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 Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 12:04 pm
aaargh
well, here's the deal:
I come from quite a religious family-I mean, theyre not the overly religious type, but theyre still strong christians...
all except for me.
I cant help it, Its just with all the bad things going on, I cant belive in god anymore.I guess I lost faith, but I only realised it recently.
soo...
I have to tell my mam and dad eventually, but how do I do it?
I dont really know how theyre gonna take it, I mean, what if they get angry, or dissapointed in me?
has anyone been in the same position as me??
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Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:20 pm
You should just tell them that you don't believe in God anymore. Just sit them down one night and calmly explain why and such. They should accept that fact. If they don't and they keep pestering you about it just tell them that you don't believe and that you can't believe. And if that doesn't work, just ask them to respect your beliefs just as you respect theirs ^_^
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Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2008 8:55 pm
I have been in that sort of situation ... except that my parents weren't strong in their faith ... and mine wasn't that I didn't belive anymore but that I had altered my thoughts on the matter ... I still belive that there is something out there but not that it is an all knowing ever-presant kind of thing ... if the was the case than we would all go to hell ... because a lot of the things that we do that could be considered simple or small things are all really big in his eyes ... that just doesn't seem fair to me ...
it sounds like you know that you don't wish to belive and it would be better to tell your parents the truth ... that may be hard ... but it's better for them if they know ... besides if they are "true" Christians you can remind them that it is not for them to be the judge ...
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Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 9:36 am
just tell them nicely. if they don't respect that then really you tried and they just don't want to accept it. just continue to respect their religion and they will respect yours
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Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 11:45 am
Mybe you shouldn't tell them, i mean today you don't belive in god, but tomrow you can change your mind.
I think if they don't make you do things you don't want to there is no reason to tell them. so, unless they tell you to go extrim like donate most of your money, or go to bible lesons, there is no reason to start an argument.
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Posted: Sat Aug 16, 2008 6:50 pm
if they are as strict as you say then they won't take it well no matter how calm you say it to them. I think if i lost faith and i told my mother that i don't believe in god she would send me off to a church school or something. if you tell them i guess the best thing to do is to stand for what you believe in. and think about really good points you could tell them.
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 1:21 pm
meleny7 if they are as strict as you say then they won't take it well no matter how calm you say it to them. I think if i lost faith and i told my mother that i don't believe in god she would send me off to a church school or something. if you tell them i guess the best thing to do is to stand for what you believe in. and think about really good points you could tell them. Yep you can tell them when you leave the house, then you don't have to follow the house rules...
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:26 pm
shani26 meleny7 if they are as strict as you say then they won't take it well no matter how calm you say it to them. I think if i lost faith and i told my mother that i don't believe in god she would send me off to a church school or something. if you tell them i guess the best thing to do is to stand for what you believe in. and think about really good points you could tell them. Yep you can tell them when you leave the house, then you don't have to follow the house rules... LOL good point.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 3:49 am
meleny7 shani26 meleny7 if they are as strict as you say then they won't take it well no matter how calm you say it to them. I think if i lost faith and i told my mother that i don't believe in god she would send me off to a church school or something. if you tell them i guess the best thing to do is to stand for what you believe in. and think about really good points you could tell them. Yep you can tell them when you leave the house, then you don't have to follow the house rules... LOL good point. I am just glad my parents aren't religous, cuz i can express my opinions in the house.
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Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 3:36 am
shani26 meleny7 shani26 meleny7 if they are as strict as you say then they won't take it well no matter how calm you say it to them. I think if i lost faith and i told my mother that i don't believe in god she would send me off to a church school or something. if you tell them i guess the best thing to do is to stand for what you believe in. and think about really good points you could tell them. Yep you can tell them when you leave the house, then you don't have to follow the house rules... LOL good point. I am just glad my parents aren't religous, cuz i can express my opinions in the house. same here...! well, anyway... i agree w/ meleny... but if there aren't that strict... maybe i agree w/ the say-it-to-them strategy... just like other said... 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 4:33 am
Thanks soo much for the advice ^^
I'm gonna think about what all you guys said a little longer, then I'll decide 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Aug 22, 2008 12:48 am
^Ok take your time rashing into decison isn't good in this case.^
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 5:34 pm
(seriously, I'm not flaming)
not to be a d**k, but why would you want to? if your family is completely spiritual, what are you trying to prove by saying, "oh, I don't believe in God"...I'm sorry but it just seems that you just wanna be a bit of a ball buster...however, I can't say anything since I don't know you personally but it'll really kinda hurt to tell your mom (of all people) that you don't believe in God, in a way, it's just your personal preference, shouldn't be exploded to people that are spiritual
maybe I'm saying this because I don't like it when people try to announce their religion because it seems like a sign that this person is not only believing in God, but want to hurt some feelings in the process...oh boy, this is gonna sound so flamey but sorry
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 8:47 pm
I will say don't tell them yet.
There saw a time long ago I lose my faith is a higher power. I lost alot during that time even my emotions. I did not feel at all and had to faith. Ok I didn't come from a that had strong faith but that wasn't the issue. At this time I went looking other faith. I walked into many churches to find what was more for me. I read alot and many books until I found something to believe in that suited me and how I see the world around me. I found Karma and much more. I was lost but now I found.
Now the time to find yourself and see what is out there for you.
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Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 9:57 pm
Zercia is rite but just remember it your chose on how you tell them and whin you tell them. and what i wood do is just come out and tell them how you feel ok. and if you dont whant to hert them then just say that mom pop sorry but i just dont beleev in god. and if you do that krap will hit the fan but you shood tell them. and then how ever thay re ack then you shood sit done whith them and tell them your reesins for not belive in god
and tell them that your at that pont in your life were you need to find were your belives lay or somthing like that
and rememeber if there your mom and pops thay love you no mater what.
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