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 Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2012 5:54 pm
So I started this thread to see how/when/if people came out to their friends, family, and world in general. Personally, I haven't yet, so I'm kind of looking for creative ideas/support.
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Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2012 7:22 am
Me, I started by telling a close friend of mine that I was MtF. She is one of my closest friends and a huge straight ally. It pretty much opened the flood gates for me. Next I told my other friend who I room with (he took the news well, but he still is a little shaky when it comes to the idea, he supports me, but....well it gets complicated with him, he questions himself due to the fact that he finds me attractive as a woman...anyways...) After that, I called my mom, then sister, both telling them hazardly. Honestly, it got easier after every person I told. Eventually I couldn't stand that dark and lonely closet any more so I came out! And now I am well on my way to preparing for my transition and soon, one day will be the woman (lesbian I won't lie) that I am inside.
Currently I am fully out, and I even go and run my comic shop as a woman. I know my situation is different, but hopefully I could help.
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Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2012 9:08 am
I threw a piece of paper at my mom since I couldn't force myself to say it. Then I texted my closest friends (I was out of state and moving, so I never got the chance to tell them in person). Never had any problems. My mom and I just don't talk about it.
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Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2012 1:30 pm
I just sat my grnadparents down and told them that I didn't like guys, I liked girls. They kicked me out......
It was easier with my mom and my friends though. They all took it quite well. In fact, most of my friends said that they already knew, they were just waiting for me say it.
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:36 am
I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~
it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~
she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~
I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 9:42 am
VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 9:45 am
AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 9:50 am
VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 10:40 am
AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:28 am
VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:32 am
AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I wrote a letter to my mom and put it on her pillow so that she would read it before she went to bed~ it gave her time to sleep on it and it turned out really well~ she told my dad so I didn't have to and things are great~ I told my grandmother through an e-mail, though since she's a Christian, she doesn't really accept me and always makes rude comments about gays when I'm around and it's extremely frustrating, but I'm not going to hide who I am anymore~ What's the point ?
When I came out...I told a cousin who in turn told my sister who screamed at me for not telling her since my sister and I are so close and she felt betrayed because I had kept a secret from her. My heart stopped when she confronted me about it...everyone in the house just looked at me and I turned a pale white, expecting to get thrown out...my siblings all accept me for who I am.
My mom has come a looong way in accepting me and my dad has made no effort because it's "unnatural" when I've always been this way...can you explain to me how it's unnatural? I don't see how it is
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.hahahaha ^////^ *low happy growl* xD
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:35 am
VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 Love isn't unnatural~
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.hahahaha ^////^ *low happy growl* xD
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:37 am
AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 Love isn't unnatural~
My grandma is the same way~
She constantly says "being gay is a sin and gays will go to hell" and I'm just like "well then bring it on"~
There isn't much you can do to sway people in their ways~
It's hard to educate close-minded people because they are set in their ways and think anything different or out of the ordinary is wrong or "unnatural"~
So who's really the open-minded one? My mom has had lesbian best friends in her life...my dad...he grew up with my grandpa who is a pastor...so yeah...it's frustrating and upsetting to say the least to have rejection from my own family.hahahaha ^////^ *low happy growl* xD
or Blue Dragon~ x3 hehe call me whatever~ ^^
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Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2012 11:41 am
VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 AgentShiny VioletEmerald87 I know exactly how you feel~ my mom is the religious one too and my dad's an atheist~ my mom accepts it more than my dad does~ like, he doesn't really care, he just wouldn't have ever wished for it~ my mom just wants me to be happy~ I just hope more people can be accepting in the future~ I'm teaching my kids early that it's okay to be whoever as long as it's you~ heart hahahaha ^////^ *low happy growl* xD
or Blue Dragon~ x3 hehe call me whatever~ ^^
Oh those pics you have your profile, you're frickin adorable! cat_blaugh
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