Adrian Tyndall
Just get over it already. Swallow your pride, get over your fear, and freakin' talk to somebody. Let them get to know you. Or you really won't have any friends left at the end of the day.
Agreed 3 I've had a friend that I've known for years, but after those years I could no longer help her. Or rather she no longer accepted my help. Rarely did she, but I kept trying. Eventually, I got burned out trying to help her. I hadn't left her to be mean or selfish as she put it. It's just she made it clear I couldn't do anything to help her even though I had always been there for her through bad boyfriends, mediocre grades, and all around just needing company. She told me that she thought I was being.. I don't remember the words anymore, but every time she told me to help her with something specific or give advice, of course I did. Later, she'd come back saying it didn't work and I'd ask, "Did you try?": and the answer was always "No"
If you're going to ask for help at least consider your options. If someone gives you advice & you don't take it, you better have a backup plan for yourself otherwise you'll have a lot of explaining & frustration to go through later.
Being on that end of it, I learned not to be so self-centered about myself and went out to ask for help when I need it. I think it also helps now that I'm older and more willing to accept help from others vs. when I was a teenager & was angst about everything, yet, "I knew everything!" and "Didn't need to listen to you cause you don't know about me."
Bullshit. People are more willing to help if you let them know and don't instantly throw their help aside.