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 Posted: Thu Mar 25, 2010 9:57 pm
I haven't dated. Not yet anyway. I've always avoided it because I know what they'd eventually want. Well I figured that Asexuals had to date other Asexuals but then some of you are dating... none asexuals? Anyway, how does that work? Do you just not have sex? Or just not... you know, often?
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Posted: Fri Mar 26, 2010 3:54 am
you go to sleep, lol.
a lot of asexuals date sexuals, but usually talk over it and find a compromise or rules. some will have sex with their partner to make them happy, others decide not to have sex at all.
luckily, i have an ace boyfriend, so i don't worry about these things.
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Posted: Fri Mar 26, 2010 2:33 pm
I do what everyone does in bed at night...sleep! mrgreen
If you're uncomfortable with doing anything more, you shouldn't have to bend so far just for the sake of your partner. Their needs and wants are not anymore/less important than your own.
As an asexual that is something sexual people need to understand.
We're both just facts of nature, balls to bone.
Don't stress too much about it.
Even sexual people who date don't always, immediately expect t sex to be the requisite to a relationship. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Mar 26, 2010 4:56 pm
Thank you. I was just curious. ^-^
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Posted: Sat Mar 27, 2010 2:58 am
i dont know.....due to my oddness on top of asexuality.....i havent gottennearly that far
T:~:T
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Posted: Sat Mar 27, 2010 3:18 pm
I had a partner for three years (before I stopped being monogamous) and I have no idea if ey was/is asexual or not. We never talked about it. We didn't have sex and we never talked about that either. I'm pretty open, telling everyone that I'm asexual so anyone who starts flirting with me knows what ey's dealing with.
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Posted: Sat Apr 03, 2010 2:51 pm
Some asexuals don't mind having sex, right? I thought I heard that somewhere. That some asexuals don't particularly enjoy sex, but they don't dislike it either. I figure that for those asexuals, they'd have sex with their partner for their partner's happiness.
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 4:09 pm
Generally you just compromise, but in the end you have to do what you think will be good for you and your partner.
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Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 1:42 am
I am married to a sexual, but I have no issue giving him sex - its not something which is off putting, I just do not understand the need for it or the desire of it
I have the urge a couple times a year it seems, but if something catches my attention while its going on it gets lost and wont be found for how ever long - its just how it is.
My hubby knew what he was getting into when he married me.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:04 pm
I'm dating a non-asexual, and at least so far, we just don't have sex. I mean, even in a relationship with two sexuals, sex isn't necessarily required -- it all depends on the people involved and what they believe or are comfortable doing. I've known lots of sexual friends who've held relationships together without sex -- and most of them don't even believe in saving it for marriage or anything. If one partner is pressuring the other for sex, the one being pressured has the right to say no, for any reason.
So if it's that way for sexuals, why should an asexual in a relationship be required to have sex?
As for myself... I'm not against sex. I just don't care -- it's not something I actively seek, and I don't see sex as special. I'm quite close with my girlfriend -- if she were to bring the subject up, I might take her up on it. But so far... she knows I'm not all that interested, and is fine with it. (In fact, she said one time that she loves that I'm asexual -- a lot of her past relationships soured due to her partner sleeping around or dating her only for the sex.) If it becomes a defining feature of our relationship, however, then I might have to have a sit down with her, but I don't forsee that happening.
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 12:43 am
i dunno id just sleep....XD
but i dunno i just want a girl seeking real adventure as in traveing and stuff, anime and art of any form a cute smart girl...in short whos not too much of a perv is that too much to ask?
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2011 5:38 am
Sleep, talk, kiss/cuddle (if you want), play games (like scrabble), watch films and DVDs, have pillow fights.
My non-ace boyfriend stays over sometimes and that's what we do.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2011 10:42 am
My significant other is sexual but I am not. He craves for my body sometimes, but he fully respects my wishes against sexual acts. I had to endure sex or sexual acts and pretend I like them all for the sake of him, but he said he would rather not get anything if I wasn't enjoying it. He said "yes my body would like that, but I would feel incredibly awful if you went through something just to make me happy". So basically, he put my happiness first.
I actually dislike touching of any kind but I like to hug and kiss lightly on the mouth (like tapping or smooches) and cuddle in bed. I think he takes care of the sexual frustration himself in the bathroom (I even told him he could imagine me if it helps which I could care less about imagination).
I do feel bad that he got stuck with a person who can't satisfy his physical needs but we're still happy together. He'd rather not have sex because he just feels like it's wrong to make someone who clearly doesn't enjoy it endure it all for the sake of a physical thrill. We connect in other ways. smile
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