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 Posted: Sat Jan 31, 2009 7:23 pm
I am looking for advice on a relationship level. My boyfriend knows I am wiccan and accepts it. His family isn't too religous, but I know they're Christians.
We celebrated Christmas with them, but I was too shy to let them know that I don't celebrate Christmas.. I prefer Yule. I let it go because Christmas is so corporate, and about family time anyway, but I've always wanted to raise my child to believe as I do, about the God and Goddess.
My question is, does anyone else have Christian in-laws, and how did you open up about your beliefs? did they accept them, or shun you... cause I really like these people... and I really don't want to ruin our relationship because I am a "witch."
I've always kept my religion to myself. (practicing solo for 9 years.)
Is now the right time to let it out of the bag? My daughter is only an infant... So I have a few years before she will even find out...
Does anyone have this dilemma?
I just don't want to *pretend* I'm Christian for someone else's acceptance... Ya know?
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 12:11 pm
you should never have to pretend your something your not. My motehr is catholic, my father is "spiritual", my grandparents are moderately closed minded catholics (If I told them I was wiccan flat out they'd have a heart attack but they did very well accepting my black handfasting dress and the possibility my wedding gown will not be white) and my aunt is baptist...
Now I told my parents flat out I didn't want to be catholic when I was forced to go to a catholic school in grade 6 and got in HUGE amounts of trouble (mind you it was nothing compared to telling my mother I was more interested in women then men...) But as I am now an adult witha family my mother and family have accepted that I am wiccan and they even help us to celebrate our holidays. (with the use of their house as apoosed to my apartment, mostly their firepit and garden)
What I think you should do is asses the situation, talk to you boyfriend about how to best approach your new family. I personally celebrate both sets of holidays, we celebrate christmas and easter with my parents and my parents-in-law and we celebrate all teh wiccan holidays together as our own family. Mind you as your child is only an infant you may not find the time or energy to celebrate even your own birthdya until she is a toddler, I didn't at least lol. Which could give you the extra time to prepare yourself.
If your new family has a hard time excepting just break the new to them lightly that you believe in god but also in a goddess, you believe in the holy trinity (thats what i tell my hardcore christian family, because the goddess is a holy trinity) and you will always celebrate with them but you sometimes may be busy celebrating additional holidays. after that you don't need to bring it up EVER again unless they inquire about your religion(which is a huge step for them and very good prgress so take it slow and be very gentle) or if they invite you ovdr on a holiday which you can politely decline witha simple "I'm sorry but we're celebrating spring that day" sort of thing.
I hope that helps some
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Danae Song Moonchild Crew
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Posted: Sat May 02, 2009 12:17 pm
My husband is Druid, and I am an eclectic pagan, but his family is Mormon and mine is primarily southern baptist. My family doesn't know about my religion, but his family does. I guess it's just a matter of whether you feel comfortable enough with these people and whether or not you feel as though they would be accepting of your religion. I don't tell my family because of their general location (Bible Belt), but I don't pretend to be christian either. When they ask me to attend church, if I don't want to, I simply tell them thank you, but there are other things I need to do. The only one on my side of the family that knows my true religion is my mother, and she, being non practicing of any religion herself, does not mind, nor does she talk about it. Ultimately, it's at your discretion whether or not you let others know. I have the symbol of the Ankh tattooed on my chest, where others can rightly see it. Most don't understand what it is, or what it means, but if they ask, I tell them.
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