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I think in most cases, it's definitely about figuring out and realizing one's asexuality rather than deciding to become asexual. It's something that is already there; the person just has to acknowledge its existence.

Anyways, my personal road to discovery:

I never dated during junior high or high school. Some of that was because I wasn't exactly grade A material I admit, but I also just didn't express a lot of interest in actually pursuing any girls like other guys were. I found myself annoyed at the horny comments other boys would make in class at times about the girls or the way they'd treat them, which seemed sexist to me. They seemed to view the girls more as sexual objects than appreciating their individual personalities and who they were as people. I often rolled my eyes at the things the boys would say and quietly agreed with the girls amusedly as they whipped back retorts.

Then when I started college, I dated a girl online. That's when I first thought about taking things to the next step, etc., even though the relationship wasn't in person, and I realized that I had no interest in doing so. I loved talking with her at long lengths every night and appreciated comfort and physical affection like cuddling and hugs, but I had no desire to kiss her or ever have sexual relations with her. I spoke with her about it and another friend of mine too, and they both weren't sure quite what to make of it. As the friend put it, finding a guy who wasn't interested in sex was like finding a pink elephant. ^^; My friend suggested that perhaps I just needed time to become comfortable with it. I figured that maybe she was right.

I told my mom about my troubles at the time, and she suggested that perhaps all I wanted was a romantic relationship with a woman without any sexual involvement. I asked her if that was even possible, and she told me that it was rare but that there had indeed been people like that before. Then one day she pulled an article out of the paper for me, and I read it. It was about asexuality, and that was the first time I'd ever heard the term.

Finally, I signed up to a few different dating websites as a final test to see if I had any interest in dating and possibly something after that of course. However, my conclusion after some time was that all that I could get out of a relationship that I would enjoy was available in a close friendship while a relationship would come with other things that I wasn't interested in and a role that I couldn't play. That's when I decided that I was asexual; I stopped browsing the dating sites and quit asking my friends for dating advice, etc. 3nodding

i never really had the same interest in boys as other girls my age when i was younger.
it was around the age thirteen when i started to realize that if i were to be in a relationship i would be expected to have sex. which bothered me a lot because it wasn't something i was interested at all. for the next few years i pondered "can you love someone and not have sex with them?""i would totally date girls except i don't like them either" etc etc
when i found out about asexuality it was a big relief to me. the possibility i wouldn't have to be alone, and knowing there were others like me made me feel much better. i guess i'm more confident with who i am.

Well, being asexual is something natural as it is being homosexual, lesbian,strait, trans etc...
As far, you do not become asexual.

The thing is that, realizing it, is not that easy, because you do not have any knowledge in the start or at least, you believe that will get "normal" meanwhile time pass, even knowing, you do not like certain things.

Now, how did I discover it?
In short...A pervert from a chat room(( after several attempts to make me fall in his games)) , asked me, if I was, I got curious about the term and realized what was happening with me.

Oh wow... I hadn't known anyone yet that had a definite physical link in terms of the cause. o.o

How did you find out about the tumours? Are they benign, I hope? When you say that it prevented the release of hormones, did it cause pubertal development problems physically in addition to lacking much of a sex drive?

I'm sorry if my questions are too personal to answer, but I have to admit that even I'm curious now since my own asexuality has no immediately apparent physical cause as far as medical tests I've gone through. I've had my various hormones' levels checked multiple times via blood tests, but I've never had a CAT scan of my brain or anything like that. sweatdrop

I viewed myself as "bisexual, I guess, since I'm equally attracted to either gender... or unattracted to either gender." When my gay and straight friends were first learning about their sexual preferences. I had no intentions of dating or anything ever.
I was probably only 14 and really getting into the internet and stumbled onto the term asexual online rather randomly. I found AVEN, lots of info, and just kinda thought that now I had a term, a label, I wasn't alone, and that was that. I came out to my close irl friends on my livejournal - "I'm asexual, heres the link to the AVEN FAQ, any questions?" They were supportive, and eventually I came out to my parents, who weren't surprised, and since then its been a non-issue to me.
I'm 23 now, asexual and pretty much aromantic, and consider myself damn lucky I found out early, everyone in my life was awesome and understanding, and I've never had a problem with not knowing who I was. Some people in my life don't know yet, but thats just because it hasn't come up yet. I've read up and have handled enough asshats on the internet to know what to answer to any questions people IRL will ask me.