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 Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 8:41 pm
I got a message today from a cousin of mine that I haven't seen in years. With anyone else, this could be seen as a good thing. However, this is the cousin who raped me when I was about nine years old. I still haven't gotten over it. I'm now twenty. But I don't know what to do. I feel so frightened my head hurts and I'm shaking all over, even though he lives several counties away. I can't help but imagine if he'll try to come here and hurt me again, or hurt my family or friends. gonk
And my parents don't know what happened. No one in my family, immediate or intermediate, does either. I can't tell them what happened. The results would be close to the scandal of punching an ambassador in the face.
cry But I'm so scared....I don't know what to do. I thought I was finally rid of him when he stopped having interest in extended family functions and started avoiding them. Now he's back again. wahmbulance
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Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 7:10 am
Ok, personally hun, I think you need to tell your family. I know that it might not seem like the best thing to do, and it could open a huge can of worms, but sometimes, you need to think about yourself, and not about everyone around you. I don't think you can truely start to heal, and try to move on if you are keeping it bottled up inside. He deserves to be outted. I was sexually assualted by a cousin for 5 years, and I told my mom when I was 7, I was still too young to think of what it would do to my family, but i'm glad I told her, because the whole family found out what he did, and he was sent away to a place to help him out (since he is only 10 years older). I have never seen him again, and I think my telling my mom has alot to do with that. You should never have to feel afraid that he will show up at some family function. So, all and all, I think you should tell your parents and start the process of letting go!
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Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 8:29 am
First of all, I'm very sorry this happened to you...I was raped by a few relatives when just 3-5 years old and a stranger as well...I agree with MsMaxie here, time to talk, no matter what the cost it will help you heal and keep them away from you...you shouldn't have to hide it and expose yourself to this again. You shouldn't be cowering in the corner...time to step up and by doing so you may save others he's hurting as well. Get support from anyone in your family who'll listen and don't let him keep having power over you.
GOOD LUCK - I know it's hard - but it's worth it in the end.
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