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 Posted: Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:17 pm
I overheard a few girls talking the other day about 'how everyone is turning bi', and I have also noticed the same in my school. A lot of girls you would NEVER think to be bi, end up calling themself so. There was also this one incident in my geometry class where some guy I had a bit of a crush on said he was bi, so I tried asking him out. He freaked out and said, "Get away from me, you f**!" Seriously, what the hell is going on?
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Posted: Fri Apr 01, 2011 10:29 pm
Your crush was probably either joking around when he said he was bi or in denial.
As for everyone else- HS is about learning who you are, so it makes sense people would think of themselves in different ways and figuring out what worked and what didn't.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 1:04 pm
Adolescence is all about trying on masks, and finding the ones that fit you, and discarding the ones that don't. It is about finding your niche in society. With the Sexual Revolution and the (tedious) acceptance of bisexuality it has become another mask to try on and/or discard.
I agree with Esiris but with an add on, your crush was either kidding, in denial, or simply afraid to admit in public he was bi due to repercussions socially. It is cool to say your bi, it isn't cool to be in a same sex relationship. This is homophobia rehearing its ugly head mixed with the freedom of the Sexual Revolution. A strange monster that says it is okay to be who you are, to love who you want, but at the same time this monster still has the deep ingrained hatred that is homophobia.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 4:25 pm
Blackrose_Knight Adolescence is all about trying on masks, and finding the ones that fit you, and discarding the ones that don't. It is about finding your niche in society. With the Sexual Revolution and the (tedious) acceptance of bisexuality it has become another mask to try on and/or discard. I agree with Esiris but with an add on, your crush was either kidding, in denial, or simply afraid to admit in public he was bi due to repercussions socially. It is cool to say your bi, it isn't cool to be in a same sex relationship. This is homophobia rehearing its ugly head mixed with the freedom of the Sexual Revolution. A strange monster that says it is okay to be who you are, to love who you want, but at the same time this monster still has the deep ingrained hatred that is homophobia. If only people weren't so afraid of society, and society wasn't so afraid of being wrong................
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 5:25 pm
I'd say examine your age group. Most of the time, *not always* younger age groups don't end up being lifetime bisexuals. It's definitely a trend for various reasons, which is a huge part of the reason that it isn't taken seriously.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 6:51 pm
bicanthrope I'd say examine your age group. Most of the time, *not always* younger age groups don't end up being lifetime bisexuals. It's definitely a trend for various reasons, which is a huge part of the reason that it isn't taken seriously. It is high school after all................
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 7:00 pm
Shilberu Erikku If only people weren't so afraid of society, and society wasn't so afraid of being wrong................ Getting kicked and beat up is a good reason to be afraid.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2011 7:28 pm
Esiris Shilberu Erikku If only people weren't so afraid of society, and society wasn't so afraid of being wrong................ Getting kicked and beat up is a good reason to be afraid. True. What I meant was people shouldn't be so paranoid about what people they don't really know might think of them.As for the fear of being wrong, I've noticed this fear is most promininent in the christian psyche.Since same sex relations are prohibited by the bible, the (false) christians are afraid that since we are now somewhat accepted by society, that the bible might be wrong. Thus, they retaliate.
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Posted: Mon Apr 04, 2011 4:26 pm
In my opinion, it seems a lot harder on bisexual people trying to find their true identity because the line between boys and girls for them is fuzzier. They would be wondering if they're really gay/les, curious, or just confused. Even if it's difficult being gay, you can eliminate at least one of the two sexes so there's less confusion to sort through.
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Posted: Tue Apr 05, 2011 11:00 pm
Shilberu Erikku True. What I meant was people shouldn't be so paranoid about what people they don't really know might think of them.As for the fear of being wrong, I've noticed this fear is most promininent in the christian psyche.Since same sex relations are prohibited by the bible, the (false) christians are afraid that since we are now somewhat accepted by society, that the bible might be wrong. Thus, they retaliate. It isn't always Christians or even the Big 3 Abrahamic faiths. I have been told I need to "chose a side" by a lesbian. Abuse comes from within the GLBT community as well.
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Posted: Tue Apr 05, 2011 11:16 pm
Blackrose_Knight Shilberu Erikku True. What I meant was people shouldn't be so paranoid about what people they don't really know might think of them.As for the fear of being wrong, I've noticed this fear is most promininent in the christian psyche.Since same sex relations are prohibited by the bible, the (false) christians are afraid that since we are now somewhat accepted by society, that the bible might be wrong. Thus, they retaliate. It isn't always Christians or even the Big 3 Abrahamic faiths. I have been told I need to "chose a side" by a lesbian. Abuse comes from within the GLBT community as well. Those people are unable to feel empathy towards situations/lifestyles that they do no take part in their selves. So basically, they're just egocentric morons (or addicted to hypocracy). So basically, the question to ask those people is what the hell is so great about THEM?
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Posted: Tue Apr 12, 2011 4:54 am
*Will be good and avoid the religion debate*
As many have said, it's a way of finding out who you are. People go through phases. One of my friends thought she was bi after me and another friend came out, when it came to actually kissing a girl though she found she didn't actually like it.
During adolescence your hormones are going haywire, and I know not everything is down to hormones but they do play a part, and it gets very confusing. Being a teenager itself is known for mood-swings and people jumping from apparently one persona to another in an attempt to find out who they are. There's nothing wrong with people saying "oh yeah, I'm bi" then later finding out that they're not, it's just part of growing up.
There is, however, something wrong with people saying that they're bi just to seem more attractive to members of the opposite sex. Or because they got drunk and kissed someone of the same sex once.
For the people who aren't yet out of that 'who am I?' phase, the lines will eventually become clearer as they get older and they'll eventually settle into one camp with time (Or in both, if you'd rather I put it that way. Tee hee). =)
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Posted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 7:49 pm
I don't have an answer, but I share the sentiment. I've known I'm bisexual for 5-10 years now, and I've been slowly working my way towards coming out. It seems like all of a sudden people I've known to be straight (and sometimes homophobic) are hooking up with people of the same gender and calling themselves "bi." This makes me really self-conscious and afraid of coming out (irl)! I don't want all the effort I put into coming out to seem insignificant compared to the dozens of people who seem to use it as descriptor as common as "nerdy".
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Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2012 11:06 am
Well I think it is a growing trend, though people are not yet ready to accept it.
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Posted: Sun May 13, 2012 6:17 pm
Blackrose_Knight Adolescence is all about trying on masks, and finding the ones that fit you, and discarding the ones that don't. It is about finding your niche in society. With the Sexual Revolution and the (tedious) acceptance of bisexuality it has become another mask to try on and/or discard. I agree with Esiris but with an add on, your crush was either kidding, in denial, or simply afraid to admit in public he was bi due to repercussions socially. It is cool to say your bi, it isn't cool to be in a same sex relationship. This is homophobia rehearing its ugly head mixed with the freedom of the Sexual Revolution. A strange monster that says it is okay to be who you are, to love who you want, but at the same time this monster still has the deep ingrained hatred that is homophobia. You're so smart! biggrin I totally can agree with that!
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