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 Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2009 1:57 am
After my mother died my sister kind of took to a downhill slide. She started smoking, doing drugs, sexing it up and running away from home just about every week. That was from 6 years ago up until now. She's 15 now. She's been sent to live with my father (fail), sent to a group home (fail) and she now resides in another group home.
Recently she's supposedly been doing better on her home visits and is supposed to come home in August if she doesn't screw up. "Doing better" I suppose is only flipping out half the time and saying thank you.
However she sneaks out every night that she's home and she steals whatever she can from me. I haven't snitched about her late night gallivanting but I think I should.
I can't stand the thought of her living anywhere near me let alone with me. I've tried talking to my grandmother but she said that she's part of the family and I'd have to deal with her. Last time she said I should go to the family therapy session and I ended up laughing because my sister flipped for stupid reasons then called me a stupid psychopath (to which I responded "Yes I am a psycho. Do you have a point?) The whole thing ended in me laughing, my sister crying, and my grandmother being oblivious to any big problem.
I don't know what I should do, my boyfriend says to just wait it out and move in with him at the end of my senior year. Any advice?
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2009 2:44 pm
I don't think Will even knows that much about your life. I think it's a little more personal than that...
But your sister seems to me to have ups and downs a lot. She's all in-your-face one minute then the next she's crying. I think she really needs some help, so you need either a counselor for her or for the family. Your family has been through a lot of distress and I think you need to help her through it...
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Posted: Fri Jul 03, 2009 11:49 pm
Jerba I don't think Will even knows that much about your life. I think it's a little more personal than that... But your sister seems to me to have ups and downs a lot. She's all in-your-face one minute then the next she's crying. I think she really needs some help, so you need either a counselor for her or for the family. Your family has been through a lot of distress and I think you need to help her through it... He knows far more than you'd think he would. And absolutely no more counselors, not for me. We do have a family therapist,however it just so happens I don't count since I've only been invited once and that was because we got into a fight while she was high. And on a somewhat related to your answer not so much to my first situation: She kind of freaked out at my grandmother then broke down crying to me and hugging me...I literally had no idea how to react to that.
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Posted: Sun Jul 05, 2009 3:17 pm
Well, you know that if she's going to turn to you in a situation like that, then she absolutely has some sort of connection to you. It sounds like even though she's rebellious and all, she still loves you. If you could bring that out in her more often you might have a solution for yourself, whether it be temporary for the situation or for good.
I used to fight with Katie all the time, and now we're friends. I think it happened once she went off to college and we started to miss her...
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Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2009 4:09 am
Jerba Well, you know that if she's going to turn to you in a situation like that, then she absolutely has some sort of connection to you. It sounds like even though she's rebellious and all, she still loves you. If you could bring that out in her more often you might have a solution for yourself, whether it be temporary for the situation or for good. I used to fight with Katie all the time, and now we're friends. I think it happened once she went off to college and we started to miss her... I did miss her when she first left, I even fought for her to stay home. I don't know why or how, but I don't want her around me. The other day at the fair she told her friends she couldn't smoke until August because she's on probation. She's an idiot and she hasn't learned a thing. When she gets back she's just going to get kicked out again. And another thing. I don't want her to turn to me for that for a few reasons: 1. She does it for attention. 2.Like I said before; I can't react properly to that...dealing with human emotion is something I can't do.
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Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2009 10:41 am
It sounds like she just needs some caring attention. Even if you're not the one to do it, she needs someone to help her.
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Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:05 am
Jerba2 It sounds like she just needs some caring attention. Even if you're not the one to do it, she needs someone to help her. sure.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 11:15 am
I think you need to get out of there, mate. Sure she's family, but sometimes that really doesn't matter. My dad was emotionally abusive to my mom (and sometimes me) for awhile, and I decided in a fit of psychosis, that I wouldn't see him. I didn't, of course, for almost a whole year. Best decision I made. My heart goes out to you... For your sake, I think you should leave before you go batty yourself. sad
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