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 Posted: Mon May 14, 2012 8:28 pm
So, I was talking to my friend who is gay and an atheist. We've gotten along really well ever since we met. The thing is is that he randomly asked me what I would think if he turned straight. Me, not believing it is right to be gay, said I would love that. Then he started alluding to what about me and him together. I played along, thinking he was joking. Then he asked if he turned straight, would I date him. eek Yeah, I had never once considered dating a gay atheist. I talked to him, and told him that I don't want to date an atheist, because I'm afraid of spending eternity without him. But, if it means he's not gay... And exposed to the wonders of Christianity... Help! What do I do? I really do like him, I'm just afraid of the atheist part!
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2012 10:24 am
NEVER be unequally yoked. You can not go against the Bible. You can not set a good example if you go against the Bible either.
He may not be gay but bi-sexual. I know someone who considers himself gay but he will sleep with a girl if she is really pretty. That really makes him bi but since he doesn't want a lasting relationship with a woman he considers himself gay.
You shouldn't date someone just so they can get more exposure to God. Being a friend is enough. If he is truly your friend he will respect your believes whether or not you date him. He should already know that you love God and put God first.
The closer you grow to God, your non-christian friends may drift away from being your friend. What he may be doing is asking you to choose between your friendship and your God. Just be ready but any way you look at it, this is a test. Are you willing to stick to your faith and not date someone who is a non-believer or not?
Dating him may not turn him straight either, but if it doesn't work out, it may ruin your friendship. Being gay or straight is his choice, it is not up to you to turn him straight. To love you he has to love God. God is the biggest part of your life and who you are. If he can not love God and believe in God how can he love you? How can this be a true and loving relationship if he wants to over look the biggest part of who you are? If he overlooks that then what is left but a physical relationship and you are worth more than just sex. He should love the whole you. When two people love Christ and put him first then they grow together in the Lord. Christ blesses the union . If two people are not equally yoked then they start the relationship pulling away from each other. One ends up having hard feelings toward the other person and/or dragging the other person down with them. The relationship can't last.
If he has a serious interest in straightening his life out and an interest in God, then stay friends and ask him to go to church with you. Even if he wants to accept Christ, he needs time to build a relationship with Christ before he starts dating. He needs the structure of the church and God before he goes on to the next step.
I hope that helps.
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2012 1:35 pm
I completely and totally agree with iamlost4ever, listen to what she says and really think about it.
But of course I have to add my two cents.
You were right to say no to dating.
While he may be a great guy and a great friend the Bible strictly says "Never be unequally yoked" by disobeying that command you are setting a bad example for Christians and Atheists alike.
You can share the love of God through your FRIENDSHIP just as well as your could through a RELATIONSHIP.
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2012 2:08 pm
Dolphina Oceanus So, I was talking to my friend who is gay and an atheist. We've gotten along really well ever since we met. The thing is is that he randomly asked me what I would think if he turned straight. Me, not believing it is right to be gay, said I would love that. Then he started alluding to what about me and him together. I played along, thinking he was joking. Then he asked if he turned straight, would I date him. eek Yeah, I had never once considered dating a gay atheist. I talked to him, and told him that I don't want to date an atheist, because I'm afraid of spending eternity without him. But, if it means he's not gay... And exposed to the wonders of Christianity... Help! What do I do? I really do like him, I'm just afraid of the atheist part! If it is by the Will of God, then it will all work out for God's glory. If your friend is just playing mind games for shock value, and all of this is spawned from the devil, then it will fail and the Holy Spirit will reveal unto you if it is of God or if it is not. Ms. Dannielle F. -cck-
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2012 2:34 pm
-Celtic Crypt Keeper- Dolphina Oceanus So, I was talking to my friend who is gay and an atheist. We've gotten along really well ever since we met. The thing is is that he randomly asked me what I would think if he turned straight. Me, not believing it is right to be gay, said I would love that. Then he started alluding to what about me and him together. I played along, thinking he was joking. Then he asked if he turned straight, would I date him. eek Yeah, I had never once considered dating a gay atheist. I talked to him, and told him that I don't want to date an atheist, because I'm afraid of spending eternity without him. But, if it means he's not gay... And exposed to the wonders of Christianity... Help! What do I do? I really do like him, I'm just afraid of the atheist part! If it is by the Will of God, then it will all work out for God's glory. If your friend is just playing mind games for shock value, and all of this is spawned from the devil, then it will fail and the Holy Spirit will reveal unto you if it is of God or if it is not. Ms. Dannielle F. -cck- The Will of God never goes against the Bible and the Bible says not to be unequally yoked.
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Posted: Tue May 15, 2012 4:22 pm
Thank you for your inputs! I will certainly take them to heart. I talked to God about it, and now I'm just waiting for a reply.
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