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The Extraordinary Lauren Crew
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 Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 11:14 am
Alright so I am friends with an entire family in the court across the street from mine. I've known them all for like 6 years and I use to babysit the kids but they are old enough now that I don't need to anymore but I will go over and hang out. The husband and wife have three kids, a girl and I love them all to pieces. I joke and call their kids my children.
Well, since I'm home from school, I often dont get to see my high school friends so when I'm home alone and bored I'll go over and hang out Or if my mom's husband is home, I'll go over there to avoid him. I usually end up watching a movie or something there or eating dinner with them sometimes. But today suddenly my mom, my grandmother, and my mom's husband dont want me going over there anymore when the wife isn't home. It kind of took me by surprise because I've been over there before when it was just the kids or just the kids and the husband and the wife was coming from work within the hour or so. But I was just taken by shock really that they all were acting so weird.
First off- I dont care wtf my mom's husband thinks. He could die and I'd celebrate. But like, my mom was just like, "I dont want you to put yourself in that situation" and Im like, "you mean being taken advantage of?" and Im just like, wtf!I only go over there to have a change of scenery and talk to other people outside of my house. I dont understand why they are freaking the ******** out. It's so stupid.
Like my mom worries so much about what other people think that it is making me worry that something horrible is going to happen. So now, I am not going to Fourth of July in DC with the other family cause my mom doesnt want me getting lost in DC (its like super crowded there on 4th of july). And now I have to only go over to their house with the wife is home.
So I had to cancel for Friday and I just had to talk to the wife about how for the rest of the summer for my sake, Im just gonna come over when shes home to save my a** from the nagging from the peanut gallery.
..........Okay, so I have talked to my mom and she knows Im fine over there but with the way society thinks these days she says its just best that I go over there when the wife is home. And if I end needing to babysit the youngest one, bring her over to my house.
UGH I WANNA GO BACK TO SCHOOLa
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Posted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 7:26 am
Wow that is effed up.
So your refuge is now taken away because of what 'society thinks these days'. You know, society has thought that way for decades... my grandma used to keep my mom from going to her female friend's house when only her father was home. So it's not just these days... but all days.
It's dumb that they think things should change all of the sudden. The fact that you'd babysat for years already practically makes you one of the family. How do your mom and her husband not think that maybe 'society' sees you as another daughter in that family. They're only thinking about the cons... what about the pros.
On top of that, you're an adult now. You shouldn't be refrained from making your own judgement calls. Honestly, if I were you, I would go over anyway. If they are so worried about you and they take the time to actually check if the wife is there, then they can go over with you and sit in the kitchen reading the newspaper or whatever overly protective parents do.
Then THEY could explain to the husband why they are so prejudice against him. It's not his fault he's male. It's not his fault stereotypes go against him. That's exactly what prejudice is...
... this might be stretching it, but if your mom is so prejudice against males, maybe that crappy husband should get the boot.
It's like when parents hit their kids for hitting... it's ridiculous to restrain you from something they do.
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 2:04 pm
Wow, that really sucks, I kind of know what you mean with the over-protective parents thing. My mom is like that too, but I don't know if she would take it that far... Anyway, who cares about society anyway? Societies views are often bad ones anyway... I really think you should try talking to your mom again. Howveer I am sure that it might be in vain... I just don't understand it, if you've been going over there for years, then why is it a problem now? Nothing bad has happened in the past, so what has changed? It seems pretty strange to me... but you're an adult right? And some adults move out and live on their own and go to school and have a full time job supporting themselves on their own. So I say go ahead and make your own decision. It seems to me that your neighbours are like family to you, so I think you should treat them like family andgo whenever you like.
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