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 Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2009 11:18 pm
Since growing up, I really didn't care about boyfriends or any of that stuff. But when you start growing into a teenager you start feeling lonely or wanting attention from other guys or something o.O
At least some girls are like that, but most guys are also like that as well with girls.
Not that I want attention or anything because of the fact im not interested in any of the guys here, but it just confuses me why we must think that way and what our mind wants. Really you have no clue, am I correct? You just want love or a relationship neutral
Now, Why would I bring this up? It is simple. My mother and father have been married for 20 years. Then one day, my mother likes another guy and doesnt even end up being with him and divorces my father before then. So now shes stuck with nothing..
Either my dad wasnt giving her enough attention and she went for another guy or w/e their story is.. I heard thats how it happened, though.
Not only that, but all my friends are always wanting a bf in their life continuously because of the fact they feel lonely.
Now dont get me wrong, I know this all starts out with having your first boyfriend, and suddenly growing to have more in the future and all. But why do we seek attention? And how does it suddenly come around this age? Our teenage years. Must we do this in order to practice finding the real "significant other" in the future? or is it the way we humans are built?
My question is, WHY!?!?!.
is it our growing proccess? hormones? Idk, really. Cause when we were younger, none of that ever mattered and it seems to grow on us so we will have babies and have more people with certain tasks in the future.
But Love.. Relationships.. Is this real? I hardly believen it, I just believe your attracted to that person and eventually have babies so that baby will grow into someone with a reason for living, a task (I say)
What do you think about this o.O
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 5:20 am
I think...
It's practice for finding a mate, in many cases. I see a lot of 'He's hot' and 'he thinks I'm sexy.' So it's probably about insecurities, too. As we approach becoming young adults, we all got through the awkward stage of being a teenager. This means, new rules, hormones, and peer pressure.
Kids don't know what sex is, they don't force each other to get drunk, and they just want friends. As we become a teen, our whole world is flipped around, and many people become, well, scared. They feel they need to reach out, have someone understand them, and be "loved" since mommy and daddy do nothing but yell at them (usually because they're idiots and deserve it).
So, really, it's about popularity, hormones, and feeling like someone is able to understand you and care about you -- even if they don't.
I think love is real, though. It may be hard to find in typical teenage relationships as they seem to drift through the realm of superficiality, but it can be more obvious in a single mother who works herself to the bone so her kids can have a good childhood.
Love is... an emotional and mental thing. It connects people, and it helps them work through problems in the relationship. Love feeds on communication and adoration, but in return it can turn into something wonderful that is very, very real.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 1:04 pm
;Pretty much agrees with Lady's statements.; <.<;;
However, on the subject of love. Love is very, very real. But to any single person, it simply not Going to be really real until it's experienced. You can grasp the concept, but unless you really know what it's like, that's all it can be for you.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 3:59 pm
Love is real. The problem is that 99/100 of the people "in love" really aren't. It's not that true love isn't out there, but lust, companionship, power, security...all of the above are frequently mistaken for it.
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Tsume Rokaro Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 4:42 pm
I do believe that it is very real. Anytime I dare to think otherwise, I can think on an incredible relationship that my sister has. Now, there's been the debate here already about instant connections. Well, I can't really speak for her, but I can see what's there in their relationship. I know pretty much by the way she acts that it is real. (I can come from that perspective because I've literally known her all my life.)
Although, Lady be quite right on this subject, me thinks. There is that point where something shifts and well...you feel very, very lonely. It generally doesn't help that teenage years are typically the most random, complicated parts of life at times. I have seen more drama, random heartbreak, and various other things since hitting high school alone.
I know a girl who, over the course of a few months, was in and out of at least 3 relationships. She told me that she NEEDED a guy...and I couldn't seem to convince her otherwise. They've obviously not gone well...seeing as how she finds men fairly stupid now... But still. Partly it's about being lonely and partly about hormones and the like...but there is true love out there.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 8:08 pm
karasureign I do believe that it is very real. Anytime I dare to think otherwise, I can think on an incredible relationship that my sister has. Now, there's been the debate here already about instant connections. Well, I can't really speak for her, but I can see what's there in their relationship. I know pretty much by the way she acts that it is real. (I can come from that perspective because I've literally known her all my life.) Although, Lady be quite right on this subject, me thinks. There is that point where something shifts and well...you feel very, very lonely. It generally doesn't help that teenage years are typically the most random, complicated parts of life at times. I have seen more drama, random heartbreak, and various other things since hitting high school alone. I know a girl who, over the course of a few months, was in and out of at least 3 relationships. She told me that she NEEDED a guy...and I couldn't seem to convince her otherwise. They've obviously not gone well...seeing as how she finds men fairly stupid now... But still. Partly it's about being lonely and partly about hormones and the like...but there is true love out there. *blushes* Well, it wasn't really an instant connection sis. And that was for the better, in my opinion. We were friends for about two years before we starting breaching the maybe-more-than-friends barrier. That friendship provided a very good foundation for a further relationship, there are fewer stupid expections because you already know everything about eachother, though I'm always learning. I do agree with my friend Shelby on this: I truly do have a freak relationship. ^^; He and I got together in high school and now its been almost three years with almost no problems at all. Even my mother thinks its freaky. In a good way. My expirience is certainly not typical, AT ALL, but it is proof that good, steady love does exist. Though i think the best are slowly built, not instantaneous as 'true love' is always portrayed. And I know people like Tsu mentioned also. Basically I have found that this rule is typically true: the minute you stop looking, a real candidate appears. Because you are not looking, no desparation comes of it, and then your own standards are not lowered so you don't 'settle' for some one thats not worth it. That's my theory, at least.
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Tsume Rokaro Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 8:12 pm
-xXrowan_of_wonderlessXx- *blushes* Well, it wasn't really an instant connection sis. And that was for the better, in my opinion. Like I said, love. I can't really speak for you, not knowing as I am. :3
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 4:12 pm
To answer your question, Rabbit, it's how we're built, among other things.
It's partly psychological; we're driven to accept other people's affirmations of our self-worth. We're driven to have company - even little kids get lonely.
As our minds develop, new possibilities become open to us. New types of relationships develop potential in our heads, and naturally, we want to explore this.
Unfortunately, this creates new ways to become lonely inside us. Thus we seek new ways to feel not lonely.
But... I shall not parrot others and say love is real. It's been said already. One only needs to look at a mother and her child (general example) or some of my friends here. *Smiles* Have no doubt in its reality.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 3:03 am
The way I see it, it's not love when your a teenager, it's an attraction to someone because they pay attention to you, you get bored with being alone at all times, and you seek out the attention of someone who seems to have something in common with you, or just generally attractive.
I say this because of all the relationships I've been in. They have all burned and failed, and left me feeling slightly more dead inside.
Love is real, if you believe in it.
Since love is not a tangent thing, and there is no way for humans to physically feel love, or capture it or any other such thing, we cannot be completely sure of it's existence. It is like God, in more ways than one.
If you believe in love, you will feel good and happy and yeah, and you'll probably take things more optimistically. But that's just a guess. I have no proof of that. In fact I have proof of just the opposite, but it was a special case, in which I think this is not.
To summarize what I'm saying, what teenagers define as love, and what adults define as love, can vary, but it's different for everyone. Since love is non-physical, for it is an emotion or feeling, we as humans can never be sure of it's existance. But whether you believe in love might change your outlook on life.
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