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 Posted: Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:33 am
Dedrick has started a new phase and it's driving me nuts.
He now refuses to eat a lot of the things that he used to really like. I was so proud of my son because he would eat things you wouldn't imagine a child his age eating. Now all he wants is junk food. Which isn't how I have ever fed him. On top of that he's picked up a habit of sneaking food between lunch and dinner no matter how big his lunch is. I've had to start putting bead up where he can't reach it. I hide the cheese in the fridge. I have to go down stairs to do laundry and he gets into the food while I'm gone.
I feed him a nice lunch too. Yesterday he had grilled cheese sandwiches and soup. When he sneaks the food he doesn't eat dinner. =/ Then when it's almost time for bed he's suddenly starving. >_<
He fights me on everything. From getting ready for school to getting ready for bed. He used to be really good about getting things done the first time I tell him, but now you have to do a timer and then take away privileges to get him to do even the things he's already expected to do.
On top of that he's been pinning his sister to the floor lately. Greg tells me he caught him dragging Lily off the couch one day. (Greg likes to put Lily on the couch.)
Is this normal? What can I do? I've tried time out. I've tried talking to him. I'm trying to talk with Greg because he's been taking this the way his parents would. Which is not how I want him to. When you call a child stupid you don't realize how much it affects them. =/
I'm just at a loss and have no idea what to do with him.
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Posted: Wed Feb 18, 2009 9:37 pm
You know, as for the wont eat food thing I recommend the Sneaky Chef, its a good book and if it works on my hubby it will work on kids!
As for him getting food my mom use to lock the fridge on us, she also punished us if we got things without asking. It works but maybe telling him why he can't eat it will help.
Pulling the other child off the couch is grounds for Time out and punishments. D:
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Posted: Mon Feb 23, 2009 12:01 pm
Is the aggression something new? When small children are unhappy about something, or had something happen, they often have a personality change. Couldn't hurt to talk to him and make sure everything is OK with school and at home. It could also be jealousy in regards to his sister. If he's been feeling ignored or that he's always in trouble and she's not, he may be taking it out on her.
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Posted: Mon Feb 23, 2009 3:49 pm
I know this won't be popular, but is there a way to lock off the kitchen so he can't get in there. I also do not cater foodwise. My kids know if they don't eat what's given, they don't eat--period. It sounds bad, but they never starve, and generally 9 times out of 10 they end up finishing their food. Do you offer like a dessert afterwards perhaps?
As for Greg calling him stupid, that's not cool in the slightest. I understand that it's a new frontier to him, but I think he needs to realize that you both need to be on the same page.
I would definitely see if there's been any changes at school, if there's something bothering him, etc. The school maybe able to offer some type of service to assist you. I know once Liam started getting mobile, it did change some dynamics in their relationship.
Also, how often does he get just mommy time?
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Posted: Tue Feb 24, 2009 4:13 pm
Right now with scheduling Dedrick doesn't often get time to just me. Greg takes him out on errands. He's actually improved his behavior toward Lily since Greg started taking him shopping. He started acting like this when Greg started school. We think it's because he misses Greg.
I'm trying to teach Greg that the way his family parents is not cool. Calling their children stupid and making comments about hiking up their skirt is not cool.
I think part of it is Lily becoming more mobile too. He has this thing about trying to take care of her even though she's almost his size.
I'm going to get a fridge lock tomorrow when I go shopping. I've put the bread and other snacky things out of his reach.
Dedrick has always been a bit aggressive toward Lily, but Lily is very aggressive in her own right. I'm taking things one day at a time.
We do time limits on him getting ready for things now and if he isn't finished when the time is up he loses a privilege. Like bed time story or helping take care of the chickens. That's what his teacher suggested because that's what they've started doing at school with him.
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Posted: Tue May 05, 2009 6:22 pm
For the child who refuses to eat!!!! If this isn't resolved yet, I have something you can try! My 9 month old just out of the blew decided to shake her head and refuse to eat! It got soooo frustrating, b/c I'm trying to ween her off the bottles and into eating more solids. I finally got fed up and started researching. I found out that if you let your child be a part of "feeding time" they'll be more susceptible to eat.
Ex-
Let him hold the top of the food jar while he eats,
Give him his own spoon to play with,
Lay finger foods on his high chair to pick @ while you're feeding him
Trust me! It works!
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