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 Posted: Fri Jun 11, 2010 4:14 pm
I'm really not sure what to do, I'm kinda at my wits end.
My mother as much as I love her is taking over my life, I'm pregnant but apparently I have no say in my unborn child's life which is frustrating as I have to fight her over everything including my wish to breastfeed.
Grr I suppose I just need to rant but I just snapped when she wants to redecorate the nursery because she doesn't like the idea that I'm having my friends paints butterflies and ladybugs on the walls as she wants stickers of who knows what on them -_-...
Please tell me this is normal for grannies to be and not just my mum being controlling and demanding as I'm about to lose it with her
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Posted: Fri Jun 11, 2010 8:54 pm
My mom is the same way and she hasn't gotten any better since my son has been born.
Put your foot down, or you turn into me and I just give up over everythign!! sad
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xoxoPink Supremexoxo Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Jun 11, 2010 11:03 pm
Oh no! See I've already told her to stop it so many times and she does for like a week or two but comes back twice as strong and starts an argument over something else for example my aunt buying the cotbed set because it has teddy bears on and not safari wild life which I can't understand. -_-
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Posted: Sat Jun 12, 2010 8:54 am
I understand what your going through haha. It was little on the other side with me though, I couldn't breastfeed. It didn't work, sasha lost more weight then gained but everyone insisted I was doing something wrong or needed to try some other BFing method. You just have to put your foot down every single time until she catches on that you won't ever let it slide. Its like dealing with a kid, you let it slide once and they'll do it again hahaha.
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Z-MusicalChairMassacre-U Captain
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Posted: Sat Jun 12, 2010 11:05 am
Thanks Musical =D I'll just have to keep nagging at her...Today she seems cool she was even drawing up little designs of butterflies for the nursery as that's want I want on the walls...with any luck she'll remember she's the granny now and not a mummy any more lol
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Posted: Sat Jun 12, 2010 4:11 pm
My grandma does it for me. She bought her own stroller, swing, play pen, bouncer. She even keeps telling me to let Emily cry. I don't do that.
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Posted: Sat Jun 12, 2010 6:03 pm
My husbands mother did that. She basicly has her own bedroom for Sasha hahah. Thats okay with me, whatever she wants I guess as long as she isn't correcting my mothering methods
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Posted: Sun Jun 13, 2010 6:35 am
haha that's cool, I went to see and old school friend yesterday and her mother was like 'oh my gawd I have all of this stuff! I'll see if I don't want any and I'll give it to you.' apparently she's been buying bab things since her daughter amanda was little so she wouldn't have to spend anything once she finally becomes pregnant. That's forward thinking...
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Posted: Sun Jun 13, 2010 10:42 am
Wow hahah she really can't wait to be a grandma <3
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Posted: Sun Jun 13, 2010 8:22 pm
I know! Amanda says it's her scary obsession. the entire house is just full to the brim with all this baby stuff it's unreal lol
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Posted: Sun Jun 13, 2010 10:36 pm
My mother knew not to do that. I've been raising her youngest children since I was young and she knows that I am more than capable of mothering my own child. It also helps that my daughter is her 6th grandchild. My sister on the other hand... well she never grew out of the mind frame that I'm a little girl who needs to be told what to do. It's sad really especially since I was raising her children as well until I had my daughter.
It's like Musical said, let her get away with it once she will keep doing it. You must be firm.
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Posted: Mon Jun 14, 2010 9:20 am
my mom was/is that way to a certain extent.
i just told her how its going to be and if she doesnt like it she can leave.
im the mom and she didnt let her mother do the same to her.
she usually backs off.
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Posted: Mon Jun 14, 2010 11:29 am
Cool thanks for all the info...
I thought my mum had calmed down but now she's trying to tell me to buy a nursery set when I already have one and a new cotbed -_-...I've told her no who knows how many times and i'm slowly losing my patience. I don't want to shout at her but I've tried everything else grr...
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Posted: Wed Jun 23, 2010 1:01 am
Shouting won't help, it will just make her mad and try to use your lack of patience to make her point. Sit her down, have a calm discussion, and let her know that you appreciate her trying to help you, but you will be the child's mother, not her, and you are more than capable of making all decisions concerning the child. If she looks like she's going to balk, throw in a compliment or two like you don't need her help because you've already learned from the best, yada yada. You will never be the best mother you can be if she is constantly intervening.
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