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 Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:43 pm
I'm attracted to women, I date women, etc. I'm not attracted to men. And I'm also attracted to transpeople (FtMs mostly. I have yet to meet a MtF to whom I've been attracted) and to genderqueers. Does that mean that I'm still a lesbian? I'm not pansexual, bisexual, trisexual, etc.
I've met lesbians in my situation and I've met lesbians who say that only straight women and bisexuals can be attracted to FtMs. I highly recommend the Logo movie "Gender Rebel" in which the girlfriend of a genderqueer (born female and began transitioning through top surgery, T, and ID change) was very upset that her lesbian identity was apparently compromised by not breaking up with her partner. I don't see how that was really an issue; she was the only person claiming that she was being forced to turn straight by being with someone who didn't have breasts and who was taking T. And yet her partner had been clear all along about these goals and genderqueer identity.
Gender and sexuality seem to be more of a spore cloud than a continuum. And the English language is less than efficient.
Dislaimer (mostly sarcastic): it is entirely possible that I could be fooling around with someone who's had top surgery, but then stop and yelp, "Where are the boobies?!"
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Posted: Sun Jul 20, 2008 8:38 pm
I almost had a thing with a transman a while back and I also have been interested in a few pre-op MtFs in my day. I don't think it makes me any less of a lesbian.
If you still identify as a lesbian then I say you still are one. Yes it confuses people but meh so what? Sex is biological, gender is cultural, and sexuality is probably somewhere in between. Ultimately only you can accurately label your sexuality, no one else.
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Posted: Tue Feb 09, 2010 12:44 pm
I'm a sucker for FTM's...dated two so far....unforunately they always seem to cause drama. sweatdrop
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