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 Posted: Tue Sep 23, 2008 10:42 pm
This thread is not only for parents but non parents!
This is purely about the stigma some parents face because of their tattoos.
When i was a kid like all parents mine made sure i didnt 'fall into the wrong crowd'
This crowd included a friend i had, whose mother had a snake tattooed around her wrist. My parents saw this as trashy and would never let me hang out with the girl because of it.
Though now they know better than to judge someone on their looks, they did it hard as as me and my siblings were growing up.
Discuss:
* Are you a parent who knows other judgmental parents wont let their kids play with yours?
Are you a son or daughter who was raised like me?
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 10:26 am
++Yeah, I have been on the receiving end of that judgment. Many many times. I guess, I am an original, white trailer trash, tattooed and rednecked Texan (oh well, I was and still am proud of it). We couldn't take the kids swimming without people staring, whispering, and even walking way around us.
++Most of my tattoos were hidden just about all of the time, a t-shirt and shorts would cover 95% of my stuff. So that helped the girls some, I think.
++Back then tattooed people were treated like any minority, with great prejudice. It's better today, but still not where it should be.
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 1:03 pm
lol I have a friend [who's old enough to be my mom] who just recently went with her daughter to get a tattoo. Her daughter got her son's name in a teddy bear on her ankle, and my friend got Winnie the Pooh on her ankle.
Ok, so here's why I laugh; 1. Pooh was her first tat ever, 2. She went with her daughter [who got her first tat, too], and 3. These are two very straight-laced people I'm talking about.
It's difficult to find someone that isn't tattooed nowadays. I mean, a friend of mine's mom has tons of tattoos [all of which small], and my parents don't really care. lol "To each their own." The general manager at my job was even talking about getting tattooed and he's in his mid-50s. lol
And I have a little girl and my husband and myself are both tattooed. I get the odd look from time to time, but who cares really? >w< I mean, the only visible tattoo that I have [at the moment] is a name of someone that I lost that means a lot to me, so screw them if they judge me! It's my waas of memorializing someone special, and if they don't understand and don't want to that's not my problem.
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 3:11 pm
I'm lucky, in the UK no-one cares about tattoos much except the elderly generation, my dad has tattoos, I have tattoos, my fiance is getting his first tattoo soon (to commemorate the birth of our baby boy) I am also lucky in that I have a severe attitude problem and don't care what people think of me, my child will be raised to judge people on who they are, not what they are or what they look like, just as I was. People can stare and whisper all they want, I don't care and I already shouted at some woman outside my doctors surgery yesterday for giving my (sleeping peacefully in his pram) baby a dirty look because she couldnt see a ring on my finger, so if anyone has a problem then I'm sure I can handle it!
(fingers are still swollen up due to heat and recent pregnancy and I can't fit ANY of my rings on yet, let alone my engagement ring!)
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:50 pm
I think it is well know around this guild that I am a mom and grandma. All my kids are members here. Anyway, I have only recently gotten tattoos, like 4 years ago to be exact. But, I haven't had any problems with any other parents because of them. I wouldn't care if they had a problem anyway and neither would my kids or their friends. All of my kids friends think that my husband and I are the cool parents. We never condone or allow anything illegal, but we listen and respect their privacy. Some of their friends are of legal age and have gotten tattoos and haven't shown their parents, but come and show us right after getting them done. It is so sad when people judge and shun or think that someone is going to amount to nothing if they have tattoos.
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 6:48 pm
Granny E ++Yeah, I have been on the receiving end of that judgment. Many many times. I guess, I am an original, white trailer trash, tattooed and rednecked Texan (oh well, I was and still am proud of it). We couldn't take the kids swimming without people staring, whispering, and even walking way around us.
++Most of my tattoos were hidden just about all of the time, a t-shirt and shorts would cover 95% of my stuff. So that helped the girls some, I think.
++Back then tattooed people were treated like any minority, with great prejudice. It's better today, but still not where it should be. I live in a modular home emo But its okay, i'd rather live in a modular home than under a bridge. LAWL, i'd like to see someone call you white trash, they would soo regret that after seeing your hubby Your husband looks like he can do some damage if agitated O.o Then again at 400 pounds my dad looks scary too, but hes a teddy bear. ^^
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Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 11:51 am
PiercedPixie2 LAWL, i'd like to see someone call you white trash, they would soo regret that after seeing your hubby Your husband looks like he can do some damage if agitated O.o Then again at 400 pounds my dad looks scary too, but hes a teddy bear. ^^ LOL, well my hubby ain't a big guy (he does have a belly on him) I think he weights 180 lbs, and is 5 ft 6in. He is extremely laid back and it is very hard to get him angry, EXCEPT when it comes to his family. His blood lines run to Scottish and Cherokee so yeah when provoked he can have a temper. and 99% of the really big guys I have ever met are teddy bears. wink
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Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 1:49 am
I grew up in a tiny little village called Waitakere and tattoos where widely accepted. Usually the kind of people that would turn their nose to tats and peircings were the people that were avoided. It was a rare little oasis where people were judged by their actions and not their outward appearance. Also with a few traditional maori people living around one or two with moko and one old guy with traditional scarification tattoos and body modification weren't treated with the same kind of social stigma as other places. Theyre were still far rarer than they are these days but they were still something to be admired. Although neither of my parents are tattooed they were for tattoos and even went out of their way to introduce me to tattooing, just like any other thing in life a parent would show their kids.
I like to think that this kind of attitude should be more wide spread and not just for tattoos... It was an attitude adopted for people or other ethnic decent or people with some kind of significant scarring. Its too widely accepted to shun different appearances and I love that my home town was never affected like this and so neither was I.
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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 12:18 pm
duquie I grew up in a tiny little village called Waitakere and tattoos where widely accepted. Usually the kind of people that would turn their nose to tats and peircings were the people that were avoided. It was a rare little oasis where people were judged by their actions and not their outward appearance. Also with a few traditional maori people living around one or two with moko and one old guy with traditional scarification tattoos and body modification weren't treated with the same kind of social stigma as other places. Theyre were still far rarer than they are these days but they were still something to be admired. Although neither of my parents are tattooed they were for tattoos and even went out of their way to introduce me to tattooing, just like any other thing in life a parent would show their kids. I like to think that this kind of attitude should be more wide spread and not just for tattoos... It was an attitude adopted for people or other ethnic decent or people with some kind of significant scarring. Its too widely accepted to shun different appearances and I love that my home town was never affected like this and so neither was I. You are so lucky to live in NZ dude n.n Your country still has cool indigenous people, America doesn't.. Ive read about the Maori people, and how the women tattoo their lips and chin black, SO cool!
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 7:09 am
My mother came home with a tattoo one day when I was young... Up until that point I had despised tattoos... and I was only about five-eight years old! But as soon as I saw it I wanted one for myself. Sadly, she keeps hers hidden even though they are large. Like I stated in an earlier reply... she thinks women should have petite feminine tattoos that are hidden. BOO ON THAT!!! I wish she'd get a wrist one at least, but she won't crying
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Posted: Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:42 pm
Hehe, my mom has 8 tattoos. Her largest ones are her armpieces; each is about 8 inches from top to bottom, and about 5 across (she's got large arms).
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Posted: Sun Oct 12, 2008 2:02 pm
My son gets treated differently at the playground because of me.
I live in low-income housing, which is great... and now that the kids are used to us (because we recently moved here) they don't give trent such a hard time.
i think it just sort of shocked this little community when my kids and i moved in because everyone else here for the most part is more reserved i guess.
thought to be honest, i don't blame my tattoo because most of the other mom's here have one or two. i think its more because of how we look outwardly, such as my ever-constant changing hair color/style... the way i dress, the way my kids are dressed... that kind of stuff.
i know trent was picked on a lot because of his mohawk...
i even asked if he wanted me to shave it off (he picked it out... he wants hair like his dad)
he said no... that he didn't care. he knew he was cool and he likes playing alone better anyway.
luckily, everyone's pretty much over that now and they'll play with him.
i shudder to think what it will be like when he starts grade school though.
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Posted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 8:00 pm
my dad got his first when i was around 10.
it was taz on his shoulder, so i liked it immediately.
none of my friend's parents really minded that he had it.
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Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2008 2:02 pm
My mom got her first tattoo when I was 12. I had always wanted one so it wasn't a big deal. Now she has 8 and they are all really large and visible depending on what she wears.
My piercer has many tattoos. Her most visible is her chestpiece of her son's handprint inside a heart with wings and his name. She has many facial piercings and dyed hair. She has a tattoo in her bicep and several others. When people see her they give her the worst looks and automatically assume she is a horrible parent and it irritates me.
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:56 pm
Personally I think fathers have a much easier time socially with tattoos than mothers do...those few people who's seen my tattoos and piercings tend not to say much about it.
as far as my parents went, tattoos weren't really something that was ever talked about (one way or the other) when i was young (late 70s-early 80s) not nearly as many "normal" people had tattoos. in fact up until middle school i think i had seen less than a dozen tattoos in my life.
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