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 Posted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 3:57 am
I don't mean to offend anyone, because i haven't brought it here before. I've had relationship problems as of late, that led to my marrage being disolved. I didn't file for divorce, my wife did. Long story short, i was on a different social networking website and vented some of my frustration out and talked to one of my longtime friends that i met here roughly four years ago on gaia. She in turn told everything i had said to my wife. My only problem lately has been, who can i honestly trust in / to confide in when i need to vent and just talk to someone rather than find myself at the bottom of a bottle of whiskey? I'm not some creepy old guy on gaia, i've been around since 05' by the name of Blood_AngelX24. Then switched accounts to my present screen name, because my old one got hacked. Anyways, it's become more and more apparent to me as of late that human kind is not to be trusted compleately. I can't confide in someone about everything. Because all it just did to me was come back around and bite me in the rear. I've prayed to god, christ, the angels and all them since i was little. I still don't know what his plans are for me seeing how i'm back at square one again after wasting five years on someone who i thought was worth the rest of my life, turned out to be a lier, cheat, and hurtful, selfish person. (btw the ex-wife of mine is athist, but chose to accept her....w/e) Fate only smiles on man every once in a great while. I can only hope that I'll be able to experance the same type of selfless love from another human being again. Because as a catholic, i know the one's above already, have been, and always will love me for who i am. That's my rant ~ ninja
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Posted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 2:57 pm
I know how you feel, it's things like that that have made me cling more to God and less to people in my life, it really detaches you..but that can be a good thing, we should be detached to an extent from people and the world and grow more close and attached to God, after all, we will be with Him for all eternity, and He deserves it completely,
well anyways, what helps me is, instead of just praying formal prayers(such as the rosary or Divine Mercy) when i need someone to talk to, i talk to God, i tell Him all the things on my mind, everything i would say to someone else,
and then when i'm done, i feel so much better,
if you give God your troubles, He will take them from you,
unless it's His will that we suffer in some certain way, but in that case all we have to do is ask for the strength to bear it, and He will strengthen us,
i know it can be hard to trust in people again after your trust has been broken, but keep this in mind, trust is earned, it's ok if you don't trust someone you don't know very well of course, and even those you've known for awhile, but are not incredibly close to,
but don't let those who have broken your trust ruin it for those you will know down the road in your life who really and truly are trustworthy, just give it time and be careful, but don't give up.
and about not knowing what God has planned for you? don't worry about that, no one every really knows Gods plan for them in advance except a rare few (such as some of the saints)
the best way to do Gods will though, is simply by being obedient to your superiors, that is how God works,
of course we should never obey anyone in sin, but other then that, by obeying our superiors we do Gods will.
but our purpose in this life is really of no incredible importance, although each of us play an important rule in Gods plan, but what i mean is, it's not something to be anxious for or to become attached to, because just like everything else in this world, we will have to leave it behind when we die, and so really the only things worth worrying over is to know, love, and serve God, which we do by keeping His commandments, practicing our virtues, and learning from and obeying His church, and then by doing those things with diligence and devotions, you will surely find your purpose in this life, and have all the right intentions in the process, because it won't be the world, the devil, or your own self interest that will be guiding you, it will be God guiding you, because you will be doing the only things He asks from any of us, which is simply to be good.
if you need someone to talk to though who you can talk back and forth with, you're priest would be the best person for that, because not only are priests good at keeping things confidential, but they can give you really good advice as well.
well, that's all for now, i hope this helps, if you have any questions at all, feel free to ask.
alright, take care, i'll be praying for you.
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Posted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 9:00 pm
I can understand your distrust in people. There always that ONE betrayal that just makes you wonder "why the heck do I even care about my fellow man?" Sometimes what may come to be either inspiring or can cause even greater misanthropy is the simple fact of too few people do.
It's always hard when someone you should be able to trust turns against you (it's happened to me) and that's just a risk you have to take with trusting someone. Just try your best to turn the other cheek, if you can't towards your betrayer then towards the rest of humanity then. Try to learn what you can but don't let it harden your heart too much.
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Posted: Sun Jul 25, 2010 1:03 pm
You didn't waste five years with your ex-wife, you spent five years loving a child of God who has lost her way. She may have hurt you...alot, but that doesn't really mean those five years were pointless, the thirty-three years of Christ's life were not in vain because humanity killed him, humanity killing him was the whole point of his life. You don't necessarily need to trust, but you do need to love. Even if they do hurt you, you can walk away remembering that you had loved and suffered, and that Satan has no power over you because of it.
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