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 Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 4:14 pm
I seriously feel like, as a bisexual woman, I deal with 2x the drama that regular lesbian or straight girls go through. I'm sure there are bi girls that don't have the same issues and dramatics that I do, but still... It's so confusing sometimes. Are there any other bisexual girls that feel the same way?
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 4:51 pm
IRL I don't tell to many people except people who are close to me. Through the internet I'm not so concerned... cause most likely I'll never meet them. But sometimes I do deal with drama. I have to worry that no one finds out.
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Prince Jace Darkwing Crew
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 5:19 pm
See, I sort of do, and sort of don't. I happen to be one of those people who don't give a rats a** what other people say about me, but I do have to worry about the people that I tell. If someone tells their mom, well, I have friends that are girls that I just want to stay my friends. ANd then, we grow distant becasue their mom doesnt want them hanging out with someone who's queer.
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Posted: Fri Jan 07, 2011 10:35 pm
i feel your pain... crying
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Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 12:10 pm
I agree with that because it is hard and the drama does doubles. It sucks sometimes and then you get overwhelmed and ugh. And I some what hate straight people more girls then guys. Guys can accept the fact that were lesbian or bi. Most guys think it's hot but when it comes to girls they freak out if you even touch them.... It makes me feel like crap and they look at you with those ugly looks and none of them ever think about how we feel!! I'm bisexual and it hurts me when I can't even tell my best friend that I'm bi because I know she won't talk to me and she will leave me because she thinks it's sick and disgusting. It hurts and she talks bad about bi people and lez to my face and it hurts but I don't say anything because I don't want to lose her...
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Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 12:56 pm
Ninjagirl2121 I agree with that because it is hard and the drama does doubles. It sucks sometimes and then you get overwhelmed and ugh. And I some what hate straight people more girls then guys. Guys can accept the fact that were lesbian or bi. Most guys think it's hot but when it comes to girls they freak out if you even touch them.... It makes me feel like crap and they look at you with those ugly looks and none of them ever think about how we feel!! I'm bisexual and it hurts me when I can't even tell my best friend that I'm bi because I know she won't talk to me and she will leave me because she thinks it's sick and disgusting. It hurts and she talks bad about bi people and lez to my face and it hurts but I don't say anything because I don't want to lose her... I getcha. Even though I haven't really been in your sitution I still understand it. My mom is kind of homophobic and talks badly about them sometimes >.<; and apparently she can't tell it pisses me off sometimes. But what can I say or do? It's not like she is trying to upset me. She just wants me to say "Hey guess what mom I was wrong and you where right I like guys, and just guys." No. It's not a damn choice gonk But anyway... about your friend. I think it might be better off telling her. But only when the time seems right. It might not seem right now. But think... maybe she might actually stop a little bit once she finds out about her best friend. That's just my opinion. Most of my friends just happen to be Bi-curious/bi/gay. So I really can't say to much. But my straight friends also tend to be really nice about the whole deal. Even if they do look like they are a little un-pleased by the fact they at least don't say to much. I can deal with small little jokes here and there. But once it leaves the joking range that's where I have to butt in and shut em up. Sorry I'm rambling. But anyway re-cap. If the time is right tell your friend. Maybe she might relax. But maybe at the same time you might lose her. Maybe you can bring up a topic on sexuality and try to talk with her. I don't know it's not my friend. I don't know her. If I knew her I would be able to pin-point what to do and when to do it. Sorry If I'm not much help.
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Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 2:52 pm
Well, I just want to say, I used to identify as bisexual. When I did, it was tough; people thought that I was "going through a phase". But, when I started doing more research, I found out that the best why to describe my sexuality is actually Pan. Now, when I describe what it means to be Pan to people, they think that it automatically makes me a slut.
All I want to say is this; be true to who you are. Don't let people get you down because if you let every little thing said about you get to you, you'll never be able to understand what makes you, you and that is one of the saddest things.
Just keep your head held high. We're here for you. heart
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 9:19 am
Both here and on Gaia.
Only because it's one of the few things that people have a hard time believing.
Scared the crap out of my mom though.
I told her I'd rather wear a Tux to prom than one of those god awful dresses she pointed at.
*Sighs*
I worry about the future generations.
And how sex appeal is growing.
=_='
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 11:45 am
I agree with you all. It's very difficult. But I find that if you only tell your TRUE friends, they won't make a big deal about it. It's your personality and your soul that counts. Not your SEXUALITY.
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 4:51 pm
crying Poor thing... Trust me... you are NOT the only one that feels this way. here's a pic to make you feel better: 
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 5:13 pm
I think it is hard to be Bi because of all the "barsexuals". (note; barsexuals are women that kiss other women in bar like settings or any other place to get men.)
I also think it because Bisexuals have the rep of dating BOTH men and women, witch make both sides annoyed anyways.(most of the time.)
Meh, thats my two cents. gonk
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 9:36 pm
Tsuki K Sakura Ninjagirl2121 I agree with that because it is hard and the drama does doubles. It sucks sometimes and then you get overwhelmed and ugh. And I some what hate straight people more girls then guys. Guys can accept the fact that were lesbian or bi. Most guys think it's hot but when it comes to girls they freak out if you even touch them.... It makes me feel like crap and they look at you with those ugly looks and none of them ever think about how we feel!! I'm bisexual and it hurts me when I can't even tell my best friend that I'm bi because I know she won't talk to me and she will leave me because she thinks it's sick and disgusting. It hurts and she talks bad about bi people and lez to my face and it hurts but I don't say anything because I don't want to lose her... I getcha. Even though I haven't really been in your sitution I still understand it. My mom is kind of homophobic and talks badly about them sometimes >.<; and apparently she can't tell it pisses me off sometimes. But what can I say or do? It's not like she is trying to upset me. She just wants me to say "Hey guess what mom I was wrong and you where right I like guys, and just guys." No. It's not a damn choice gonk But anyway... about your friend. I think it might be better off telling her. But only when the time seems right. It might not seem right now. But think... maybe she might actually stop a little bit once she finds out about her best friend. That's just my opinion. Most of my friends just happen to be Bi-curious/bi/gay. So I really can't say to much. But my straight friends also tend to be really nice about the whole deal. Even if they do look like they are a little un-pleased by the fact they at least don't say to much. I can deal with small little jokes here and there. But once it leaves the joking range that's where I have to butt in and shut em up. Sorry I'm rambling. But anyway re-cap. If the time is right tell your friend. Maybe she might relax. But maybe at the same time you might lose her. Maybe you can bring up a topic on sexuality and try to talk with her. I don't know it's not my friend. I don't know her. If I knew her I would be able to pin-point what to do and when to do it. Sorry If I'm not much help. No no thank you that did help me I'm just a little scared to tell her and I know wat ya mean on the mom thing my mon and step dad hate gays and bis and all that stuff and I just hate to sit there and take it. It sucks a lot and I hate it I stand up for it but they are so sickened by it I can't even tell my family that I'm bi first of all they think it's sick second of all I'm scared they won't love me anymore and third my family's Christain... And they believe that God doesn't love gays and bis and yeah... It sucks I wish people weren't like that...
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Posted: Sun Jan 09, 2011 9:41 pm
Valagra the Deatheater Both here and on Gaia.
Only because it's one of the few things that people have a hard time believing.
Scared the crap out of my mom though.
I told her I'd rather wear a Tux to prom than one of those god awful dresses she pointed at.
*Sighs*
I worry about the future generations.
And how sex appeal is growing.
=_=' Gah! I wanna wear a tux soooooo flipping bad to my dances but 1 my mom won't let me and 2 my bf won't like it );
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 5:45 pm
The only thing I find I dont like is that once people know your bi, or les they are constantly looking at you everytime you walk near them or say something a little 'odd.' I have girls coming up to me all the time asking if I had been hitting on them before, and I dont mean like they're interested. They are throoughly creeped out and want to make sure I wasnt hitting on them. I get over it though.
(My friends got so mad at me when I said I didnt want to a wear a dress ro our semi formal, well I look better in pants jeesh! )
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 6:17 pm
Yeah, most of my friends think i'm straight but... they don't know. i don't say much to them about it so... i deal with my feelings that come up between my friends and i... but they'll never know what i do feel.
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