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Sometimes the easiest way to relax, and gain confidence is to have a full understanding and acceptance's that falling off happens...and if it does (God forbid) that you can be resilient enough to get back on and show you trainer and horse that 'hey I may fall sometimes, but that doesn't mean I cant get back on.'

Another thing could be if you ride the same horse regularly then maybe you can flat for a while. Use cavalletis, and ground poles to get used to the basic jumping feeling. Once your confident over those, and can easily pick you distances (lengthen shorten stay the same) to poles and cavalettis then try small cross rails.

If you set your self up with the best foundation of fundamentals, that alone will give you the confidence and skill you need. Then all you have to do is connect the dots.

Sometimes confidence is as easy as trusting you trainer, and you horse enough.

I hope this was of help to you... sweatdrop

Oh and I was going to clarify what I meant by lengthen, shorten, stay the same) You may know this just worded different. When you approach the jump theres always that ideal take off spot. Weather you have to lengthen, shorten, or maintain your stride to hit that spot without chipping, or having to take a huge distance is what I'm talking about.

And an easy way to practice this is by setting three or four poles, set ideally for the canter. And approach them counting (1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,1,2,3 ect.) or you can sing row row row your boat for a medium stride, 99 bottles of bear for a longer stride, or twinkle twinkle little star for a shorter stride. About five stride before the first pole call out weather you think you need to lengthen shorten or stay the same then either hold, maintain, or press and see if your horse knocks a pole or makes it. This is a fun thing to test but over extending, and extreme shortening just to see how much horse you really have.

Oh and if you set up two sets of the four poles on the diagonal you could do a fun figure eight.