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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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 Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 10:32 pm
ok, so here's the deal. i've been having this insane sex drive lately and i can't even control it. i know, i know, we can usually control certain aspects of our lives and all, but i mean this is going on even as i SLEEP! i have wet dreams, stupid dreams of sexy chicks playin basketball against me in bikinis, dreams at the beach, dreams of...
and i stopped looking at certain stuff on the computer, but i can't stop what's going on in my subconscious! but here's the problem:
i'm in a relationship. according to God, lusting after someone or even looking at them lustfully is committing adultery with you're eyes.
and i know a lot of people don't believe in god, but i still feel bad that i'm having these sex issues even though i'm with a girl. and to make matters worse, i am so ******** shy around her cuz i really HONESTLY like her (well, she has her moments) that i can hardly even kiss her or hold her hand cuz i'm ridiculously and utterly afraid of embarrasssing myself. and both of us are like that. so it's not like we as a pair could solve the problem... not to mention we're not exactly old enough to do this. but yeah. it's been buggin me. i feel bad.
anyone else ever felt the same/had the same problem/envy me regardless of my issue cuz i can still get a girl and i'm just a ******** retard?
hey, i can cuss here, ok? it's a ******** mature section... felt i should say that as i tend to cuss a lot but don't use the F word on this site. haha.
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Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 10:41 pm
the_forgotten_thought ok, so here's the deal. i've been having this insane sex drive lately and i can't even control it. i know, i know, we can usually control certain aspects of our lives and all, but i mean this is going on even as i SLEEP! i have wet dreams, stupid dreams of sexy chicks playin basketball against me in bikinis, dreams at the beach, dreams of... and i stopped looking at certain stuff on the computer, but i can't stop what's going on in my subconscious! but here's the problem: i'm in a relationship. according to God, lusting after someone or even looking at them lustfully is committing adultery with you're eyes. and i know a lot of people don't believe in god, but i still feel bad that i'm having these sex issues even though i'm with a girl. and to make matters worse, i am so ******** shy around her cuz i really HONESTLY like her (well, she has her moments) that i can hardly even kiss her or hold her hand cuz i'm ridiculously and utterly afraid of embarrasssing myself. and both of us are like that. so it's not like we as a pair could solve the problem... not to mention we're not exactly old enough to do this. but yeah. it's been buggin me. i feel bad. anyone else ever felt the same/had the same problem/envy me regardless of my issue cuz i can still get a girl and i'm just a ******** retard? hey, i can cuss here, ok? it's a ******** mature section... felt i should say that as i tend to cuss a lot but don't use the F word on this site. haha. Just relax, I've been in the same situation as you before, find an outlet for your sex drive. Make it something that will unleash it and drain it from you.
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Posted: Wed Jul 22, 2009 11:07 pm
きっと大人になることなんかより 大切なものがあるの
きっとそれを見つけらんないまま 大人になってゆくんだ
子どものままじゃいれない。
I had the same problem when I started realizing I had feelings for my best friend... X.X
I was plagued by constant sexual images and finally I just wound up kissing her one day at lunch but I played it off as me joking around and I kissed my other friend to make it seem more like it... ^^;;
Have you tried masturbating? It might help. >.>
Deal with reality. Stop hoping, dreaming, etc.
Pray and tell God that you forgive them for not being able to love you. Ask God to take this from you - and He will. Then continue to deal with reality. Don't tell yourself, maybe someday... they'll change... True love accepts the person for who they are, even when they are evil and they don't love you. It means accepting reality. When you love and accept reality at the same time, you are forced to move on. When you deal with reality and move on without love, you take bitterness with you. When you love without dealing with reality, you hurt yourself. Love the other person, Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you'll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem.
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Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 12:31 am
Organic Paranoia
きっと大人になることなんかより 大切なものがあるの
きっとそれを見つけらんないまま 大人になってゆくんだ
子どものままじゃいれない。
I had the same problem when I started realizing I had feelings for my best friend... X.X
I was plagued by constant sexual images and finally I just wound up kissing her one day at lunch but I played it off as me joking around and I kissed my other friend to make it seem more like it... ^^;;
Have you tried masturbating? It might help. >.>
Deal with reality. Stop hoping, dreaming, etc.
Pray and tell God that you forgive them for not being able to love you. Ask God to take this from you - and He will. Then continue to deal with reality. Don't tell yourself, maybe someday... they'll change... True love accepts the person for who they are, even when they are evil and they don't love you. It means accepting reality. When you love and accept reality at the same time, you are forced to move on. When you deal with reality and move on without love, you take bitterness with you. When you love without dealing with reality, you hurt yourself. Love the other person, Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you'll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem.
true, i've been doin it. makes me feel better.
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 2:52 am
hay baby girl.. welcome to the human race..
i umm would like to say that i tink that u are havin a totaly normal prob in the world of living and loving..
i cant offer any advice on the probs u mite have with god sorreee..
but i can like totaly relate to where you are with your feelings...
im in a kinda same place and if i could say that you can either fight it or go with it..
well fightin it didnt work for me at all.. are we in a mature area??
so goin with it may be tha only anser..
do you feel bad caus of what others mit think??
my reply is that you only have to answere to god in the end.. not others..
im in a town that would burn a cross if they knew how i was.. lol..
is your god forgiving?? (not gona get in a religious debate sorre)
but my close friends dont judge me.. they suport me..
there are things i dont tell anyone at all.. i have desires and fantasies and stuff thsat i wouldnt even tell here and i dont think that makes me a bad person..
im the me that u see and if u dont likes it then like sumone else haha easy.
if u looks at stuff on your computer and it makes u feel good whas the harm??
if u has dreams that make u feel good then whas the harm too?
i never give advice buts my opinion is that u are a normal person goin thru normal stuff and i love you for it.,.
dont feel bad feel good about the you that is you and cant be anyone else.
and pm me if u want to ..
anyways.. take care..
love
sierralee
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Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 1:25 pm
Aren't two of the posters here under the age of 18?
Thread will be locked momentarily.
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Posted: Thu Jul 23, 2009 1:27 pm
Due to underage posters, thread is locked. Only Drak may unlock this thread.
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Posted: Fri Jul 24, 2009 10:36 pm
sorree but it aint locked..
and both of u shuld read the forum heading
18+ minds.....
theres someone with an issue they wish to get advice on and if
u have nothing to offer then say nothing ok??
the point of this forum is for people to be able to openly discuss issues they feel is important to them in a mature environment (spelling?)
if u have a problem with the post take it to drak.. dont be pretend mods on the thread.. it ruins the mood..
as for underage posters?? theres no one under 13 posting here i think??
love
sierralee
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Sat Jul 25, 2009 8:38 pm
sierralees sorree but it aint locked.. and both of u shuld read the forum heading 18+ minds..... theres someone with an issue they wish to get advice on and if u have nothing to offer then say nothing ok?? the point of this forum is for people to be able to openly discuss issues they feel is important to them in a mature environment (spelling?) if u have a problem with the post take it to drak.. dont be pretend mods on the thread.. it ruins the mood.. as for underage posters?? theres no one under 13 posting here i think?? love sierralee he is a mod and he did lock it. its just i unlocked it cuz i was annoyed that supposedly i wasn't allowed in a certain section of the guild even though we established the rules for it awhile ago. haha. anyways, that's a nice post cuz it was annoying to be tryin to get adult advice and see it get locked cuz i'm only 15.
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 10:14 pm
coolies.. maybe we shuld have a section thats only for peeps under 18 haha.. and over 18 arnt allowed.. thatd be funi..
love
sierralee
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Posted: Mon Jul 27, 2009 1:14 am
I'm afraid I haven't been in your situation, so I can't help you D;
But I don't think you should be worried you're committing adultery. You can't control what you dream about.
But I agree with a previous poster - masturbation is a great way to relieve those thoughts, and some extra tension =]
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Posted: Mon Jul 27, 2009 10:01 am
the_forgotten_thought sierralees sorree but it aint locked.. and both of u shuld read the forum heading 18+ minds..... theres someone with an issue they wish to get advice on and if u have nothing to offer then say nothing ok?? the point of this forum is for people to be able to openly discuss issues they feel is important to them in a mature environment (spelling?) if u have a problem with the post take it to drak.. dont be pretend mods on the thread.. it ruins the mood.. as for underage posters?? theres no one under 13 posting here i think?? love sierralee he is a mod and he did lock it. its just i unlocked it cuz i was annoyed that supposedly i wasn't allowed in a certain section of the guild even though we established the rules for it awhile ago. haha. anyways, that's a nice post cuz it was annoying to be tryin to get adult advice and see it get locked cuz i'm only 15. I'm 17 and I replied give some advice
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the_forgotten_thought Captain
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Posted: Tue Jul 28, 2009 2:29 am
Mister Futa the_forgotten_thought sierralees sorree but it aint locked.. and both of u shuld read the forum heading 18+ minds..... theres someone with an issue they wish to get advice on and if u have nothing to offer then say nothing ok?? the point of this forum is for people to be able to openly discuss issues they feel is important to them in a mature environment (spelling?) if u have a problem with the post take it to drak.. dont be pretend mods on the thread.. it ruins the mood.. as for underage posters?? theres no one under 13 posting here i think?? love sierralee he is a mod and he did lock it. its just i unlocked it cuz i was annoyed that supposedly i wasn't allowed in a certain section of the guild even though we established the rules for it awhile ago. haha. anyways, that's a nice post cuz it was annoying to be tryin to get adult advice and see it get locked cuz i'm only 15. I'm 17 and I replied give some advice Yeah, and i took it (ive been focusin on other passions to try to ignore it :]) but that's just the point; you don't have to be an adult to solve "mature problems"
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Posted: Tue Jul 28, 2009 1:08 pm
the_forgotten_thought Mister Futa the_forgotten_thought sierralees sorree but it aint locked.. and both of u shuld read the forum heading 18+ minds..... theres someone with an issue they wish to get advice on and if u have nothing to offer then say nothing ok?? the point of this forum is for people to be able to openly discuss issues they feel is important to them in a mature environment (spelling?) if u have a problem with the post take it to drak.. dont be pretend mods on the thread.. it ruins the mood.. as for underage posters?? theres no one under 13 posting here i think?? love sierralee he is a mod and he did lock it. its just i unlocked it cuz i was annoyed that supposedly i wasn't allowed in a certain section of the guild even though we established the rules for it awhile ago. haha. anyways, that's a nice post cuz it was annoying to be tryin to get adult advice and see it get locked cuz i'm only 15. I'm 17 and I replied give some advice Yeah, and i took it (ive been focusin on other passions to try to ignore it :]) but that's just the point; you don't have to be an adult to solve "mature problems" Thank you, you and the others young ones understand that as I do too.
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Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 3:14 pm
thats how i have been lately, but masturbation hasnt been helping
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