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 Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 12:39 pm
When did you realize you were asexual, and how has it changed you since then?
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Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 5:38 pm
I was around 12 or 13 when I stumbled upon the term asexuality. I had always been disgusted by sex, but I assumed I was just a "late bloomer" and would desire sex in the future. When I read about asexuality, I began to wonder if I was an asexual, which scared me because I had always desired to get married, have kids, and live a "normal" life. I was very upset because I thought I'd be forever single if I didn't like sex, and I spent many nights crying. As time went on, though, I began to accept it. Now, I'm okay with the possibility of being forever single. I'm also aware that I could meet an asexual woman and have a non-sexual relationship with her.
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 4:06 pm
I realized I was asexual when I was about 15 I guess.. Maybe before then, but I learned about the term when I was about 15. Anyways, I think I was more excited that I could finally understand what was going on with me. Although I do date from time to time it is generally short lasted.
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Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 5:29 pm
Around last Christmas...I had been in some romantic relationships before, but would get scared if it even looked like it was going to turn sexual. At first I thought it was because of some medicine I was taking, but after finding out that it doesn't have seuxal side effects, I figured I was just sick. I did some research and stumbled upon asexuality. It matched me almost perfectly.
I have no desire for sex, marriage, children (especially the last one; I have some conditions that I'd rather not pass on to future generations)...and I'm happy.
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:21 am
I found the term when I was 16 or 17. Personally it gave me confidence in who I was and know what I am.
Before that I thought something was wrong with me. I wasn't interested in relationships or humping every second person I saw. When I found AVEN, so many of my questions were explained. I was not alone, I was normal, and ever since my sexuality has been a non issue to me.
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Posted: Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:56 am
Well, I'd heard the term ages ago from an ace friend, but I never really connected it with me because I still had some romantic feelings. I looked it up earlier this year when my friend told me they thought I was asexual. Yeah.. So the friend was totally right. Friendships seem to be so much easier, but I still consider myself semi-romantic. I do think it's a big part of my identity. I always just thought I was kind of alien, as I'm a fairly odd person (in more ways than this alone), but I feel more comfortable, and more human now.
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Posted: Wed Jan 12, 2011 4:31 pm
I didn't change, things just made a heck load more sense.
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Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 4:53 pm
When I first heard the term asexual, something just kind of clicked. Like, "Ah. So it's not just be after all. Fantastic." The only things that really changed were that I could do a slightly better job explaining things to people (side note: the friends and family I've told have been a bit bemused, but altogether quite supportive); and I pay more attention to asexuality as a subject in other media. Like... I spotted the asexual reference in the book Will Grayson, Will Grayson and had a total SQUEEE~EE! moment, heh heh.
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Posted: Sun Feb 20, 2011 8:11 pm
It's so strange. I used to joke about being asexual all the time when I was around 16/17 b/c I wasn't interested in relationships or sex at all, not realizing that it was an actual orientation. I actually only found out recently, and I'm 20. I was on an online site taking some quizzes (I love online quizzes!) when I got asexual as a result, and that made me go "What? It actually exists?!!". So after that I did research and found Aven, and it explained so much! It has changed my life b/c I feel so much more comfortable with my sexuality now, and I can better deal with the dating world. Plus I get to tell my sister, "See? It's not just that I haven't found the right person or that I have to keep screwing until I start liking it. It's because I'm asexual, and you and anyone else in my life will just have to deal with that." ^_^
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