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 Posted: Wed Apr 08, 2009 5:55 am
So yeah, this thread is for everyone to talk about any problems you're facing in either friendship or relationship.
I may not be some certified counsellor but I do like to help people out :3
I have helped my friends through their problems so I guess I could try helping you guys.
This thread does not limit to say your problems have to be something big, like "He doesn't want to have sex, what should I do?" kind of thing, It can be a simple problem.
It does not have to be a bad issue, remember, we're all here to help you.
So if its like, "What do I get him for his birthday?" related questions is fine too!
Just to add something else, this thread is also for people who need help if they are depressed, or just sad and want to talk about it. It might be studies, or something common.
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Posted: Mon Apr 13, 2009 6:19 am
Okay first off I live on a small post overseas... im only 13 and (obviously) my dads in the military. Okay well see I go to a small school.. I mean theres sort of a lot people but not really... I am actually the only gay person I know in real life... today I heard there were like 3 10th graders but im only in 7th even if I did meet 'em which sux =[ And I feel like a freak because I don't know anyone like me in real... I know a couple people on here.... I agree with disco.. cloud is HOT!!! And it's kinda hard for me because I juss don't know a lot about it... and I hate talking to my parents about it because I know their disappointed in me =[
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 1:41 am
YAY someone replied to my thread. ok so anyway.. usually at 13, not many people know anyone else whose gay since theyre still young and don't really want to talk about it.
i dont think theres anything wrong with being gay, since its not a choice, it just happens, so dont blame yourself.
dont come out to your parents unless youre sure they wont get mad.
its stereotype, parents dont want their kids to be gay.
also dont come out to friends, unless youre sure they wont change how they look at you or treat you.
its not easy, most of us go through it.
dont get all upset alright, you dont know any gays there but here,
you can talk to us, we'll understand =D
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Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 3:56 pm
Hi, I'm sixteen, and I know for a fact that I am...different, as my mom puts it. I live in a small town, so news travels. I'm still very closeted, only my best friends know. I have a younger sister who I am very close too who is straight and I don't want her to have to go through hell because of people's ignorance. She accepts me, which is great, but some of my friends want to out me, and I don't know what I should do. I don't want to shame my family until I'm an adult and can deal with the ridicule on my own, but some of my friends just don't see how sensetive i am about the subject. What should I do?
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:16 am
Its a personal, sensitive matter so if you don't want to talk about it, its fine. It does not mean you're not being nice, or a bad person.
Does alot of people already know about you? Anyway, its not if you're not straight then you're not human or anything.
Only come out to people you know you can trust, people who would still be by you when you tell them. Because usually some people just come out to everyone and if they're parents are ignorant, they have practically no place to stay.
Don't rush it though, it may be for the best. You can come out any age you want to and don't have to talk about it just because your friends asked you to. It's your choice in the end alright, <3.
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:10 am
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Posted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 12:49 am
No problems hun, do come here again if you need anything <3
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Posted: Mon Apr 20, 2009 7:30 pm
Hey YPY.
>w>''
Fell like giving me some of that sage-ish advice??
I have a mother who is emotionally abusive. Not only to me but to everyone in her family. She's an EXCELLENT actress though and can go to "Hey Kayla!! You want to try pot??" to "No. I follow the words of Jesus". She will change her personality when ever she hangs around someone. Then she talks s**t about them and me. Since I'm a minor ((17 in July)) I can't do jack s**t about anything. No one's going to listen to the 17 year old bi polar chick when there other side is the word of a 57 year old woman who -seems- like a well rounded person. Luckily, I am currently living with my dad and I love it so much her. She hasn't called me since I cried on the phone with my dad and told him what she was saying//doing. She overheard and insult me when I called. I only called her to ask her for help because I was having a bit of a melt down. She brought up that I shouldn't talk about her ((even though I called her crying)) and bitched me out. She only want me when she want to have fun with her daughter but when I need her see isn't there.
..But really...I'm not asking what I should do about my mom. I'm asking what I should do about myself. Even though she does these thing over and over i keep letting her back into my life. ((So does the government but..eh.))
I just want a mom and I don't know where to find one....
So...um...advice??
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Posted: Mon Apr 20, 2009 7:31 pm
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Oh hey!!
Your signature is a person with sunglasses!!
I always though it was a cup of coffee...OwO''
That you??
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Posted: Tue Apr 21, 2009 1:19 am
O.o Sage-ish advice, haha! dramallama
Anyways, I'd actually say that she's still your mum and for you to love her//let her back into your life is a normal thing.
You says she's emotionally abusive, have you tried talking to her, telling her how you feel? Have you talked to anyone else? You think that people won't listen to a 17 year old, but find a teacher, or counsellor if your mum doesnt change if you already talked to her. I don't think they would want something bad to happen before doing something.
If the situation is really bad like she started to physically abuse you then i ought you stay with your dad for the time being.
You just be yourself, if you feel its right, go with it. You don't have to let her do what she is doing to you because she's your mother, that is bull.
You have us here, you don't have to bottle up anything. We are here in this guild to talk about things, to have fun, to give advice and help. No one is alone I tell ya. <3
&& Yes, that signature//picture is me :3
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Posted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 9:34 am
Okay. Well I need advice on something reaally complicated. Or at least to me it is.
I met this girl in August. And she was with another guy, but i was led to believe she wanted to be with me. She went through alot with this guy and I was always there for her. She stayed with him until Feb., all the while still telling me she liked me or whatever. We ended up actually having sex twice after they broke up. But she never said we were together. In fact, she started talking to her ex (a different guy), saying she's in love with him and that's that. That we might be together one day or we might not. But she's talking about having this guys kids and things like that. She's cheated on him already with me. (I feel bad for it now, but at the time I didn't.) He's a nice guy and I like him. It's her I have the problem with. She even told me she loved me but wasn't in love with me.
The thing that strikes me as odd the most is what she keeps saying. When she was with the first guy she said, "If I weren't with him, I'd be with you."
And now that she's back with this other guy, she said, "If it wasn't for him, we'd be together."
I really just don't know what to do at all anymore. Help..?
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Posted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 8:42 pm
How could someone say "She loves you but shes not in love with you."
That one line, and many other things you stated says that she is just playing with your feelings. She might like you as a friend, or closer, since you've been there for her when she needs someone.
But as you said, she's been seeing another guy behind your back and she's been telling you she loves in but infact she might also tell the guy "If it wasn't for her, we'd be together."
Find some place, sit down and look straight into her eyes and ask her if she really likes you. Tell her you don't want lies, or be further lied to. You don't deserve to be treated this way, neither does anyone else.
Ask her about the guy, what she says to him. It's an obvious sign she's two-timing both you and the guy.
Tell her your feelings, ask her for hers. If she does infact likes you, it will show. And if she doesn't, get on with life and don't be stuck there just because of one girl. You should stand up to her if you know whats going on already, don't be fooled by her words. She knows you like her, she might be playing with you.
Remember, if she doesn't love you the way you love her, there's no point for a relationship. Don't brood over this, get on with your life cause there are more important things to worry about. Always remember you're awesome, you can and will find someone who will love you wholeheartedly back.
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Posted: Mon Apr 27, 2009 10:11 pm
DX
I forgot about this!!
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Yea, I've talked to her sevrial times. She shuts me down each time and tell me that I'm being immature and don't get to have an opinion on what type of a mother she is. Ha! Cuz she had to put up with this "mothering" s**t all her life,right??
We've gone to therapists too and she pulls the whole "Waaaa. I try my hardest but it's never good enough. -bitchbitchwhinewhine-" then she talks about her shitty childhood and turns the whole appointment into a sob story about her. Then at the last 10-15 of the appointment I get to talk after the therapist tells her she wants to speak to me. My mom gets pissed off when I tell her what I wish she would do and then bitches at me when I don't tell her.
We actually got into a fight shortly after I posted this and we haven't talked for 3 weeks. When my dad picked me up Saturday he told me my Grandpa had passed. He died on Thursday. I didn't find out for 3 days and I had to learn it from my dad who heard it from my aunt. My mom didn't even call me to tell me my granddad passed....
I understand that that is her father but it would have been nice if she could have called me...or atleast my dad.
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Posted: Tue Apr 28, 2009 1:57 am
Do you know if anything she says is true? If not, maybe you can ask your grandparents. Try to go to the therapist on your own, talk to them and see what happens. Since you said when you go with you mum, she hogs the time there and gets angry when you tell her what you want from her.
Don't be afraif whatsoever if she's angry cause you're not in the wrong. Are you the only child? At least you have your dad to talk to. Are there any problems between your mum and anyone else? If so, she seriously sounds like someone with anger issues.
You say she likes to be 'fake' around people, cause what she says and does is totally different. Don't care if she shuts you down, continue telling her what you expect cause she's your mother. She says you don't know what type of mother she is, ask her then, what kind of mother she is. Ask her things to let her explain herself.
Sorry for your lost, hun. Hope you're feeling better already. I do think hiding your grand dad's death from you and your father is just being too much.
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Posted: Tue Apr 28, 2009 5:55 pm
Yea. I'm okay with my granddad passing on.
And thanks for the advice. It realy helped. I might try to talk to her about her parenting when I'm not totally pissed at her.
Thanks again!! :3
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