving immaturely. They should love you no matter what. Obviously you are trying to make amends, you should keep that up, moving in with your grandparents would be the easier thing to do, but the thing that would work out better in the long run is if you patched things up with your parents. You know that, your a smart girl. =] Now, how we go about doing that is the difficult part! So I'm imagining you are avoiding each other for the most part? I would suggest, though it'll be awkward, finding more and more chances of 'bumping into each other' when you know that you'll have time to talk to them alone. Alone is a keyword. You don't have to say anything to them just yet, give them the chance to make the first move. Make sure you are all in relatively decent moods, we don't need a fight breaking out. Repeat this for a while, until they say something. Been a while? Getting frustrated? Okay, then YOU are going to have to say something. Start out with something innocent enough, ask how their day was, after a while conversation will flow and you can slip it in. That's as best I can think of for right now, tell me if you need any more help or with any updates =] i agree with you as well but i would like to add something if your parents get mad when you try to talk about it try telling them that you just want to talk about it for a bit and if they get mad at that say you cant make me like guys and if you do not like it and you want to talk find me. and that is what i have to say
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Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 2:09 am
why dont u just say...'Who are you to judge the life i live?
I know I'm not perfect - I don't live to be.
But before you start pointing fingers,
Makes sure your hands are clean!' blaugh im sure this'll work!!!
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Posted: Mon May 25, 2009 2:13 am
im sure ur perfect in other ways!!
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Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 12:22 am
Grape-soda-whore Your parents are behaving immaturely. They should love you no matter what. Obviously you are trying to make amends, you should keep that up, moving in with your grandparents would be the easier thing to do, but the thing that would work out better in the long run is if you patched things up with your parents. You know that, your a smart girl. =] Now, how we go about doing that is the difficult part! So I'm imagining you are avoiding each other for the most part? I would suggest, though it'll be awkward, finding more and more chances of 'bumping into each other' when you know that you'll have time to talk to them alone. Alone is a keyword. You don't have to say anything to them just yet, give them the chance to make the first move. Make sure you are all in relatively decent moods, we don't need a fight breaking out. Repeat this for a while, until they say something. Been a while? Getting frustrated? Okay, then YOU are going to have to say something. Start out with something innocent enough, ask how their day was, after a while conversation will flow and you can slip it in. That's as best I can think of for right now, tell me if you need any more help or with any updates =] I agree but the thing is that is a big way to find out something so personal. It is quite shocking to parents to find out that their child is gay. The way it came out in your situation was not the best way for them to find out. Give them time. It will get better eventually. Keep trying to talk to them but dont push them to fast. It is harder for adults to fully understand what is going on. Good Luck. Hope everything works out for you
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Posted: Tue Aug 11, 2009 6:32 pm
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