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I started a new job, i really like the boss and the children (babysitting). It is a family of 3 children 2 girls in the age: 5,13 and a boy 11 years old. the boy is dignuast with PDD, he comuncate with others but not in a way every one comuncate. that means he has failure to understand others, and others don't understand him sometimes.
The thing is this child is big and strong (this isn't related to the PDD). i saw him one day, in my on eyes, drop a little girl from a swing. the reason was he wanted to participate in the game too. he didn't really understood this isn't the way to make new friends.
I am grown up, but my body is small and i am not that strong. his father wants me in the end to stay with this boy alone. my mom is really afried i get hurt, and well i think she is right. even his father tells me this boy can hurt his family without understand what he is doing.
I think i want to learn more about helping children like him, and make it a major in my collage, so knowing a boy like him can help.
so, what do you think i should do? should i refuse to stay alone with the boy, and risk losing the job? or should i try to learn self difence or more about the boy and how can i stop him if it comes to him trying to hurt me.
What would you do if you where me?
and what would you think if you where the father of this child and the babysit would tell you she doesn't want to stay alone with your child?

I'm sorry but my honest opinion is to not do it. The reason is that I don't think your ready to watch a boy with that kind of disability. god forbid what happens if you can't control him. and he runs out of the house or something and gets hurt. you will go to jail. If he tries to attack you and you do self defense you will go to jail. It's really nice that you want to help him but your probably going to have to sit on this one. and maybe do it later on. because you are losing more than gaining in this job. and if this boy could attack his family that he grew up with just imagine what he could do to you.

I agree with Meleny. It's for your safety and his. Maybe if he can learn from what's right and wrong, maybe you could try it later. Explain it to the parents why you can't do it.

Sorry if it's crappy advice. sweatdrop

don't do it. when children with those types of conditions get out of control, it's not pretty, and they're almost impossible to stop. if you can't handle him as you are, don't try to handle him at all. nothing good will come from it. it's great that you're inspired to take this on as your major in colege, and that spending time with him would be a great experience, but it isn't worth your health to take that risk. watching from afar can also be helpful, not to mention safer.

Sunshine- your advice is not crappy at all. About the advice, most chanses a boy with PDD won't learn the right and worng most normal poeple understand. It is like this boy is living in another world, he see things difrently, think difrently.
Meleny thanks for the chear up.
Gerbil_of_the_Vashness i never try to handle him really, i mean most of the time when he has problems he go to his father, or sisters. so, i don't really know what will happen if i have to handle when he gets out of controol.
katt I told the boss just that, he told me don't worry, i won't leave you alone with him before i see you can handle the child when he has a problem.
Well i guess this problem is solved.
Thanks everyone for the advice.