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 Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:14 pm
I'm with my first girlfriend ive ever had and i'm having issues pleasing her in bed can any one help me out?
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:23 pm
Communication. You have to be comfortable with each other, and talk about what feels good. If she knows how to do it herself then she should be able to guide you into doing it how she likes.
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:38 pm
thats what is hard. she wont even take off her cloths when we have sex so i can see what i'm doing. it's all sorts of weird
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:48 pm
You may want to still talk to her about it. Maybe she doesn't feel fully ready to have sex.
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:51 pm
maybe i'm trying to hard i dont know. it took along time before i could evern touch her. she wants to get a sex change and is trying to start the proses so i dont know if thats part of it or not
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:57 pm
From male to female or from female to male?
You definitely need to talk to your partner about this. I can say that a lot of transgender people are uncomfortable with their genitals, and many would prefer not to be touched at all.
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:05 pm
female to male. she complanes no mater what i do i kind of want to give up
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:13 pm
Yeah, I would say you might want to slow down and improve the communication. I know it may sound dumb, but communication really IS everything when it comes to relationships, honestly. My shortest relationship was 6 months long, and people have asked me why I haven't had any shorter ones - it's all about communication and trust. wink
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:14 pm
Alright. I can totally clear this right up. If this individual is serious about transitioning from female to male then I can assure you that is the problem as to why he cannot orgasm.
I'm going to make some generalizations, whey I say FTMs I mean based on my experiences, and most FTMs. It's not universal.
Transmen do not like their genitals. For many there is a complete disattachment, for some any form of sex where they're touched is traumatizing. There's a big problem in trying to visualize your own genitals as what "should be there."
Bring it up to him. If he's complaining then don't do it.
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:16 pm
she can get off cause ive done it before i just cant every time. i've told her i'm kind of lacking in the exparence departmentand that i will get beter with time but i'm not getting better.
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Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:24 pm
Can't really tell ya much else to do with him besides communication.
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