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buggsie blue

PostPosted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 8:14 pm


I've been bothered by my mothers fiance for months now. He won't leave me alone. It seems all he cares about is his dishes, and he's the one who piles them up. This makes me angry, a lot, and feeling that way makes my heart feel tired. Getting out of bed in the morning needs force. I just feel so tired and angry all the time, and when I start to calm down, he ends up saying something so incredibly horrible about my grandfather (who just had 4 strokes) that all I can do is walk away.
Any advice on how to go about fixing this?
Note: I'm doing this for the benefit of everyone, as the tension in this house is terrible.
PostPosted: Tue Jan 19, 2010 4:37 am


Try to figure out what his intentions are. It may help you understand why he acts the way he does. But one should approach everything and everyone with love and compassion (even if you are not shown it back). Every human being desires happiness and, deep down inside of this person you struggle with, he does too.
Maybe he's treating you how he has always been treated, so that's all he knows. If you show him that people can be good maybe he'll turn around. But even if he never changes his attitude at least you did.
No good can come out of reacting negatively ever. But reacting positively will give the situation a chance to be resolved.
Just remember that everything he does is because he thinks either consciously or subconsciously it will make him happy. You also want happiness so you both have a common goal. Help each other achieve it smile

ATurtleDove


buggsie blue

PostPosted: Tue Jan 19, 2010 6:09 pm


Thank you.
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