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So I've been thinking about having sex.

My body wants to and I'm tired of fighting it.
Absence and masturbation just aren't cutting it.

I've got some one who's willing to help me out.

But he's a guy.

I identify as Lesbian.

And I am attracted to women mostly when looking for a relationship.

But for this I don't want a relationship.

Just pure ruthless heart pounding sex.

So my issue.

I'm 16.
And i know i shouldn't, but I've stopped caring.

So i ask all.

How do i have sex without having a baby?

Disease is not an issue. I know he doesn't have one. I've blown him a couple of times now.

I'm not on birth control and of course we'll use a condom, but I don't trust just that.

Discuss:
Forms of contraception
What I should or Shouldn't do.
What you've done.

Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit - Checklist
Or 'Things to consider to help you decide if you're ready for sex'
3rd Edition! | NB: In this article, sex refers to all sexual activity.

- Gynecologist or GP appointment
Before you have sex, both you and your partner/s should have general check-ups and be tested for STIs, even if you've never been sexually active before (many STIs can be picked up in other ways, and can lie dormant).
Continue to have check-ups once or even twice a year, particularly if you have multiple partners. Make sure you have transport to the doctors or a Planned Parenthood Centre (which offers cheap or free services & supplies). Take someone you trust with you if you're feeling nervous. Remember: always be totally honest with your doctor.


- Emotional Stability
Are you sure you want to have sex? Are you in a stable frame of mind at the moment? Can you deal with emotional/physical consequences of sex? Have you got an open, honest relationship with your partner? Supportive friends and family? Check out this article: Safer Sex for your Heart

- Plan B
Do you have access to the morning-after pill, if the condom breaks? What about pregnancy tests? Have you made decisions together about what you will do in the case of pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Infection?

- Money
You're going to need cash to fill your safer sex toolkit (with items you can find at the supermarket, pharmacy and doctor's surgery ), and to cover you in case of emergency. Do you have a steady income?


Safer Sex Toolkit
Which of the following suit you and your partner's needs? Make sure you know where to get them and how to use them.

- Condoms
Help prevent contraction of sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) during vaginal intercourse, a**l sex, fellatio (oral sex on a man) and when sharing dildos. Help prevent pregnancy during intercourse.
- NB: Spermicidal condoms are NOT recommended. They can irritate the vulva/v****a, and increase the chance of urinary tract infections in women.
- NB: Flavoured condoms are for oral sex ONLY; they will encourage infections in the v****a if used during intercourse.

- Latex gloves
Manual sex involves using the hands to stimulate the genitals. If you have rough skin, wounds (cuts, scratches, warts) or long nails, you could easily hurt your partner. Latex (or an alternative like vinyl if you're allergic) gloves can solve this problem! Also, really handy for play during menstruation!

- Dental dams
This thin sheath of latex protects against STIs during cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman, 'going down') and analingus/rimming (oral stimulation of the a**s). A cut open condom or latex glove will also suffice. Despite myths to the contrary, oral sex does still present a risk of catching STIs (herpes, aka cold sores, particularly). Also, really handy for play during menstruation!
By the way, Glyde makes dams in flavours - raspberry, vanilla and cola. blaugh

- Lube!
Water-based or silicon-based lube helps make entry easier during penetrative sex, helps prevent latex barriers tearing, is relaxing and keeps everything lubricated. It is essential for many couples. NB: Beware of oil-based lubricants; they break down latex and should not be used with any latex product.
True (irrelevant) story: Fizz once slurged 'tester' Strawberry Shortcake-flavoured lube all over herself at an adult store. Be careful - it's slippery. xp

- The Pill and other contraceptives
If you are sexually active in a heterosexual relationship, it's wise to consider going on the Pill or an alternative hormonal contraceptive to help prevent pregnancy. You will need to discuss possible side-effects and which contraceptive might be right for you with your doctor.


Got everything? Sure of everything? Go have fun.