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Posted: Thu Nov 26, 2009 7:32 am

Well my boyfriend and i are ready to get into the more serious part of our sexual relationship, meaning we are going to move away from oral sex and start trying a**l sex.

For those who are dumb, i have a translation.

"WE WUNNA HAVE BUTTSEXORZ BUT WE DUNT KNOW HOW!"

=D

Anyways, i was just looking for some tips on how to make the process easier for both him, and me. He's traditionally a bottom, so i can only worry for his own sake. I'm not at much risk, i just dont wanna' hurt him or anything.

Anyways, yeah! Any help? ^_^

Posted: Thu Nov 26, 2009 9:27 am

1 word:Lube XD

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Posted: Thu Nov 26, 2009 12:34 pm

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3 Words : Lots of Lube

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Posted: Thu Nov 26, 2009 6:53 pm

First of all, relax. Set the tone with some romanticism (for you literature dorks, I do not mean read him Thoreau or Dickinson). Perhaps a sensual massage and some candles. Beforehand, make sure he actually goes and cleans his butthole thoroughly. Use lots of lube and a condom.

Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:44 am

I hear that sniffing amyl nitrate (poppers) is great for stopping muscle tension, especially in that region.
"It is also commonly used to initiate a**l sex because of its relaxant effects on the a**l sphincter." - Wiki. There you go.

Pretty sure it's legal everywhere too, might have to go to a sex store to find it though.

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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 7:48 am

Talk about things, like things you really like to do to others and like to have done to you. Try new things and have a good time. A good relaxed feeling before the big show happens is really really important. Worry a little about pleasuring him, but at the same time look more about feeling pleasure. Don't worry too much because then it's not enjoyable to anyone.

Trust me, being more relaxed and open to anything that will happen makes a big difference. I'll be rooting for you hon good luck. 4laugh

Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2009 6:22 pm

scissor....not for hours or even an hour...but for a few minutes... sweatdrop

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Posted: Thu Dec 24, 2009 8:29 pm

While a**l sex is fun, and a big step in a relationship (IMO) it is something not to be taken lightly. One thing that I have to ask is if you both have fully "explored" each other, and have an understanding of speed, tearing, and what feels good (usually through fingering)? I would recommend doing this well in advance so when it comes to sex time you won't be as scared.

With a**l penetration I recommend using a thick lubricant that is either silicone, or water based (safe for use with condoms). I consider plain ole KY to be one of the better brands since it's thick and doesn't have extra junk that could be irritating. I would also recommend pre-lubrication and "stretching" before penetration...as foreplay.

When the moment happens where you start be sure to go very very slowly and pay attention to your body. If you feel pain then you should stop. I also would give the advice of "clearing some space" before you do anything (enemas can help but are complicated to do).

Posted: Fri Dec 25, 2009 4:23 pm

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First of all, relax. Set the tone with some romanticism (for you literature dorks, I do not mean read him Thoreau or Dickinson). Perhaps a sensual massage and some candles. Beforehand, make sure he actually goes and cleans his butthole thoroughly. Use lots of lube and a condom.

In a completely unrelated statement, serious props on the Romanticism reference!

In related news, one of my friends told me that his first time was made easier for him because his boyfriend reassured him beforehand that he could stop at any time if it ever got painful.

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Posted: Fri Dec 25, 2009 4:36 pm

Don't push it, let it come naturally. Its something that you'll "slip" into. If you do try to rush it. Have your BF relax, and you better go slow. Oh and use a condom.

Posted: Thu Jan 14, 2010 4:56 pm

A gay friend of mine says it's easier if you get him off first. Makes it easier for him to relax and let things flow. And the prospect of a second orgasm is always nice. XD

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Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 7:03 pm

my frst time, well, no condom, no actual lube, but tons of gentle massaging in that area, and he used saliva (on his finger, thank god) to lubricate, and when it came time to penetrate, i was very relaxed in that area and moved into a possition that opened me up as much as possible (we found this to be the tipical all fours possition, though other times squatting over his "bits" worked fine as well). oh yeah, and we found that fingering can be a good way to stretch too, by increasing the number of fingers as i became more streched. hope you got something helpful out of that... that was a bit embarrasssing

Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 8:43 pm

' wahmbulance [DON'T READ THIS IF YOU ARE DISTURBED BY "p***s, a**, a**s, and POO]

WAIT!

I'm a bottom my self...

First, Mr. BOTTOM should go to the bathroom first. If there is waste in there, and I mean, real waste, your p***s will push it in and its going to be sadly painful.

Secondly, I recommend, like Zero Fail said, water based lubricant. KY is a real good one and that's the one I use myself.

Third, the right position is the key to un-painful penetration. Trust me, this wont hurt a bit if you use the right one. How do you define the right position? You will discover the right one with time BUT... try to be relax. I had THREE miss trials before goal. And yes, one missed trial is a total PAIN in the a**...literately.

This pain is... very...very horrible. You want to make yourself dust, and you torque your body with a lot of tension. So. When ever he says STOP!!!!!!.....DO. Cuz this is a hell of a dark pain.

So... after the first trial...with fair amount of lube, over your p***s and the bottoms a**s, try it again. You don't really need to finger if you don't want too. I never do; never hurts.

The best position..and is the one I highly recommend for the first time, which also could be the right position which wont hurt a bit.

Since I'm not good at describing, I made this for you:

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I like this one for many reasons. First, its comfortable. Second, your body is curved in a way the forces your muscles to un-tense. Thirdly, you can kiss at the same time and play with the bottoms pee pee at the same time...

Humans can control the a**s sphincter, so tell him to un-tense it.. In other words, Tell him not to CLOSE his a**!

Really... This is totally painless and your p***s will go right into it with fair lube, relaxation and positioning. After the first position, you can try other variants since the door has been broken!

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Now, when in the action... Go on his command. Start pushing you p***s through. At first, you'll think it wont enter. But, it will slowly begin to enter and when its half in, just lean over and get close to him. It will go IN automatically. After its in, ask him if it hurts... and try to do some movement. Pushing too deep could make a slight uncomfortable feeling for him... so try not to....unless he screams for it, of course.

Hope this helps blaugh

You can PM me if you need some more tips or a more private talk. I'm very experienced in the matter. Well...at-least I'm a Pro PAINLESS-TRATION ASSOCIATION of the GAY COMMUNITY lmao.

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