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 Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 6:44 pm
Having read through some of the other threads, I noticed that many others can't stand contact with other people, to varying degrees. I also read on a website that many aspies can't stand having their hair touched. What's it like for you? How much contact can you tolerate, and from whom? Does having your hair touched bother you?
I personally can't stand being around people, let alone being touched. I allow my closest family members to hug me, but only rarely. For the most part, I like to keep at least two feet away from people I can stand, and ten feet or more from any and all strangers. As for hair, I can't even stand the wind ruffling the front part of my hair, though I'm fine about the rest of my hair, oddly enough.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 5:04 am
If I know a person, it's ok if they touch me. Few things infuriate me more than being brushed past or bumped into by a stranger, however. I also seem to require more space than other people. I often feel invaded when others are talking to me because they get too close. Generally, I just deal with it, or I try to back up a little as subtly as possible.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 5:59 am
I don't mind being touched--IF I initiate the contact. I actually love to wrestle, usually with either my dog or one of my friends.
On the other hand, I HATE being touched by anyone whom I do not trust a lot, and I really, really do not like hugs.
I don't like anything touching my neck or head, and it REALLY bothers me if my hair touches my neck or gets into my eyes--one of the reasons I keep it so short. Anyone trying to touch my neck in an attempt to tickle me gets my chin crunching down on their hand so hard that I have left bruises.
I can't even sleep in any position where my throat feels 'unprotected,' which means that I either sleep on my belly or curled up on my side. Fourtunately my hair is so short that no one makes an attempt to, say, braid it.
I literally cannot stand having my midback down to my knees touched--I tend to automatically kick anyone doing so, even accidentally. Actually, my response to any attempt at that heinous act known as 'tickling' is almost always very violent--and until the person attempting to tickle me stops, I WILL be seeking to hurt them until they go away. It's reflexive by now.
Oh, and my palms and the bottoms of my feet are sensitive, but I can deal with handshakes and aside from that no one much tries to touch them.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 8:27 am
Um, I can handle it if I know it's coming. But if people touch me unexpectedly, I usually jerk away roughly or slap them a good one.
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Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 5:19 pm
I can't stand having my hair touched by almost anyone, only person who I didn't flinch or glare at about it was my ex-girlfriend. Really don't like contact with strangers say on a crowed bus or so, just drives me up a wall. I avoid contact with friends as well.
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Posted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 5:36 pm
I don't mind if someone touches my hands or my hair, as long as I know them. Most of the time, though, anyone I'm not very familiar with needs to give me my space. That's why I hate walking through the halls at my highschool. We're over-crowded, so I'm always smooshed up against someone.
If someone has to touch me, though, I'd rather know about it in advance. That way I don't push them away or anything out of reflex.
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Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 10:43 am
Never touch me unless I touch you frist. Bad things are known to happen to those that do. twisted
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Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 11:24 am
I can deal with being touched to a certain extent, but after a while it get annoying. I'm learning to controll it, considering that I'm in college now.
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Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 2:49 pm
I'll let anyone touch me if I trust them enough.
Otherwise, I tend to go for their neck if they touch me, even when I try not to. Its kind of like an automatic kind of thing. 
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Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 4:58 am
I like being hugged etc by people I trust, but I don't like being hugged by accuitances or relatives I don't know that well. I love it when someone gently strokes my hair, it's one of the most soothing things in the world, but when my mom tries to comb my hair forcefully or take it away from my face... scream scream scream She usually does this in public, I understand that she just wants me to look OK but it's still really annoying
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Posted: Sun Oct 09, 2005 6:34 pm
I hate most human contact. It's kind of, how could I put it, threatening? Even when I hug somebody, all I'm doing is moving my body in front of theirs and wrapping my arms carefully over them so that it looks like a hug. I know people must like being wrapped up in somebody's arms and squeezed, but I just can't bring myself to understand how anyone would want that, and therefore cannot bring myself to "really" hug someone.
A drama teacher of mine (who spent ten years working with disabled students prior) used to always stress that one of the most intimate things people can do is connect palms, meet eyes, and... something else, can't really remember. ^^; Anyway, knowing that, it's pretty easy to see why people in general tend to see us as unfeeling or unsympathetic. neutral
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Posted: Mon Oct 10, 2005 1:33 am
I only like being touched by people I trust, in ways I can appreciate.
I love hugs from people I like n_n
I like to shake hands and hell I don't mind getting my a** slapped, which has been happening in increasing increments as of late o_O
But if I don't know the person I will jerk away instinctively and maybe even move a few feet away without so much as eye contact.
Interestingly enough I love to fight. If it's intentionally aggressive bring it on, hurt me biggrin
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 5:09 pm
I don't mind being touched. By a girl, but that rarely happens.
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2005 7:30 am
Although for the most part I am getting better, I still have issues with certain types of contact. For example, I can't stand it when people touch my shoulders in a certain way. Never have for as far back as I can remember. With other things, it varies. Sometimes I really like hugs, for example, but other times I automatically cringe away, even when I can't consciously come up with a reason.
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2005 10:20 am
Sometimes I don't like being touched. Other times I don't mind.
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