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 Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 5:45 pm
I have recently acquired a servant who lives a few states away from me. The details are sticky, and some of them simply not my story to tell. But this is my first time attempting a long distance S/M relationship, and well, I've got little to no clue what I'm doing. So far everything I've asked of her has been none BDSM and more of psycological stuff, I've had her start writing in a journal about thoughts that strike her during the day, and stuff like that. But I'd like her give her a more BDSM aspect, and I've started to look into self bondage, but if anyone could give me a little advice or something it'd be appreciated.
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Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 9:23 pm
Start with photographs mayhaps, or asking herself to tie her ankles together and spend the night like that..
I personally don't like self-bondage- I like the power play- but there are some good sites for such... Mayhaps have her draw you pictures depicting how she'd like you to treat her?
I don't know what she does best, but make good use of it.
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 12:53 pm
yeah, I found a few good websites. Thanks for the help Zurah, seems like the rest of the guild went and died on us.
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 2:01 pm
It happens... I try to do what I can to keep it up. It'd be great to have some help, though.
You wanna help spread the word a bit? I tend to find folk, but it can be tricky to get them to stay if it's just me around, y'know?
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Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 11:51 am
Ahh, see my Master/Lover/Dom lives in the UK, I in the US, so I know a bit about log distance relationships.
I think it's important, since you can't see eachother, that you talk to eachother as often as possible. I don't know if you have cameras or webcams, or even if you'd want to do that but you can work something out so you can see each other. Try to get her/him to imagine you so the attention is more focused.
Since you're not there, some BDSM might seem, uh, soft (?) that is not as powerful alone- so try to make it compelling and riskier, but not too much...
A lot of it relies on the person, you can figure it out as you go- with us we knew nothing about eachother (and I barely knew anything about what I would be into) so it took a few confessions, honesty, and willingness to try anything once.
Luck,
Alika
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Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 9:36 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 12:17 pm
100% true! Otherwise, you have nothing but a few words/lies. -Alika613
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