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Blood Red Layces

PostPosted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 6:29 pm


((UMM...SLIGHT HARMFUL MATERIAL? PLEASE CONTINUE ONLY IF YOU FEEL UP TO IT, I GUESS.))

Alright. Before I think I mentioned of my friend who joined guard, but then was booted out for having to lie to skip a practice due to SERIOUS boyfriend issues. ((He was cheating on her, but she's obsessed with him.)) She's naturally beautiful, and she's got an extremely charming character. Thing is, she doesn't make the best decisions.

And now, after being kicked out of guard, she now hangs out with some strange people. ((Druggies, underage smokers and drinkers, and the lot.)) It was only during guard that she quit everything.

Just recently she passed out twice in a day to to heavy drinking with a bunch of underage 'friends' with no parental permission or supervision. In the same day after getting up, she went with a few friends to a local hookah bar and smoked hookah. I'm really scared for her and I don't know what to do.

If I ask my coach to let her back in, I'll get in trouble for her current actions, and probably won't be able to return anyways. Is there anything I can do? Colorguard was all she talked about even though she was new, and now she talks of her new friends at the bars and alcohol and such.
PostPosted: Tue Jan 03, 2006 10:58 pm


Definitely between a rock and a hard place there, aren't you?

I don't know what to tell you, because this is not the type of situation I've found myself in too often. First, though, you have to judge every action you make by how much you are in her life and how much you feel you can take on. You have to be prepared mentally for what actions you take.

Talk to someone you can trust that is an adult. It's lame, it's cliche, but it's necessary. You can't do this on your own, no matter how hard you try. I know, I've tried. It hurts you more than you want to allow. So find someone--counselor, her parent(s), your parent(s), teacher, anyone.

Assess where you stand in her eyes and use your position to your advantage any way you can. If you're close to her and she values your opinion, then use that. If she doesn't think much of you, use the fact that you don't have much of a standing to take a risk and try to help her.

Don't try to do things in secret, don't pretend you understand and don't get involved with anything to prove you have empathy.

Good luck.

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Erin Sovenya

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 10:26 pm


Talk to your instructor. Tell him that shes having issues (but don't specify what they are, refuse to elaborate) and that the only time she was problem-free was while she was in colorguard. If s/he is still all "no", then see if there are any independent guards in the area that will take her.

Otherwise, try to hook her on something else. Seriously anything. Scooer, Tennis, Karate, musicals, video games, terry pratchett, pencils, whatever.
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