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 Posted: Sun Sep 14, 2008 1:08 pm
I know this has nothing to do with the occult or how it affects my life....is it okay to write random problems going on in our lives in this forum? I hope someone could give me a bit of advice...
A "friend" of mine - I used to like him over a year ago, found out he was with another girl while he was telling me he loved me, a huge long story there. He was a jerk. But for some reason, I still wanted to be friends. Maybe I'm an idiot. I don't know, but I'd like to say we're friends. The last time we really talked was half a year ago, but a few days ago I got a message on Facebook. Some random guy sent me a message, asking for help. He told me that this friend of mine had stolen $30,000 worth of computers and stuff from his family not too long ago, and there is a reward of $2000 to anyone who can locate him. I looked all through the newspapers and saw nothing, so I had to ask - the guy said that the police are involved, but had asked not to have it mentioned in the papers so that my friend wouldn't think he had to run.
There is a possibility (which before this, I thought was a high one) that I will see this friend next weekend. I've already sent him a message on Facebook to get a hold of me, because I wanted to know if it was true, and why he would do something like that.....
I just wonder - what would any of you do? Would you turn him over to the police? Try to get him to give himself up? I'm not that close to him anymore, but I still care about him, and I don't want to feel like I'm betraying him, despite the circumstances. Am I just too sympathetic with him?
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:00 pm
I would suggest talking to him about turning himself in, and what consequences lay ahead of him. Being that your obligation to your moral system, your friends, and your community are in conflict with one another, I recommend letting things work themselves out. Whether he gets caught or not, it is still and plus and a minus to you, so don't work towards either. Be there to give him advice, but don't encourage what he's doing. Don't give him too stern a lecture or he may sever communication with you, and you are no help to him then either.
The money is tempting, and in a societal perspective, turning him in is the right thing to do, but if you will feel guilty, sacrifice the money and let it all slide right by you. There is never a good enough reason for you to act in a way to create self hatred, imo.
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 5:15 pm
Thanks. The money is tempting when you think about me going to university and having to take out loans just to be there....money is always an issue when going to school... but for some reason it isn't tempting when I think about the way I'm getting that money. I think you're right. I just got a reply from him and sent him back a message just telling him about what I heard and asking for the truth...reassuring him that I still want to be friends, too... even though we weren't close. So yeah, I'm just hoping for a reply. I don't know if he'll tell me he didn't steal it, or if he will tell me that he did. I don't know if he will be lying if he tells me that he didn't steal it, I'm sure any sane person would deny it, but any guilty or ....truthful? ...still-caring-about-me-and-my-feelings-regarding-the-truth? person, would tell me the truth. So I'll just wait and see, and hope for the best either way. Thank you for the advice, it certainly helps me out a lot.
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Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 1:26 pm
Hey, any time. I'm glad to be able to help.
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Posted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 6:14 pm
To let you know what happened, I've managed to talk with my friend. He tells me that he didn't do it, but that last year someone stile his wallet with his ID and everything in it, so it's possible that someone was posing as him. It's also possible that there is someone with the same name as his, who had committed the crime. I don't know yet, but I'm still hoping that all goes well.
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 12:02 am
Just tell the friend that he can go to the police. If he didn't do it then any evidence they have on the case will show that he's not connected to it. If he's innocent then there is nothing to fear about what comes from his stepping forward.
But if it turns out he's guilty.
Then he should be turned in to the authorities. If he doesn't come clean on his own and you do have a strong feeling about his actions. Then turn him over and collect the money.
It would be worse if injustice continued any further.
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 3:51 pm
Haha I had forgotten that I had mentioned this here!
Well, the story ends like this: the cops were on his tail and most likely threw him in jail. And Mistreena lived happily ever after; The End.
Thanks for all the advice and well wishes guys!
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