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 Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 9:26 am
I wish I knew how to keep little kids from touch my altar! My boyfriend's Bro came over with his son, and he drank the water that was in my chalice! He dumped my incense ashes everywhere, now I have to get a new altar cloth. I also have a rose on my Altar, and this rose means a lot to me because my boyfriend got a bouquet of roses for me over 2 years ago. They were the first roses I ever received in my life. And This single rose was the only one to survive because my lil brother thought it would be fun to shove all the flowers in my game cube...
But the kid almost ATE it! I caught him just in time. How do you keep a kid from touching your altar, when his parents tell him its fine? I was scolding him and his mom went "He's just a little kid, he doesn't know better." Then gave him ice cream! Now he goes over there all the time cause he thinks his mommy will reward him for it. Idk what to do!!
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Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 2:08 pm
In your situation I think you need to talk to his parents, and inform them that yes you realize their child is young however they need to understand your home is not child proof or child friendly and remind them that as his parents it is their responsibility to make sure he is not getting into your things or destroying your property. This goes for any age. You also need to tell them that those things are sacred to you, and are strictly hands off, and if they wish to bring THEIR child into YOUR home they need to keep him away from it. I realize this sounds harsh and mildly bitchy however it is your home you have every right to set the rules in your home, and they as guests need to respect them if they wish to be welcome in your home.
Other tricks:
You can lure him away from the altar by giving him pots and a wooden spoon to play with instead or if you wish to avoid headaches you could pick up a few toys at a second hand shop, thrift store, or yard sales to keep in a basket for when he visits so there is something to play with instead of your altar.
Also you may consider moving your altar to a non public area in the home or putting your items up into a cupboard when you know they will be visiting.
I have had an altar for over 12 years and it has survived 4 nieces (15, 14, 7, & 6) , 2 nephews (16 & 1) and my own daughter (4). There may have been a few violations along they way, but nothing serious and simply telling them that those are Aunt Jen's/ Mommy's specials and they break easy so please don't touch them worked fairly well, they did need reminded along the way but they get it. If he is old enough to get into things he is old enough to have the behavior corrected. While being little does mean that the child doesn't know better it also means their parents must TEACH them better.
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Posted: Wed Apr 07, 2010 4:44 pm
I agree with MercyWild, completely. It's your home, so you have every right to take care of your belongings and decide who is welcome to your house and who isn't. You should tell his parents that if they can't keep their son from messing with your belongings, then they can't bring him over anymore.
They really need to teach their son how to behave when he's a guest in someone else's house. It's bad parenting to just let a kid do whatever he/she wants. :/
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Posted: Fri Apr 09, 2010 7:17 pm
Thanks guys.
Thankfully they don't come over too often. I tried talking to his mom a few days ago, but she just blew it off. She also told me that she gave me the little thing that my alter is on and that my books are in, so her son can touch it if he wants. I'm so pissed!! And since this isn't my house ((I am living in my boyfriend's house with him and his father. I really don't have a say who can and can't come over. Especially since its my boyfriend's brother. He just brings her and his son...)).
His brother said that he would watch his kid more carefully. But he always has to do stuff for her, so the kid goes unsupervised... that woman should not be a mom...sorry...I was about to get into another rant :[ She makes me so angry! There's another thing that is bothering me about her, and it has to do with Beltane, but idk if I wanna go into it razz
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Posted: Sun Apr 11, 2010 1:19 am
Ohh, I see, so you can't keep him from coming over. That's a shame. What a rude thing of his mom to say though, that he can do what he wants with anything she gave you! I mean, if she gave it to you, it's yours now, not hers. Guess that kind of logic escapes her. stare
Hmm, maybe you can put a protection spell on the altar when he's not there? Something to make it uninteresting to him. Or as MercyWild mentioned, it could be helpful to get a couple of inexpensive toys to keep him distracted.
Since you mentioned that your boyfriend's Dad also lives there, have you brought the issue up with him? Maybe if the boy and his Mom won't listen to you, they'll listen to Grandpa.
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