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 Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2010 6:20 am
I don't want another until quite sometime down the road.
At the very least until my daughter is out of diapers.
But I always worry if I were to have another one if I would love that baby as much as I love my daughter.
She made me a mother and everything was/is so new and scary but exciting.
I can't ask my mom about it since I'm an only child myself.
Does anyone have more than one child or similar concerns?
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Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2010 2:57 pm
I constantly worry about that.
I wanted to have atleast 2-3 kids. But I doubt I will have another one. I'm worried that a. I will have another child with congenital heart disease and that will take away from my son and his mommy time or b. I will have a healthy baby and I will either not be able to love that child like I do Jeffrey because he's so special, or that the healthy child will miss out and suffer because I am so dedicated to Jeffrey.
I think it's pretty common to have those worries. I think we all do. My mom had my sister and I and she said she worried about that but that it turned out she loved us both equally. I could see worrying about it but then once you start feeling the new life move and whatnot you would grow just as attached and it would be equal.
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xoxoPink Supremexoxo Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2010 3:21 pm
Going off of your prier post another child wouldn't be good for you right now. You already seem kinda trapped with one baby and it would be worse with two.
I don't have more then one kid but I babysit 3 kids along with taking care of my daughter and I know for a fact it would be hell to pack them all up to go anywhere rofl
Now if the question is stiming from a chance you might be pregnant only you can possibly know whats best, could you handle another hardly a yr from the first? (The first would be a 1 before the baby was born). Could you handle massive amounts of home time and could you handle is money wise? I don't need answers but you should think those things over.
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Posted: Thu Jun 03, 2010 3:28 pm
I know that when I have my 3 year old step son it is so hard to take him and my son (5 months) out. 3 years isn't bad because the 3 year old helps out..but ugh having them only a year apart, would probably drive me crazy.
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Posted: Fri Jun 04, 2010 5:26 am
xoxoPink Supremexoxo I constantly worry about that.
I wanted to have atleast 2-3 kids. But I doubt I will have another one. I'm worried that a. I will have another child with congenital heart disease and that will take away from my son and his mommy time or b. I will have a healthy baby and I will either not be able to love that child like I do Jeffrey because he's so special, or that the healthy child will miss out and suffer because I am so dedicated to Jeffrey.
I think it's pretty common to have those worries. I think we all do. My mom had my sister and I and she said she worried about that but that it turned out she loved us both equally. I could see worrying about it but then once you start feeling the new life move and whatnot you would grow just as attached and it would be equal. that would be terrible. im sorry you have to go through that. i worried my whole pregnancy if my daughter would be healthy and worry about every cough and sniffle. my aunt said something similar to what your mom said. idk i just cant imagine loving someone else as much as i love her. shes the one that made me a mother and basically saved my life in a sense.
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Posted: Fri Jun 04, 2010 5:27 am
Z-MusicalChairMassacre-U Going off of your prier post another child wouldn't be good for you right now. You already seem kinda trapped with one baby and it would be worse with two. I don't have more then one kid but I babysit 3 kids along with taking care of my daughter and I know for a fact it would be hell to pack them all up to go anywhere rofl Now if the question is stiming from a chance you might be pregnant only you can possibly know whats best, could you handle another hardly a yr from the first? (The first would be a 1 before the baby was born). Could you handle massive amounts of home time and could you handle is money wise? I don't need answers but you should think those things over. oh hun i wouldnt have another until my daughter was at least 3 or 4.
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Posted: Fri Jun 04, 2010 5:49 am
In that case I know I'm gonna = D. I was in a bad place too when I had my daughter and she made me SO much better. Shes done more for me then her baby mind could ever understand but I don't think my life will be complete without pitter-pattering of feet up and down my halls followed by giggles and laughter blaugh .
I don't know you personally but I doin't think love would be a issue. Infact whille your pregnant you'll be talking to your daughter about the oncoming baby and having her touch your belly and say "baby brother/sister", it would melt my heart in any case. I think having the first kid love the baby makes it all the more easy for you to do it <3
I didn't get that with mine sweatdrop The kids I watched were young and didn't fully understand so they would say thing like "when that babys born I'm gonna steal it and cook it" burning_eyes but they love her now. I think it more so depends on your daughter and if she turns out to be the jealous "No one can be held by mommy but me!" or the lovling lap shareing big sister.
Anyway thats just what I was thinking XD
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Posted: Fri Jun 04, 2010 5:53 am
I'd wait until Emily was in school so I'd have time while she was at school for the baby and she'd be old enough to help and be given chores. I do worry though that a second isn't like a first and won't be as loved but I think for me it will be different because Emily was a c-section so hopefully with another baby I can actually have a delivery. Then I'd have had a special delivery experience with both of them.
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Posted: Sat Jun 05, 2010 4:28 pm
Z-MusicalChairMassacre-U In that case I know I'm gonna = D. I was in a bad place too when I had my daughter and she made me SO much better. Shes done more for me then her baby mind could ever understand but I don't think my life will be complete without pitter-pattering of feet up and down my halls followed by giggles and laughter blaugh . I don't know you personally but I doin't think love would be a issue. Infact whille your pregnant you'll be talking to your daughter about the oncoming baby and having her touch your belly and say "baby brother/sister", it would melt my heart in any case. I think having the first kid love the baby makes it all the more easy for you to do it <3 I didn't get that with mine sweatdrop The kids I watched were young and didn't fully understand so they would say thing like "when that babys born I'm gonna steal it and cook it" burning_eyes but they love her now. I think it more so depends on your daughter and if she turns out to be the jealous "No one can be held by mommy but me!" or the lovling lap shareing big sister. Anyway thats just what I was thinking XD omg. those children would frighten me. eek im probably going to ask her how she feels about it when she gets older.
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Posted: Sat Jun 05, 2010 4:32 pm
Sukuya I'd wait until Emily was in school so I'd have time while she was at school for the baby and she'd be old enough to help and be given chores. I do worry though that a second isn't like a first and won't be as loved but I think for me it will be different because Emily was a c-section so hopefully with another baby I can actually have a delivery. Then I'd have had a special delivery experience with both of them. yeah thats what i was thinking. ugh i begged for a c section. i had a natural birth since the epidural didnt take and it lasted forever. i didnt care about the healing part since my downstairs hurt so bad after. and my butt. i had to get an episiotomy. id suggest if they give you a choice to get another c section. but of course thats up to you.
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Posted: Sat Jun 05, 2010 4:42 pm
I should've had a c-section but since they didn't find my son's condition they thought he was healthy and I gave birth naturally.
Epidural didn't work with me either and they had to cut me (didn't even warn me they were doing it) 12 stitches...mmm fun,..then 12 hours later I had to go for a 5 hour car ride and sleep on hospital waiting room chairs.
I never want another kid!!!
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Posted: Sat Jun 05, 2010 7:16 pm
Z0mb1na Sukuya I'd wait until Emily was in school so I'd have time while she was at school for the baby and she'd be old enough to help and be given chores. I do worry though that a second isn't like a first and won't be as loved but I think for me it will be different because Emily was a c-section so hopefully with another baby I can actually have a delivery. Then I'd have had a special delivery experience with both of them. yeah thats what i was thinking. ugh i begged for a c section. i had a natural birth since the epidural didnt take and it lasted forever. i didnt care about the healing part since my downstairs hurt so bad after. and my butt. i had to get an episiotomy. id suggest if they give you a choice to get another c section. but of course thats up to you. I really wanted a vaginal delivery but somehow deep down inside I knew that this was going to be a cesarean. I was extremely freaked out about it but now I am fine with it. I mean it didn't hurt as bad after wards as I thought. I just hope next time I get the way I want. Vaginal delivery with an epidural and a mirror to watch the baby's head come through. I kind of want a boy next time. I was scared that with a girl I would feel weird breast feeding her because it's a girl on my boob but now I know that she's amazing being who she is.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 6:41 am
xoxoPink Supremexoxo I should've had a c-section but since they didn't find my son's condition they thought he was healthy and I gave birth naturally.
Epidural didn't work with me either and they had to cut me (didn't even warn me they were doing it) 12 stitches...mmm fun,..then 12 hours later I had to go for a 5 hour car ride and sleep on hospital waiting room chairs.
I never want another kid!!! yeah they didnt tell me either. i dont think they ever do.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 6:43 am
I wanted a natural birth with no meds but it turned out if I did that I would have to take some meds I was allergic to during the labor so that wouldn't have been a good combo. I ended up having a C-section because I just never went into labor at all. It turned out Sasha's legs were tied and she couldn't move down.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 6:43 am
Sukuya Z0mb1na Sukuya I'd wait until Emily was in school so I'd have time while she was at school for the baby and she'd be old enough to help and be given chores. I do worry though that a second isn't like a first and won't be as loved but I think for me it will be different because Emily was a c-section so hopefully with another baby I can actually have a delivery. Then I'd have had a special delivery experience with both of them. yeah thats what i was thinking. ugh i begged for a c section. i had a natural birth since the epidural didnt take and it lasted forever. i didnt care about the healing part since my downstairs hurt so bad after. and my butt. i had to get an episiotomy. id suggest if they give you a choice to get another c section. but of course thats up to you. I really wanted a vaginal delivery but somehow deep down inside I knew that this was going to be a cesarean. I was extremely freaked out about it but now I am fine with it. I mean it didn't hurt as bad after wards as I thought. I just hope next time I get the way I want. Vaginal delivery with an epidural and a mirror to watch the baby's head come through. I kind of want a boy next time. I was scared that with a girl I would feel weird breast feeding her because it's a girl on my boob but now I know that she's amazing being who she is. if thats what you really want. i wouldnt suggest it though. have you seen a baby being delivered before? its weird and kind of scary looking.
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