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 Posted: Mon Mar 19, 2012 8:30 pm
Hello lovely ladies. I don't mean to post random crap but I just need to get this out and I don't have anyone really I can talk to. (quick side note: I'm Bi for anyone who might get confused)
I was in a really crappy, horrible marriage a while ago... but it had it's good parts too. On good days he was a sweet, caring guy, on bad days (which were more frequent) he was verbally and emotionally abusive, mentally unstable and would often threaten suicide. He lied to me often and one major thing he lied about was the breaking point in the relationship. He told me after we got married that he considered himself to be transgendered and that he wanted to become a woman. - as a side note, I have nothing against Transgender people, just that he lied to me about it - He would almost always blame the problems of our relationship on me and make me feel horrible about myself. He was fully dependent on his mother who would always take his side on arguments, even if he was wrong. He's bipolar and would change medication or quit taking medication every 4-6 months- which is about how long it take for the meds to balance out and actually start helping.
So with all of that against him why do I still miss him? I miss his smile and his hugs and the quirky cute ways he used to greet me when I got home from work. I miss cuddling with him and his arms around me while I slept. I miss him on his good days. . .
Thanks for reading this if you did. Sorry about all the negativity. . . I just needed to get that out.
Today would have been our two year wedding anniversary.
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Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2012 4:30 pm
I can see you're missing him because you two were married. Marriage is a big commitment, and you did love him. You loved the good things he did.
My sister was in a slightly similar relationship. The guy she was dating was nice at times, would get her things (even though she didn't want anything), he seemed nice. But, he had more times were he was mean to her, and to us (her family). He was emotionally, and verbally abusive to her, and he did kick her infront of me. His mother would also take his side on things, and would say that my sister wants him for the things he buys him (not true, because she doesn't really like people spending money on her). Anyways, they broke up after 6 years of being together, and it took her a longg time to let him go, because in her heart she did love him, despite the negative things he did.
All I'm saying is that it'll take time. It took my sister about a year or so to get over him. She moved to another province where my brother lives, but he still bothered her hence why it took so long.
Hopefully this is helpful, I have a feeling that this is just me rambling and telling a story that is slightly similar.
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xLadyxUntitledx Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2012 1:31 pm
Sometimes things just take time, like after being in a marriage that long you'll also need some time too. I'm really sorry he hurt you, he had no right to be so mean to you.
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2012 10:12 pm
You may not think so right now but what you did was for the best believe me. My mom was in a situation like that with my dad but most likely worse. He did a lot of things and they were together for 15 year or so. really because my mom love him and she didn't want to break up the family. Anyway she eventually said she was done. Honestly I was proud of her and wish she had done it sooner. Don't get me wrong I love my dad he is a good guy but he just has issues. It was just a very toxic relationship and was better if they weren't together. Anyway they are both happier now along with everyone else in my family. Sometimes it is best to just say enough and move on, it may take time but in the end it will all work out for the best.
(Think I just rambled about stuff that isn't really ganna help but maybe it will, heck if I know)
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2012 6:24 pm
fayetaure You may not think so right now but what you did was for the best believe me. My mom was in a situation like that with my dad but most likely worse. He did a lot of things and they were together for 15 year or so. really because my mom love him and she didn't want to break up the family. Anyway she eventually said she was done. Honestly I was proud of her and wish she had done it sooner. Don't get me wrong I love my dad he is a good guy but he just has issues. It was just a very toxic relationship and was better if they weren't together. Anyway they are both happier now along with everyone else in my family. Sometimes it is best to just say enough and move on, it may take time but in the end it will all work out for the best. (Think I just rambled about stuff that isn't really ganna help but maybe it will, heck if I know) Thanks, it helped. smile
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