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Friend ship advice. What’s a good friend, what’s a bad friend.

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This friend(s) are the closest to you. These people (person) are VERY close to you. They accept you for who you are and they understand you. You feel that you can share you secrets with them and also rely on them. They have a mutual empathy, history, and they are easy to talk too. You see them/or talk to them often. They would almost do anything for you (depending on the situation).
Let’s say that one of you moved away. The both of you would try to keep in contact as much as possible.
Many People don’t have close friends like these. They usually have a circle of close friends.

Keep it Casual

This kind of friendship are people who could be your neighbor, co-worker, or what ever. You share a specific interest with them. You wouldn’t invite them to your wedding or over for dinner.
Let’s say you get a different job, that friendship will end as soon as you end the job. You just share interests, actives, or etc.

These feisty friends encourage you to get what your entitled to. These friends help you a lot with important problems in your life.

These friends may stand by you but yet make adjustments to a separations or a divorce, either way it’s difficult. Some friends can be all these, some can only be one. This is how you can tell if they are TOXIC to you.


1. They are a downer.

People who keep saying “oh this is so awful” These people are chronically depressed. They are always hard on you. This doesn’t mean that you should drop all these friends, just be aware of this friend.


2. They are angry.

Feisty friends can have a downside. Someone who is mad at your lover during a hard time & who feels that your split is almost a violation to her. They can upset you unnecessarily. This one woman told the author of a book “ I occasionally think I’d better not call one friend because she’s going to go ballistic when she hears what my ex-husband wants to do. I don’t want to get the riled up”


3. They are bitter.

These bitter friends are negative influences because they’re stuck in resentment about what happened to them and for some reason can’t move on, and/or they avoid the processing it. They don’t learn how to “divorce” themselves” - who they really are & what their strengths are. They drag you down to their level.


4. They can be pushy.

They try to push you into a relationship or whatever the issue is. If they try to push you into a relationship they usually say “What will help you through this is to find somebody” or something like that. Since you self-esteem is low (or maybe not), you may feel that you have to prove yourself that you can still attract men/woman. The Best thing for self-esteem is a new relationship, but it isn’t a good idea to start one to soon. If you get into a relationship way to fast, you might repeat the same mistake. So take time to find out what happened and come to terms with your own part in the breakup.


5. They are projectors.

They project their issues on you, which can add to a break up. They always seem to come to you and sometimes you have your own issues to deal with and they just add to it and that causes stress and soon a break up of a friendship or a relationship.



6. They are always the victim.

They don’t help you solve your own issue & problems. They tell you what to do than drawing out your own plan or allowing you to have felling & express your feeling in a healthy manner. The way to stop being a victim is to find your own solutions and realize that you have the ability to survive your problem on your own.

Romance at work !?!?!?

( Random facts)

- 50% of women said they like to flirt with the opposite sex.

- 76% of men said they like to flirt with the opposite sex.

- 46% of women said that they become sexual partners.

- 66% of men said that they become sexual partners

Answers to the Quiz above


If you've mostly answered C, then you have a healthy friendship. biggrin
If you've mostly answered A's, you have a toxic relationship. burning_eyes
If you've answered an equal mix of A's, B's, and C's suggests that your friendship could be more satifying - and inproved. stare

The best idea is to try to be open to a range of friendships. If you expect super closeness from a person that isn’t a best bud, you might get disappointed. You might expect little or nothing , you might wind up to close. Try to communicate as much as possible.