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Laeluu
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:44 pm


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2. Rules*
3. Banners
4. Current Advice-Givers*
5. In Order to Become an Advice Giver

NOTE: Post-titles with a star next to it are required to be read!...Or at least they are if you want to be a good member. ^^
PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:46 pm


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1. Follow the ToS of Gaia!

2. Never suggest suicide, even if it's a joke. As I said before, this guild is for helping, not hurting.

3. If you DO want to say something mean/suggest something, keep it to an appropiate thread. Do NOT go into a thread that's for helping someone out and be mean. It WILL result in punishment.

4. Keep cursing to a minimum. It's okay to let it slip every now and then, but please--for all our sakes--keep it low-key, people.

5. Be mature. This guild probally will get people who aren't 100% literate, and maybe aren't in the desired age group, but that doesn't mean they don't deserve to be loved!

6. Make a new thread for every problem. biggrin It's a guild--it's okay to have multiple threads! Once a problem is solved, just change the title to say it's solved and that's that! I'll either recycle the thread or let it die out.

7. Keep the chatter to the chatter threads. smile No spamming, and please lable your thread accordingly if you cannot find a thread to put yourself into.

8. If you have a role-play, keep it PG13 if it's not labled more than that. wink As I said before, we have under-aged users here, people.

9. And finally, just remember that this is a happy place! If you come in sad every day, hopefully we can make you happy, like you should be! Every living being deserves to be loved, and that includes you!

heart Any violation of the following WILL result in action!...I believe our mule found that out that hard way. wink heart

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Laeluu
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 8:50 pm


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heart You used to PM Laeluu with banners, but we have a thread now. :3 <3 So yayz! heart


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 9:00 pm


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If you check the Members panel, all Crew members listed may give advice. Vice-Captains are next in line to me; if you have a problem, PM them. Jaz009 is more active than hobbitdrummer, FYI.

Note: If you feel as though you want to give advice in a certain field and only that field, PM me and we'll see if we can hook you up. wink

Laeluu
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Laeluu
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 28, 2005 9:03 pm


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heart To become an advice-giver, PM Laeluu with the following test, each question with its respectful answer below. Lable the PM "Group Hug Test", and be sure to follow all the instructions and answer all the questions truthfully to what you would do. By taking this test and becoming an official advice-giver, you are telling me that you will uphold all of Group Hug's rules and keep yourself in check while making sure no one else screws up either. If you do not follow all of the rules and whatnot of taking this test--or the rules in general--I'm sorry, but if you can't even take care of yourself, I can only imagine how horrible you are of taking care of others. This guild has no room for hypocritic leaders. heart

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Part One: Bad Situations in the Guild
Bad things happen, and we get into sticky situations. Answer the following questions about what you would do if placed into these situations on the guild.

1. Some user gropes one of the people in the guild who apparently has a problem. She curls up into a ball/starts to freak out or just signs off Gaia. What do you do?

2. A user posts his/her problem in another user's thread, even though she's not supposed to do that. What do you say to him/her?

3. A user's in a big problem, but you don't know what to tell them. Laeluu isn't on, and you're afraid if you give them advice, it'll be bad advice. What do you do?

4. A user says they're going to commit suicide, but Laeluu's not on. What do you do?

5. A fellow advice-giver is giving horrible advice. What do you do?

Part Two: Advice
Here are some common situations people are going through. Give these imaginary people advice!

1. My boyfriend's cheating on me, I know it! I haven't seen him with the girl, but I still know it. He's just acting...DIFFERENT! And I don't know why! But, I still think he's cheating on me. Should I break up with him?

2. No one ever listens to me...Every night, I sit up in my room and cry, because no one will listen. I feel so horrible...I just wish all the pain would go away.

3. My parents are getting a divorce, and I'm really confused. I mean, I'm okay, but things just don't seem RIGHT. I shouldn't be sad because I knew this was coming, and it's better this way...But I'm crying...What should I do?

4. I'm so SICK of my parents! They never let me do ANYTHING! They're so over-protective, and it's driving...me...INSANE!

5. Everyone's calling me something I'm not at school [goth, prep, etc.], and it's really getting to me. Help?

Part Three: Fishing, anyone?
Sometimes people won't directly tell you what's wrong, but you gotta find out so you can help them. But, when should you stop before you make it worse? The sentances are numbered; name which one is the stopping point where you should just give up before you mess them up more. After you name the sentance number, complete the conversation with what you would say/do.

1. User: ::Sits in the corner, crying.::
2. You: What's wrong?
3. User: ::Turns away.::
4. You: Please, tell me...? I can help.
5. User: ::Shakes their head back and forth rapidly.::
6. You: Please? I can help, I can make it better!
7. User: ::Takes a pen and writes no on a piece of paper, crumpling it up and throwing it at you.::
8. You: Are you sure? I promise, it'll be okay if you just tell me.
9. User: ::Takes out a knife.::
10. You: Please, put it away! Blood-shed never solved anything, ESPECIALLY if it's your own!
11. User: ::Runs it up their arm.::
12. You: Please, stop!
13. User: I'm going to kill myself.
14. You: Please, don't! We can work this out!
15. User: ~User has signed off.~

Part Four: Knowing when your limits.
Sometimes we can get a little cocky, and over our heads. When is a time when we know we can't do it by ourselves? Name whether you could handle it or not; if so, give your advice. If not, say exactly what would say to the person if you couldn't. Hint: Don't leave them hanging! If they're in trouble, they need someone.

1. I was raped last night...

2. Life sucks! I'm in debt up to my ears, and it's driving me insane! I feel like there's no way out...I just want it all to go away.

3. SCHOOL. UGH. I have so much homework, it's a miracle I could even find time to go onto the computer! I have to study, though, because my parents will get mad at me if I get a low grade; but, there's so much...

4. Someone close to me just died...What should I do?

5. I'm going to kill myself tomorrow, I'm that miserable. No one listens. My parents hate me. My boyfriend broke up with me. My dog died. My best friends hate me, too. Goodbye.

Part Five: Wrapping things up!
Was the test hard? Easy? Well, if you don't think you did very well, but you STILL wanna be an advice giver, PM Laeluu and ask about training. And that's it! PM this test to Laeluu and wait for the results!
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