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 Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 7:19 pm
This is seriously one of what I feel to be the worlds largest epidemics that leaves people powerless and theirs really nothing you can do. My sister for instance has 3 kids and not a single maternal bone in her body. She plans vacations all the time and doesn't bring her kids with her. She goes out to night clubs and drinking having a fun time with friends and leaves her kids with my grandmother. My Grandmother was such a bad mother that her own 3 kids all took care of each other. When my aunt was 4 she was dragging my uncle of whom was 2 years old, by his arms. Just so she could feed him, and change his diapers because my grandmother wouldn't do it. Growing up when my mom had to do stuff she would reluctantly leave us with her so we all know how good our grandmother is with kids. One of my nephews has been kicked out of multiple schools and day cares starting from age 4 to now. When he was in pre-school he got kicked out of daycare for telling the lady to suck his d**k. He's punched his younger brother in the throat, and has caught the house on fire. She doesn't deserve to have her kids at all and I wish CPS would take my nephews away from her.
I know a girl who is still legally a minor, she loves kids, animals, and other people. She has a heart so huge I have no idea how any God could put such a large heart in such a tiny body. She is infertile, and the last pet she got her dad would beat him for no reason and eventually just took him to the pound while she was gone. He beats her, and tells her how much of a piece of s**t she is, and how easily it would be for him to kill her. About how he wouldn't care at all if she died and how much better his life would be. He starves her, and throws her on the back of the shelf every time he gets a chance insulting her along the way. I have never seen someone fight so desperately just to be able to get a "Hey, good job" that never comes. Instead she does everything she can for him and he returns her kindness with violence, and anger towards her. She weighs maybe 90 pounds now he weighs 180 and just rains on her. The food that he refuses to give to her so she can eat, he gets it for free. His girlfriend is working the system to get unemployment and welfare checks. None of the food is paid for with his money or hers for that matter. But he refuses to feed his child. A gorgeous, intelligent, and beautiful person on the inside and out. With the food that he gets at no cost too him or his girlfriend.
How does this happen? How? How do people so unworthy, so ugly, so repulsive have kids, that act out so much just for attention whether in good or bad ways. And they can't even get the time of day for a hug, kiss, and a "Hey kid, good job". I honestly can't think of anything more depressing than the crushed hearts of the people that have to live through this.
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Posted: Wed Sep 23, 2009 7:13 pm
Watch the blood run down her face. But don't take notice.
I know this all too well. I mean, my parents [my mother anyway] has changed so much than when I used to have to hide my bruises from people at school in elementary. For examples, my own parents weren't bad parents, I understood why they did what they did to me sometimes, but they are impatience and close-minded people.
My aunt, what a whore. She has 3 kids from 3 different guys who act no older than her eldest. She's about 6 or so. She does the same as your sister. Drinking, partying, whatever the ******** she wanted. She still lived at home with my grandmother [her mother] and she was always paying.
Hope that the whore would stop or at least do it less, my grandmother started making her pay her to babysit. Did that stop her? No of course not. Because she's a ******** high school drop out who went to trade school and now is a nurse. ******** Bryman. Yeah, give the dumbass a chance. Which btw, she didn't pay for that school, her father did. Because, honestly, my grandmother/father let her off to easily. It's a chain of bad parenting.
But now she thinks it's cute that she's with this 3rd guy, living in a s**t a** apartment with her newborn and him. JUST HIM! Where are the kids? With my grandmother because she doesn't ******** trust my aunt with her own kids. And she shouldn't. And what's worse is that the b***h doesn't think that of a bad thing. She's happy thinking she has a cute happy big family but only has to deal with one at a time... when she feels like it.
I might not have a pleasant life or attitude sometimes, but I know who I'm not going to become. I've done everything to make my dumbass father happy and proud of me but he finds anything to judge me. Especially using his ******** religion to back up his reasons. He never mentions to anyone that I'm bisexual, I've been with women or that I have a more serious relationship with my boyfriend than he does with his terrible girlfriend... because none of it is true. He denies everything I am just to show off that go to college. As if he helped me. ******** him. I don't need his help now nor ever, and yet he loves to say to me that I'll need him or that one day I'll just love him like I used you.
b***h, I didn't love you then. You ******** locked me in garages and closets, starved me and cheated on my mother.
I don't talk to him anymore... I don't know why I tried so hard before. Maybe I did love him, but it's easier now when I don't see him. Maybe your friend will realize that it isn't worth it. That horrible father of hers won't ever care until he's on his deathbed and he knows she's the only one who would come to his side... maybe if that...
People seem to think that I don't deserve anything that I have gotten, and I don't think so anymore [I honestly thought I did before] but people get through it. I did stupid "emo" s**t to get through it. I can't say it helped, but it numbed it sometimes. But it's over. This part anyway... I still have more of my life coming up, you don't know how much I'll love any child I give birth to. It'll be like nothing a god contain for himself.
sorry it's so long. it feels good to rant :3
Watch the blood run down her arms. Please don't take notice.
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Posted: Thu Sep 24, 2009 3:47 pm
I look around at people my age (24) that are having kids and it disgusts me. Now I am not saying there are not good, nurturing, and loving parents out there. It just seems that with how quick we can get gratification with entertainment, food, pleasure, ect... that people forgot that it takes time and a lot of work to raise a child. I am thankful for the way my mother raised me because I know how to take responsibility for what is mine, unlike a lot of people now days. Road trips used to be about looking out the window or reading a book, got you out of the house and seeing the world. Now you throw everyone in an SUV with dvds and watch the same mindless crap that you did at home. What is the point? Sponge Bob is not going to teach your child how to interact with other humans, Bob the Builder won't instill basic motor functions, Barny won't teach a child true morals and an ethics code. Parent's need to get off there asses and take care of there child before they grow up and start spewing out more mindless idiots.
*deep breath*
Sorry about that.
*steps off soapbox*
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Posted: Thu Sep 24, 2009 4:43 pm
Yeah my childhood was extremely similar, but that's what happens when you grow up in a area where life has a 0 value. I still love that place but I definitely don't want to go back to the ghetto lol. My parents really had little time for us and tried to be patient, but they were just too damn immature and impatient for children at the time. Things have gotten better now but thier's still lots of resentment there. As for my friend she's already reached the point where she's realized that her endless struggle is leading her no where. Her father still hates her with all of her heart, so now she's trying to get past the rejection, the fact that he lied and told her she could have a dog and then got scared of the dog because when he tried to beat her the dog wasn't having it. (80 pound pit bull, that has so much muscle you can see and feel it all times barking at you? Yeah, that could be a little scary.) So Of course the dog is now gone, just like the one I bought her for valentines day, luckily I found the pound that ******** took him too and bought him back. Her sister also has cancer and is delivering a baby soon and is expected not to live. How does her father respond to all of this? STARVATION! GOOD IDEA ********! JUST WHAT SHE NEEDED!!!
Phage I'm going through the same s**t with all of my friends. So far none of them can really figure anything out besides OMG I LOVE MY CHILD AND THE FACT THAT I NEVER SEE IT!!!! ITS AWESOME!!!!!! I admit I grew up with a lot of t v and video games. But it was never anything that I got to do just so my parents could go do their own thing. I was always with my sisters or my friends and still being social or I got kicked outside. A lot of people don't realize that the only way to raise a child is to be active in the ordeal. Not too let Dora the Illegal Supportive ******** Explorer teach our kids to speak spanish so the illegals can stop learning English. Oh wait... That's off topic. My little sister and nephew watch a LOT of t.v mostly kids stuff, but they learned from t.v a little more than they did from my parents. My little sister is the biggest ******** drama queen (At 10 years old) I have seriously ever met in my life. She can't do s**t for herself, and always expects everyone to do everything for her (What Princess movies?). Is an evil (how the hell do you spell) Kaniving little b***h with a VERY sharp tongue. (What? Older siblings? Ok I take some responsibility for that... But seriously God damn Suite Life of Zach and Cody.) People just rely too much on sources that are "Good enough" or "Convenient" for them. Instead of taking the route that's a little harder or a little more out of the way but yields the responses they want. And everyone's child is the perfect little angel.
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Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 8:53 pm
Watch the blood run down her face. But don't take notice.
Honestly, I want a kid, but I'm impatient with my own puppies right now. I know I can't financially and physically take care of one, but these other morons I see around me think it's cute? I mean WTF?!
I can't even stand to actually be around pregnant women, mainly because I'm thinking in my head that they are either stupid, irresponsible or just wondering if they have a plan. And I hope that they do. And not some stupid one like, we're gonna live in my mothers' house forever.
I have SUV's. And my father does the same with his kid.
Not to mention the language I hear in his house. That little kid is bad, and he knows what he does, how to do it and what he is saying to others.
My parents used to try and take us out as much as they could, unfortunately, my little brother, 12, missed out on a lot of that because he left my mother when he was 1. He's kinda stuck to the tv and video games. My other brother and I try to take him out. And it's not my mother's fault. She works a lot. I mean A LOT, so by the time she gets home she's tired and wants to go to bed. But she tries. She really does.
Other younger parents don't have an excuse. They have more time, they have more family and options. I've already decided too that if I should accidentally get pregnant at this time, I'm going to get it aborted. Not because I wouldn't love it or want it... but because I don't want to screw up. I'd rather wait until I know that I would be able to take care of it with the best of my ability. My boyfriend and I are so unbelieveably careful... no matter how much a baby would feel. Wonderfully of course :#
OH NO! My girliness is coming out! XD
Watch the blood run down her arms. Please don't take notice.
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Posted: Tue Oct 06, 2009 5:19 pm
I think some parents reflect on how their parents were to them.
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Posted: Tue Oct 06, 2009 6:12 pm
Watch the blood run down her face. But don't take notice.
Oh I'm sure that's true.
I put that up there in my rant about my aunt and her parents
~points~ XD
Watch the blood run down her arms. Please don't take notice.
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Posted: Wed Mar 09, 2011 9:47 am
I feel like I am raising the dead since this thread is from 2009 but it's not in the archives... anywho..
I had my daughter when I was 15 and I was s**t for a mother. Not in the sense that I would go out and party with my friends but in a more complicated way.
I'll explain.
After I had Zowie my mother would never let me out to do anything, I had to be with my daughter 24/7. In a way I felt robbed of my own childhood and so was not bonding the way I should have been with Zowie. I had some resentment as shitty as that sounds. I was always depressed and full of so much inner turmoil that it made playing peek-a-boo with her feel like a chore.
As I got older I realized it was OK to go out and have fun as long as I could get a babysitter for my daughter. It restored what I would refer to as my sanity and all that resentment left me. I found myself missing her when I went out and worrying about her a lot.
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In my own opinion I think it's fine that parents go out as long as it's not all the time. No one likes to be stuck in the house or only socializing with someone less than half of their age -- even if it's their own children.
Also, kids should not have kids. Period. My mother was stupid not getting me on birth control or setting me boundaries. She let me run loose, she was responsible for me and in the end I took what should have been her punishment. I in no way regret having my daughter (I love my little unicorn monster to pieces) but my mother is one of many definitions of a bad parent. She would rather have taken drugs all the time than to keep a look-out on her 15 year old daughter. It could have all been avoided.
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