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 Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 7:12 pm
I've been crushing on my bestfriend for a few months now, but she's totally straight. She doesn't even know that I like other girls, and I'm scared to tell her. There's also this guy she's really into, and I know we'll never be anything more than friends, so I'm trying to be happy for her and offer her my support, but I still like her and kind of want to ask her out. I'm just scared that if I do tell her how I really feel, she won't even want to be my friend anymore.
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 8:07 pm
I wish I could tell you "go for it! Tell her! It's not like it's gunna ruin yas friendship is she says no" but in all reality, it does. And since she's straight and already digging on another guy, that makes the chances slightly worse. I can say that since she is your friend you should tell her your orientation, and if she's like eww gross that will surely help with you not crushing on her anymore cause that leaves you with a wrong impression of her, and shows you how close minded she is, but if she's ok with it, then it shows you that ya really are meant to be friends.
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2012 11:57 pm
I was in the same boat you were in once upon a story. I agree that sometimes telling would make things more difficult but my outcome was a bit different. My best-friend is straight as well and I didn't tell her I was bi until a year after we had known each other (were going 6 years strong on our friendship). She was cool with it. I waited another year to tell her I'd had a crush on her since I met her. She was also cool with that, even though she didn't return my feelings. I explained to her that even if nothing came out of me telling her I just wanted her to know, I mean if I'd of kept it in I'd have never known what she would have thought (or, truthfully, ever kissed her). If you feel strongly about your judgment in the open mindedness of the people that you picked to be friends with..... I say tell her. 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 1:35 pm
Well if i were you i would just go for it and tell her how i feel and try and see if i can get her. But i am not you so all i can do is give you some advice and hope that it will help u. so first thing is first how long have you known her was it a long time ? has she always been understanding? can u trust her if yes too any of these questions then i would just tell her how you feel about this whole situation and see how it goes from there. if she's okay with that is when u should tell her how u really feel about her and how you wish she would go out with you. Everthing else is now up to you so i wish u the best of luck
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Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2012 7:19 pm
artificial-ice I've been crushing on my bestfriend for a few months now, but she's totally straight. She doesn't even know that I like other girls, and I'm scared to tell her. There's also this guy she's really into, and I know we'll never be anything more than friends, so I'm trying to be happy for her and offer her my support, but I still like her and kind of want to ask her out. I'm just scared that if I do tell her how I really feel, she won't even want to be my friend anymore. If she's REALLY your friend,she won't GIVE a s**t about your sexual orientation.Telling her you've been crushing on her for a while may make things a bit awkward,but she'll STILL love you for WHO YOU ARE.okay?I've had a similar problem,but being silent may be one of the worst and best things I've done for my relationship with my girl crush.My girl crush happens to be a good older friend of mine(we're two years apart),but I know that if I tell her I'm bisexual,she wouldn't care.Even though she's Mormon,she's basically BFFs with the local out there gay guy of our school(and by "out there",I mean he's gay,everyone knows it,and evryone knows who he is.and,y'know what?he has great hair and is adorable.reaaly wish he was bi so I could flrit with him and not make it pointless) and some Pagans.That and she's taught "Do not judge lest ye be judged yourself."So..yeah.As for YOUR case...do whatever you feel is best.And do it when you feel ready for it.Alright?Be careful.And don't get hurt.
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Posted: Tue Jul 03, 2012 2:51 pm
I would say tell her about your orientation first, see how she reacts to that... Maybe give it a week? Then I would say tell her that you like her/have a crush on her, but that you understand if you can only be friends.
I feel like peole should know if someone likes them, escpecially if it has been for awhile ><
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2012 7:23 pm
Honestly I would tell her about your sexual orientation and judge her reaction see what she says. If she says she isn't straight than got for it if not than I would leave it at that. i know it will suck (I mean I have a hugge crush on my friend and have for a long time, but it does get better!) anyway if you just be happr for her and hell who knows maybe she'll turn out to be bi or something. One never knows!
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