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So...afraid of having sex ._.

Pharzuph_The_Fallen_Angel

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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 8:21 am

So...
I love sex a lot...
But I just had a baby 7 weeks ago and me and my fiance were having kinda sex after 4 weeks
I say kinda sex like we would do it...but it still hurt a lot...so it was to its full poitenal
BUT my birthday was last Wednesday That was around the 6 week mark and it didn't hurt anymore...So we were going at it awesome like...
It was really hard and rough...but he slipped and re-open my tore...I bleed everywhere! But its been almost a week again since it happen I dn't hurt down there anymore...
we had sex last night...but it was just like before....slow and soft...(not my thing) He was asking me why I didn't want to him to go at his full potential and I said it was because I was kinda scared but mostly its was because I was sick...WELL...him with his angry problems....got all mad at me...thinking I didn't find him attractive and he would be careful...but I still wouldn't let him do it...

after a while he asked me if I would ever be not afraid of sex...
I told him I wasn't sure....
'='
But what if i am...
I love sex!
Its like my life....
Geh...
I'm sorta like a controlled nympho...
Is that bad?
;-;
Meh...

Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 12:29 pm

I think everybody has a lot of urges like that.
I know I do, but I don't have a way to fill them other than by myself (yah, you know.)
I wouldn't consider it a bad thing unless it was the ONLY thing you cared about.
Then there would be a problem there.
I can't say much on this subject because I've only had sex a few times with only one person and that was almost a year ago.
Since then I haven't done anything with anybody.
It's lonesome, but I guess the wait will be worth it once I find somebody who is meant for me.
I feel upset that I gave my virginity to a complete douche, but at the same time I'm glad I shared it with him.
Mixed feelings much?
XD
Well.. I hope the tearing doesn't get worse.
I understand your fear.
My sister had a beautiful baby almost a year ago, and right after she was terrified of having sex until she was completely sure everything was s**c and span down south.
I'm glad you posted this thread for discussion!
(I'm too much embarrassed to do so. redface )

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Pharzuph_The_Fallen_Angel

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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 2:52 pm

I Hated when I gave away my virginity...I was sorta token advance of...I was stoned and drunk and I feel alseep and this 23 year old guy started to talk to me and somehow convince me to have sex....I was only like 13 ._. a** hole..
Who takes advantage of of 13 high drunk sleeping girl?! geh...

So...why was your first a complete douche if you don't mind me asking?

Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 3:06 pm

13? ._.
Why were you drinking and stoned at 13, if it is alright for me to ask?

It's a tad bit difficult to explain because it's complicated, but he basically lied about a lot of stuff and tells people opposite of what he actually feels. He's so full of himself and vain.
Not to mention he's admitted to "thinking with his p***s."
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iPumperdiddle

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Pharzuph_The_Fallen_Angel

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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 5:31 am

Well....
I don't know why I was drinking and smoking at the age of 13....
._.
I only did it once till I was like 17...
But it was this one girl...I don't really remember her name but she was so pretty and awesome I guess and she invited me to go to a party with her...
Damn peer pressure....
She kinda made me kinda anorexic too...her and my dad...but thats a totally Different situation. >< and I got out of that when I hit high school

Hun, all men think with there penises...It kinda sucks really. You can never get away from it....I'm engaged...and when Jay (my fiance) Is all like rawr I am an a*****e man....rawr...I just want to heh..kill him kinda...

><

Men will forever suck and somehow I can't stop being attracted to them..Damn hormones.

Posted: Thu Sep 11, 2008 11:09 am

XD
I'm pretty sure a lot of girls feel that way when it comes to boys (at least the bisexual and straight ones)
XD

"Men. Can't live with them. Can't shoot them."
X]

iPumperdiddle

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Pharzuph_The_Fallen_Angel

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Posted: Thu Sep 11, 2008 2:43 pm

Lawl! Nice...Ya know do you have a boyfriend?

Posted: Thu Sep 11, 2008 2:53 pm

Nah.
Got out of a small relationship about 3ish months ago.
Before that I got dumped after a year relationship.
Currently single.
Though.. I miss having a boy sometimes.
Rather.. I miss having someone as my own.

iPumperdiddle

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Pharzuph_The_Fallen_Angel

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Posted: Thu Sep 11, 2008 5:30 pm

Awe. ;-;

Well..I mean sometimes I wish I was single
XD

Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 4:39 pm

It's not so bad being alone.
I get to kiss anybody I want and oggle all I please.
x3

But yeah.. I do miss being it.

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Posted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 3:43 pm

Well, technically you aren't supposed to have sex until aproximately 1-3 months after birth. And if something tore, your best bet would to not have sex again. And honestly, if the fiance isn't going to understand, then what makes you think he's the right one for the job?

As for Jeff, he doesn't necessarily understand why I don't want it sometimes, but he says okay and doesn't get upset. Unless I'm in another state, and he's in another and he can't get any, because he can't understand why I don't wanna leave my mother to take care of myself when the only means of eating was a cup of pudding or fruit cup from the fridge... That' pissed me off...

As far as losing it to a douche, nothing is worse to losing it to a friend who goes around telling people you cried through out the entire time, or that he was drunk. I'm still convinced he was pissed because I didn't let him pour honey all over me. Who does that, sex in real life isn't always like sex in the porn movies.

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