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 Posted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 10:13 pm
I thought I'd make a non-cancer thread for those who need to vent with any other issues they may be having. Life still happens, even though cancer is happening, and sometimes it can get a bit overwhelming, so this is the place to vent, get advice/suggestions, or just ask for a hug.
I'm STILL having issues with my back from a car accident Mother's Day weekend. This week, can't walk right, and have serious trouble getting up out of a chair, and sitting down in to a chair. Just woke up this way. Have no idea if it's from the accident, but I'm going to the doctor tomorrow, to at least get more pain meds. Someone's gonna have to die if I have to stay in this pain...and it won't be me. gonk I can't go to work tomorrow, since I have to get up from the chair every 15 minutes to get a client, at least, and I don't think I can handle it. Just wish this would go away. Even though I'm going to get paid a lot for this accident, it's SO not worth it. I can't believe people do this for a living (scamming insurance companies by causing accidents making it look like they're the victim) just to get the pay out.
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Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 10:29 am
That stinks. Bad backs seem to run in my family. I was never injured, but my back hurts a lot. Nothing too extreme, but not the norm for my age either. My mother has been on disability for about ten years now. She has arthritis, slipped discs, and a pinched nerve. She's on some pretty hardcore pain meds. They're so hardcore that she has to go to the doctor like every six weeks so they can keep an eye on her liver. She can get massages and go to a chiropractor, and it's all paid for. But the problem is that driving bothers her back. So a lot of the time she doesn't bother scheduling an appointment because she dreads the drive. And if she does go, she said it only helps for a few hours because the drive home takes a lot of it away. I'm afraid I'll end up like her or worse. Hopefully they can do something more than throw pills at me by then though.
My pap is scheduled for this Thursday, which means it has been about one year since I joined this guild. So hopefully my cervix looks the same as before, or better. I think I have another bacterial infection too.
Other than that, there is only one thing going on in my life. I am thinking about leaving. I'm so scared. It would mean moving out of my house, hurting my partner, leaving some things behind, leaving my pets behind, and taking a chance at a roommate situation with a friend because I am broke. He's a really great person. He's my best friend. I just don't feel any romantic feelings or sexual attraction. It's kind of like living with a brother.
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Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 10:51 am
LorienLlewellyn That stinks. Bad backs seem to run in my family. I was never injured, but my back hurts a lot. Nothing too extreme, but not the norm for my age either. My mother has been on disability for about ten years now. She has arthritis, slipped discs, and a pinched nerve. She's on some pretty hardcore pain meds. They're so hardcore that she has to go to the doctor like every six weeks so they can keep an eye on her liver. She can get massages and go to a chiropractor, and it's all paid for. But the problem is that driving bothers her back. So a lot of the time she doesn't bother scheduling an appointment because she dreads the drive. And if she does go, she said it only helps for a few hours because the drive home takes a lot of it away. I'm afraid I'll end up like her or worse. Hopefully they can do something more than throw pills at me by then though. My pap is scheduled for this Thursday, which means it has been about one year since I joined this guild. So hopefully my cervix looks the same as before, or better. I think I have another bacterial infection too. Other than that, there is only one thing going on in my life. I am thinking about leaving. I'm so scared. It would mean moving out of my house, hurting my partner, leaving some things behind, leaving my pets behind, and taking a chance at a roommate situation with a friend because I am broke. He's a really great person. He's my best friend. I just don't feel any romantic feelings or sexual attraction. It's kind of like living with a brother.
If you're thinking about hurting your partner, then there's hope in the relationship...why are you thinking about leaving? As in, in what areas are there issues that you can't live with any more?
I understand broke. Getting the 3 day notice from the electric company is where I'm at, due to the extra bills I have from the accident. But, I'm dealing the best I can.
Best friends are great, until you live with them. I really hope things work out for you in that area. I had horrible luck. I'll be hard pressed to do another roommate situation. But like I said...I had horrible luck. Most don't end up the way my situations turned out.
Good luck on the pap. Get over your infection first, and don't worry about things until then. I'm due for mine, but I don't know when I'll actually get it done, with all the other stuff I'm going through, It's kinda last on my list of things I'm worried about.
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Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 11:11 am
We get along really well. We have a lot in common. I know he is attracted to me and is ready to settle down and have a baby. It's just that I don't have those romantic feelings for him. And it's not something that was there and then died down. I don't think I ever had romantic feelings for him. I guess in the beginning I thought he was perfect and the feelings were sure to develop, you know? But they never did. And it's at the point where I think we both deserve something more. I am ready to settle down and have a baby too, but I also want some love and passion in my life.
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Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 10:31 pm
LorienLlewellyn We get along really well. We have a lot in common. I know he is attracted to me and is ready to settle down and have a baby. It's just that I don't have those romantic feelings for him. And it's not something that was there and then died down. I don't think I ever had romantic feelings for him. I guess in the beginning I thought he was perfect and the feelings were sure to develop, you know? But they never did. And it's at the point where I think we both deserve something more. I am ready to settle down and have a baby too, but I also want some love and passion in my life.
Everyone wants love and passion. At least, I hope they do. Otherwise, relationships would be pretty boring.
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Posted: Thu Sep 24, 2009 8:05 pm
I suppose this is semi-cancer related still, but..
I finished chemo 3 weeks ago (yay!), about a week before class started. Now I'm back at school full time, and working as many hours again as I had before I got sick. I'm just so overwhelmed I don't know what to do. I worked a few days a week while I had chemo after I recovered from surgery, but I really didn't have THIS much to deal with. I've always had problems adjusting and I've been really depressed. I'm not sure what to do.
I still get really tired and sick a lot of the time, which I suppose will go away and I've been trying to work through it but. I guess I have to suck it up? I just don't want to feel so sad anymore.
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Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2009 3:48 pm
der kuchen I suppose this is semi-cancer related still, but..
I finished chemo 3 weeks ago (yay!), about a week before class started. Now I'm back at school full time, and working as many hours again as I had before I got sick. I'm just so overwhelmed I don't know what to do. I worked a few days a week while I had chemo after I recovered from surgery, but I really didn't have THIS much to deal with. I've always had problems adjusting and I've been really depressed. I'm not sure what to do.
I still get really tired and sick a lot of the time, which I suppose will go away and I've been trying to work through it but. I guess I have to suck it up? I just don't want to feel so sad anymore.
Can you work less hours so you aren't so overwhelmed? I know you can't feel less sad if you're overwhelmed by everything else in life.
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Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2009 4:37 pm
pd2care der kuchen I suppose this is semi-cancer related still, but..
I finished chemo 3 weeks ago (yay!), about a week before class started. Now I'm back at school full time, and working as many hours again as I had before I got sick. I'm just so overwhelmed I don't know what to do. I worked a few days a week while I had chemo after I recovered from surgery, but I really didn't have THIS much to deal with. I've always had problems adjusting and I've been really depressed. I'm not sure what to do.
I still get really tired and sick a lot of the time, which I suppose will go away and I've been trying to work through it but. I guess I have to suck it up? I just don't want to feel so sad anymore.
Can you work less hours so you aren't so overwhelmed? I know you can't feel less sad if you're overwhelmed by everything else in life.
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Posted: Sat Sep 26, 2009 12:50 am
der kuchen pd2care der kuchen I suppose this is semi-cancer related still, but..
I finished chemo 3 weeks ago (yay!), about a week before class started. Now I'm back at school full time, and working as many hours again as I had before I got sick. I'm just so overwhelmed I don't know what to do. I worked a few days a week while I had chemo after I recovered from surgery, but I really didn't have THIS much to deal with. I've always had problems adjusting and I've been really depressed. I'm not sure what to do.
I still get really tired and sick a lot of the time, which I suppose will go away and I've been trying to work through it but. I guess I have to suck it up? I just don't want to feel so sad anymore.
Can you work less hours so you aren't so overwhelmed? I know you can't feel less sad if you're overwhelmed by everything else in life.
They can't fire you. The Americans With Disabilities Act prevents that. If you get a note from your doctor restricting your hours to a certain number, they have to abide by that. They have no choice. And if they try to make your life a living hell, it's retaliation, which is also illegal. You've really got them by the gonads, if you want it that way. It's up to you. Being nice then, does not mean they can be mean now.
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