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Phoebe-Sakura
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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 8:45 pm

Light first comes as grains, and then as waves...

So I have these friends that I've known for a long, long time that I used to be really tight with.

Now, they barely talk to me, it's like they're avoiding me, and we never have fun together anymore. (We can barely crack any jokes that make each other laugh for one...)

So what should I do? I want to be friends with them forever, but we're drifting further and further away...

Should I try and ask them what's wrong? But I might seem desperate or annoying or weird like that...

Should I ignore them and just see what happens? But they might not be my friends for good....

I don't know! What would you do in a situation like this?

...You flutter as a bird, and then as the world.

Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 9:53 pm

oh! I have received wise yet disgusting advice on this subject before.
Something along the lines of:
Relationship problems are like herpes outbreaks.... you can ignore them until they pass, but they always end up coming back.

It sounds like you still really care about your friends or you wouldn't be torn up about this, non? If that is the case and you suspect they are avoiding you for some reason, I would try getting to the bottom of this problem... even if it makes you come off as the clingy one. Problems never fix themselves!
And in my experience, people that suddenly distance themselves aren't trying to escape. They are only waiting for somebody else to make the first move.

...On the other hand, if asking them blows up in your face, at least you know you did all you could to salvage the friendship?

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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 10:32 pm

I agree. Talk to them, see what's going on. Maybe they're having a hard time right now and don't want to be bothered. Or something like that.

Posted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 8:28 pm

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oh! I have received wise yet disgusting advice on this subject before.
Something along the lines of:
Relationship problems are like herpes outbreaks.... you can ignore them until they pass, but they always end up coming back.

It sounds like you still really care about your friends or you wouldn't be torn up about this, non? If that is the case and you suspect they are avoiding you for some reason, I would try getting to the bottom of this problem... even if it makes you come off as the clingy one. Problems never fix themselves!
And in my experience, people that suddenly distance themselves aren't trying to escape. They are only waiting for somebody else to make the first move.

...On the other hand, if asking them blows up in your face, at least you know you did all you could to salvage the friendship?

hawaiiboy21

I agree. Talk to them, see what's going on. Maybe they're having a hard time right now and don't want to be bothered. Or something like that.

Light first comes as grains, and then as waves...

Thanks you guys~ ^_^

I really appreciate the advice; it's very good! I'll do my best and take it.

Hopefully, things will get better.

...You flutter as a bird, and then as the world.

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