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 Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 12:34 am
I really hate physical contact.
Not just sexually, just... soemone tapping me on the shoulder, or giving me a hug or something. It really bothers me.
Sometimes, it's thrown really good conversations way off track, made me avoid people for a while, all sorts of things.
And so, I was thinking that maybe this is why I'm an asexual. The fact that I can't have people touch me without me freaking out. Not really violently, just a very sudden mood change, from anything into a kind of withdrawn state.
So, I was wondering if any of you also go through stuff like this.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 12:56 am
Nope. Nobody else is like that. You're a freak.
No, I jest.
Seriously though, I don't really have that problem. People can tap me on the shoulder to get my attention all they want. Hugging, on the other hand, does sort of annoy me. Only because the people who hug me are usually not people I have any interest in hugging and the whole "half-hearted, one arm around the shoulder very lightly until you let go of me" thing can be rather akward at times. That gets on my nerves slightly. Luckily there are a very limited number of people who hug me so it's not something I often worry about.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 2:48 pm
Here comes Miku, the freak.
I love hugging! When I meet my Gaia-friends IRL, we always glomp each other... we hug alot and I really enjoy it.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 3:28 pm
Huh.
Maybe I'm just weird.
But then, everyone is weird in their own little way.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 4:05 pm
Hugging is nice. But I think hugs of real substance, as opposed to the half-hearted hugs mentioned by Remirath, are of a far greater value. What I mean by "real" is when hugs are given in certain circumstances, like to console those who have lost loved ones, or to congratulate one on a promotion. No, I'm not talking about hugs for getting a perfect score on a test (unless you studied your a** off) or meeting someone in the morning. Morning, David! Hi, Daisy! [hug] I haven't seen you in awhile!
Ahem, you see each other everyday?
I usually don't hug people, and am passive when others hug me. I don't abhor physical contact or anything, just indifferent toward it.
I guess what I mean to say is that hugs are beginning to get too common, and one should save hugs for real occasions.
I'm not mad at anyone, just to make that clear.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2005 8:49 pm
I can't stand contact with people at all. I don't like being touched, or having anyone get too close to me. It makes me uneasy and panicky.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 5:16 am
I get uneasy with regular physical contact too, but probably not as badly as what you described. It just takes me by surprise a little, but it wears off quickly.
I do dislike having others close to me in something like a classroom, or another place where you are in seats close together... it makes me kind of nervous and it's hard to concentrate for a while (I guess I have a larger personal space "bubble"). I don't like having people directly on both sides of me, and I don't like having people right behind me. Next to a wall is the most comfortable place to sit. ^^
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 2:40 am
himitsudane I do dislike having others close to me in something like a classroom, or another place where you are in seats close together... it makes me kind of nervous and it's hard to concentrate for a while (I guess I have a larger personal space "bubble"). I don't like having people directly on both sides of me, and I don't like having people right behind me. Next to a wall is the most comfortable place to sit. ^^
On the other hand, I tend to vary between the two extremes on different days. One day I can be like that, back to the wall, glaring at shopkeepers who come too near, and the next day I can really need invasion of my bubble - deliberately sit near someone on a bus, hug my friends, need that tactile sense. It's odd.
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 5:11 pm
Yeah I am pretty avodiant of human contact... me no likey touchy... especially from people who are strangers to me or who have only one thing on their mind.
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 6:10 pm
XenoReiji Yeah I am pretty avodiant of human contact... me no likey touchy... especially from people who are strangers to me or who have only one thing on their mind.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 7:07 am
I am very wary of physical contact from strangers, but I don't mind it from people I trust (close friends and family) I never initiate anything myself though.
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Posted: Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:55 pm
I can't stand physical contact of any kind. D":
It's been six years, and I'm still not comfortable with my best friend hugging me. ._.;;
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 12:18 am
I'm like Mikusagi, I love to hug. I hug my friends almost everytime I say "Hello" or "Goodbye" to them. Well, most my female friends anyway. I've only met one guy that was comfortable giving me a hug. Any other guy, I can tell, feels akward when I hug him.
Whenever someone doesn't want me in their bubble, I try and be respectful and give them their space. Unfortunately I'm a little deaf and I sometimes have to lean a bit closer to hear what someone is saying if they're too quiet or the room is too noisy.
I try hard not to touch complete strangers, even when I'm on the bus and there are people sitting on either side of me.
The meaningful hugs like Illuminescence described are wonderful, but I like my meaningless daily greeting hugs too.
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Posted: Fri Dec 16, 2005 8:42 am
I love being hugged by my close friends, but if it's by someone I don't know or like that well I don't like them touching me. stare
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Posted: Thu Dec 22, 2005 10:04 pm
For a really long time, whenever anyone--ANYONE, including my closest friends--even just casually brushed against me, it felt like whatever part of my body they touched was filthy and needed to be washed. I'd madly scratch and scrub at it with my hands and I'm pretty sure I offended many strangers in the process, but I couldn't help it. It felt horrible, like they'd committed some unforgiveable sin so wrong they radiated the dirt on their souls. Right now, it's not so bad, but mostly because I ignore it; the younger friends I've made are the type to randomly hug. However, there are others I can't stand. I have to remind certain people over and over about how I dislike being touched, but they forget every other day and poke me or something. It's irritating, you'd think that if someone blatantly told you "I hate being touched, DON'T DO IT" three times a week, you'd remember. I should get a T-shirt with that on it. But yeah, don't worry, you're not a freak at all. I completely understand and sympathsize.
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