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 Posted: Sat Aug 15, 2009 5:56 am
My grandpa is dying. I'd like to know if anyone out there is not so close to their grandfather. I'm not, and this whole dying process has really alienated me from my family.
Everyone's crying...I'm crying, too, but it's for a different reason... I'm crying because I can't bring myself to feel for him. There is no sympathy in my heart...
It's not like the man hurt me or anything....It's just that I was never that close to anyone in my family....
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 6:17 pm
i think i know how you feel. my grandma died recently. she was my favorite grandparent and i really liked her, but somehow, i never cried at her funeral. i naver felt a sense of loss, really. just don't put yourself down about it, you'll be okay. its fine if you don't feel anything. it doesn't make you any less human.
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Posted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 10:22 am
I feel the same way about my grandmother because the same thing is happening to her. And for a while I was confused to. But my friends really stuck by me and continue to stick by me. My grandmother doesnt know who i or my brother am any more. She is still dear to me but i feel like i cant do anything. But i wil pray fo you.
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Posted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 7:23 pm
When I was 5 my biological father died. When I was 11 my grandfather died.
And I know what you mean about not feeling close to him. I never felt that close to my grandfather. I knew he loved me, and since we were family, I loved him, but I never felt like we were close, like he and my brother were.
I didn't cry at his funeral. I didn't cry until two months after his death.
Its an odd feeling, not wanted to cry when you it seems like you should. Don't feel bad about it. People react differently to death and loss. It also might turn out that you'll realize how much you miss him after some time has passed. I didn't realize how much my grandfather meant to me until months, maybe years after his death. Don't beat yourself up about it, and just be there for your family.
Plus I want to add that I never felt like people should feel symphathy for those who are dying. They might be suffering in the process of dying, but death itself, I think, is another miracle of life (which I know sounds kinda weird and maybe morbid, but stick with me). For believers in Christ, death means that we get to go be in the presence of God for all eternity. Thats a good thing. So sympathy to me seems like an odd reaction to a good thing. Maybe more of a joyous, happy-for-them feeling.
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Posted: Sat Jan 23, 2010 3:40 pm
Mine is dying and I love him and was close, but I belive he will make it to God and wait for me there.
Dying is a sad thing, yes it's painfull to see no matter what anyone says it's painful to me. It can be sad but a relife at the same time though a person suffering with cancer and they just can't fight it anymore and don't want to be in pain go to a much better place.
You're upset because you don't feel for him because you weren't close but there are other people who feel the same. I've had other people around me who I didn't know well who've died and it's been harder to feel much because you don't know that person well, it's like seeing a stranger almost there are plenty of people in my family who I'm not close with some I've never even met and I couldn't feel the same for them as I would my grandfather so don't feel so upset at yourself.
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