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 Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:31 pm
So. Here's my situation. I've been dating the same girl for about... 3 years. Well, would have been 3 years in a week or so but a few weeks ago, she broke up with me. Early on in the relationship, I ******** up. Drama and generaly shitty things were happening in my life, and for whatever moronic immature reason I took some of it out on her. I never hit her or cheated on her mind you, I was just a d**k. We dated on and off for the first year, I couldn't explain why but I was drawn to her and couldn't get away from it.
Then around the time our year aniversary hit, I fell in love with her. I couldn't tell her because I was still afraid of that kind of comitment, but the feeling was there. I can't tell you the next bit of the story, but by the time I finally did tell her I loved her, it was to late. Yeah she was still in love with me but damage had been done.
Things went on and on, sometimes we'd take a break from dating, or flat out break up, but it never lasted more than a week. We always ended up circling back to eachother. And with each day I was falling harder and harder for her.
Back in may, my parents lost thier house. That's why I ended up moving in with Becca (gf) even though at the time we were broken up. She had offered to give me a place to stay while I get on my feet and such. So I did, and within a week of me living here, we were dating again and I was the happiest I've been in years. Here I was actualy getting to LIVE with the girl I'm in love with. I could see her any time I wanted, hear her voice any time I wanted, hold her any time I wanted. I was counting the days til winter when the nights would get cold and we could cuddle up outside.
Then during august.. I don't know... Things just changed. We started fighting more, things that were dead and burried croped up like zombies and caused huge problems with us. We were snippy some days, affectionate lovers the next.
Then about 3-4 weeks ago... She got called in to work on a day she -really- wanted a day off. She was having a bad week, and a very bad day. Then it got worse when she found out she had to stay longer at work. She called me to tell me she'd be home late and said "i love you joe" for the first time in days. Of course being a moron, I made a joke about it, and she sounded really hurt when she told me not to joke like that. So I said I'm sorry and told her I love her too and cant wat to see her.
When she got home, she took me outside which was a bad sign. After many tears, she told me it was over. The s**t I'd done before had eaten away at her for to long now, she admited that part of her really hated me for what I'd put her through. To much for her to forgive...
Weeks later she seems to have totaly moved on, like she's been falling out of love with me for months. We rarely spend any time together even though we're still living together, and I think she's already looking at a new guy in the way she used to look at me.
So.. At first I tried to be tough, stay here and try to get things done, be brave. But then I saw what looked like her kissing another guy, but she swears she wasnt (i believe her) and I broke down all over again and decided then and there that I couldn't take this, I needed to move out. So tomorow (sunday) i'm moving back in with some relatives.
Problem is, I feel like s**t. I feel like I'm abandoning the love of my life, giving up on her way to easily. Sure I've tried various things to win her back, but none of them worked. At this point I'd give anything to get back with her, I even offered to give up the internet for her. I was willing to right then and there delete all my accounts,all emails, even get rid of my gaia account. But it wasn't enough.
So here I sit. I'm alone, she's out with her new 'friend'. I had a chance to go out but I had hoped that because this was my last day here, she'd spend the afternoon with me. That's why I ended up typing this novel to you guys, I know it's emo and bitchy but I really had to let someone know.
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Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:37 pm
So now... I feel like I chose the internet over the love of my life... So I may be giving up the gaia here soon. It really depends on how things go after I move in with my relatives. I've been on here for way to long anyway...
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Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 5:36 pm
Why would you give up the internet? Have you been obsessive over it and she was jealous or you just want to do something really drastic to show her how much you care?
But I'm bad about relationship advice, I don't get attached enough to people to be absolutly devistated if something happened. I mean, I'd be sad and everything but I'd get over it really fast. Yeah.
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Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 8:14 am
Prince_Endymion So now... I feel like I chose the internet over the love of my life... So I may be giving up the gaia here soon. It really depends on how things go after I move in with my relatives. I've been on here for way to long anyway... I have The same Problem, almost Identical I will tell the story when I get done working out! I am Seriousily going to try to get into the Air Force or the Marine Corps, (Preferably the Air Force Officer training is Superior). So I needs to lose weight! Please Prince dun leave us. You my Homie! But, My problem is EXTREMELY Similar, and I can relate, again I'll post it when I am done working out. I like you may need help with it so, Fellow RHGers Stay tuned....
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Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 3:15 pm
Mostly I just wanted to do something drastic to get her attention, show her I was serios about her. Still am, but I kissed her today and when I pulled away she had a wierd look in her eyes. It was a willing kiss mind you.
@ Sith: The airforce is indeed a better branch but you should know that they're going through cut backs so it may be a little harder to join than normal. But still, the risk is deffinetly worth the reward. B-) Not to mention I do believe airforce basic training is here in my home town. As for your own issues... I'll prey for you if you're seriosly in the same boat as me.
And As for leaving, we'll see by the end of the week. Depends how my job hunting and such goes.
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Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 9:09 pm
<.< Would Gler be the third alpha male? If so, Gler isn't really an alpha male. XD Anyways...
@Prince:
I'm sorry, man, but from how it looks to Gler... It's over. Nearly three years of love and loss, pain and patches. It's not a good sign that things would work out in the long run. I hate to say, but you may have messed up one too many times. A man's stupidity can royally screw him over at times. (Most men know this, including Gler, firsthand.) It's not going to be worth the fight to win her back. If you do manage to win her back somehow, you're just gonna end up right where you started, full circle. She's not worth the effort. Look, it's going to be painful, it's going to take a while, but you're going to have to get over her. Moving might be a great opportunity to get your mind off of her. Change of scenery, etc. etc. You just need to stop, and let go of her.
@Steve:
Stop trying to contact her. It's useless at this point. There obviously is a barrier, and you can't get in. She may "like" you, but at this point, you need to stop trying to contact her. Maybe send her one last message, saying that you're going to stop, and that if she wants to hear from you again, she's going to have to contact you. Maybe even try looking at other girls? (...except for sasquatch girl. ew. it seems your friend is insulting you, insisting that you two go out.) Also, in terms of everything else, just hang in there, pal! It's always darkest before dawn, and if you look at the clock, it will move slower, out of spite. And as for your comedy routine, don't be like Bob Saget. lol Hmm... for ideas, you may want to try listening to some Rodney Dangerfield. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Oct 20, 2008 4:26 am
Gler <.< Would Gler be the third alpha male? If so, Gler isn't really an alpha male. XD Anyways... That'd be correct! Gler
@Steve:
Stop trying to contact her. It's useless at this point. There obviously is a barrier, and you can't get in. She may "like" you, but at this point, you need to stop trying to contact her. Maybe send her one last message, saying that you're going to stop, and that if she wants to hear from you again, she's going to have to contact you. Maybe even try looking at other girls? (...except for sasquatch girl. ew. it seems your friend is insulting you, insisting that you two go out.) Also, in terms of everything else, just hang in there, pal! It's always darkest before dawn, and if you look at the clock, it will move slower, out of spite. And as for your comedy routine, don't be like Bob Saget. lol Hmm... for ideas, you may want to try listening to some Rodney Dangerfield. 3nodding Sam Kinison I haven't been calling her at all for a week and a half. I'll try December/Januaryish other girls, kinda sorta doing this one thing for a girl at the republican club, but eh? I feel as if she dumped me, I was close..... My friend Carl told me to do the same thing you told me but be more ruder. As for me getting a good night of sleep ever...... When Skool is over I AM HAVING ONE DAY WHERE I JUST SLEEP, or Sit.... Prince's situation I wouldn't say it is over, and never say die!
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Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 4:47 pm
Prince_Endymion So. Here's my situation. I've been dating the same girl for about... 3 years. Well, would have been 3 years in a week or so but a few weeks ago, she broke up with me. Early on in the relationship, I ******** up. Drama and generaly shitty things were happening in my life, and for whatever moronic immature reason I took some of it out on her. I never hit her or cheated on her mind you, I was just a d**k. We dated on and off for the first year, I couldn't explain why but I was drawn to her and couldn't get away from it. Then around the time our year aniversary hit, I fell in love with her. I couldn't tell her because I was still afraid of that kind of comitment, but the feeling was there. I can't tell you the next bit of the story, but by the time I finally did tell her I loved her, it was to late. Yeah she was still in love with me but damage had been done. Things went on and on, sometimes we'd take a break from dating, or flat out break up, but it never lasted more than a week. We always ended up circling back to eachother. And with each day I was falling harder and harder for her. Back in may, my parents lost thier house. That's why I ended up moving in with Becca (gf) even though at the time we were broken up. She had offered to give me a place to stay while I get on my feet and such. So I did, and within a week of me living here, we were dating again and I was the happiest I've been in years. Here I was actualy getting to LIVE with the girl I'm in love with. I could see her any time I wanted, hear her voice any time I wanted, hold her any time I wanted. I was counting the days til winter when the nights would get cold and we could cuddle up outside. Then during august.. I don't know... Things just changed. We started fighting more, things that were dead and burried croped up like zombies and caused huge problems with us. We were snippy some days, affectionate lovers the next. Then about 3-4 weeks ago... She got called in to work on a day she -really- wanted a day off. She was having a bad week, and a very bad day. Then it got worse when she found out she had to stay longer at work. She called me to tell me she'd be home late and said "i love you joe" for the first time in days. Of course being a moron, I made a joke about it, and she sounded really hurt when she told me not to joke like that. So I said I'm sorry and told her I love her too and cant wat to see her. When she got home, she took me outside which was a bad sign. After many tears, she told me it was over. The s**t I'd done before had eaten away at her for to long now, she admited that part of her really hated me for what I'd put her through. To much for her to forgive... Weeks later she seems to have totaly moved on, like she's been falling out of love with me for months. We rarely spend any time together even though we're still living together, and I think she's already looking at a new guy in the way she used to look at me. So.. At first I tried to be tough, stay here and try to get things done, be brave. But then I saw what looked like her kissing another guy, but she swears she wasnt (i believe her) and I broke down all over again and decided then and there that I couldn't take this, I needed to move out. So tomorow (sunday) i'm moving back in with some relatives. Problem is, I feel like s**t. I feel like I'm abandoning the love of my life, giving up on her way to easily. Sure I've tried various things to win her back, but none of them worked. At this point I'd give anything to get back with her, I even offered to give up the internet for her. I was willing to right then and there delete all my accounts,all emails, even get rid of my gaia account. But it wasn't enough. So here I sit. I'm alone, she's out with her new 'friend'. I had a chance to go out but I had hoped that because this was my last day here, she'd spend the afternoon with me. That's why I ended up typing this novel to you guys, I know it's emo and bitchy but I really had to let someone know.
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Posted: Wed Dec 03, 2008 5:40 pm
Ok so here's what's happening.
The national guard is draging it's feet, i doubt i'll get in at this point.
I've got a job and a cell, but i'm having to move again so i may have to quit and give up the cell.
My ex still wont take me, but her best friend gave me a secret email saying that if i get my life together and more or less stop talking to girls online, i'd have a chance.
So... I'm going to quit gaia. I'm never on anyway. I'm really going to miss you guys, I really consider yall good friends.
It'll take me about a week or so to get everything in order. I'm going ot give a few special items to people chose a while back, then i'll likely give broken my password and let her decide which of yall gets what. I want the guildmembers to have access to the bulk of them.
if yall want to keep in contact with me here's a few good ways that will work for a while:
myspace: www.myspace.com/devilduckhunter
msn: im_just_here_for_the_food@hotmail.com
yahoo: touch_zee_sky
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Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 4:14 am
The very thing you strive for ... I feel terribly helpless.
I'm bad at this kind of stuff.
Prince, if you ever feel the need to come back, there'll always be a place for you.
We'll miss you.
U_U ... is the thing that makes you blind
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Posted: Sun Dec 07, 2008 12:37 pm
K I'm poofing now.
smile It was really nice knowing you guys, yall were all good friends. Thanks for that.
lol And yeah, If I ever decide to come back to gaia this is going to be the first place i head.
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Posted: Mon Feb 23, 2009 3:59 pm
Wow, I just about cried reading through all this. I know i'm too late to help, and that i've been a b***h for just giving up on you guys.
But I figure I might as well give you what little advice I have on this issue, just because of what Sith said about me having excellent advice, which is a compliment I don't typically receive and so yeah... it meant a lot.
You aren't putting the internet over her. It's just a side interest you have. If you were willing to flat out drop it for her, then obviously she is your first priority.
I hate doing this, but I'm of a similiar opinion as Gler. You did the right thing by moving out. And i'd suggest you have minimal contact for at least a month, if you do happen to run into her be nice and sincere, but don't beg for her to come back, and don't be a d**k. Because both of those are just going to hurt both you, and her more than you guys already are.
When you get used to being out of a relationship again you'll be better. You're young and there is always another day, you've got to "Seize the moment" and go for what you want. But you have to be sure you are thinking straight, with your head and not your heart, before you do any of that seizing.
And once your head is working right again... then you can let your heart do some seizing too.
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