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Unless explicitly experienced firsthand, I always assume that people don't like me.

This guild? I pretty much assume that the vast majority of you don't like me.
RL? Same thing.

And it kills me, because I'm not one of those people who doesn't give a s**t about what other people think of me. I want to be likable. I know I'm a good, smart, sometimes-funny person, but I feel like very few people give me the chance to show them that.

It's a vicious cycle. I don't approach people for conversation because I assume they'd rather not talk to me, but it's not like they're going to approach me, because they don't even really know me.

These feelings are pretty unhelpful to my social health, as I feel like my long-standing RL friendships from HS have been slowly, organically deteriorating, and my friendships at college are few and far between, with one of my best friends graduating, so she won't even be around anymore.

I attempt to interact with you guys to make up for the void in my RL social life, because, to be quite honest, I find a helluva lot of you to be more interesting and engaging than most of my RL friends, and because most of my friendships of greatest length stem from high school, I actually talk to those people less frequently than I talk to any of you.

I realize that, unlike a lot of you, there is nothing unique or interesting about me. I'm pretty freaking "normal"/"mainstream", if you will, and I feel like sometimes this hinders my ability to connect on any kind of level with you guys. There have been times I have honestly considered quitting because I have felt so hopelessly out of place.

I'm a ridiculously observant person, so I know a lot about you guys just by reading threads and conversations and whatnot. Mike once even asked me how I knew so much about some of you, and I was just like, "I just pay attention". I've been around (on and off) since ANGE, but I feel like I've never truly been wholly absorbed into the ********, I don't even know where I was going with this. I just started ranting, and I threw any logical order to the wind.
.....And to think, this is barely even scratching the surface.

TL;DR: ******** you for not giving a s**t. This is the serious subforum.

It's like the few times I've attempted to have a one-on-one conversation with someone, it dies relatively quickly, so I eventually just say ******** it.

Because I'm a veryveryVERY easily discouraged person.

Ahhh~

I get that feeling to a lesser degree @_____@

Sometimes if I'm talking to someone, I get this "I don't like you" vibe. Even online like in this guild. But idk if it's just me or what.


Anyway, if you want to improve this, it all starts with you. I think you just have to be more involved or something. Or like, more open, you know? I dunno. I'm pretty bad at this whole interacting with people thing too.

Sometimes, I feel the same way. I'm really bad at starting conversations with people, so I feel like I'm not wanted if no one talks to me, even though I know it isn't exactly true.

You've just got to stick your neck out there every so often and make that leap of faith. If you don't, you'll just continue to feel the same way until it drives you insane.

Make small-talk, or burst out with something totally random and insane that conversation HAS to start because of it. =D

Like, "Hi, how are you? Oh, me too. So, how was -insert something here-?"

It's that easy, seriously. o: I also suggest asking, "What's up?", because the answers are always interesting. Except for mine. I always answer "The sky."

See? Perfect conversation-starter! =D

reading www.postsecret.com really helped me.

Honestly I used to have the same delima....but mine was solved when I dyed my hair pink...people can't seem to resist talking to someone with pink hair and it gets alot of conversation going in the girls bathroom at clubs/bars. Now that I am back to normal-ish hair color I don't have that to rely upon....

I've got the same problem.
Except, I always get the feeling that nobody likes me because I'm an ugly, unfunny p***k who nobody could ever love.