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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2012 6:42 pm
Yes, I am a teenaged girl, and I've been dating for a few years now. I broke up with my third boyfriend a few weeks ago. Now, I am a Christian, and I had been falling away from God. My first boyfriend was an atheist, and after we broke up, I promised God I'd never date another atheist. My second boyfriend was Christian, though it unfortunately didn't work out. My third boyfriend, however, was an atheist, because I'd fallen away from God again. We had been dating over the summer, and I went to my first ever Christian summer camp, called Hume Lake. There, my whole life was flipped around and I realized how wrong I had been, and I was resolved to not keep falling from God. I spent three nights in a row crying and praying, because the sermons spoke directly to me and my situation, and everyone around me was so encouraging. Shortly after I got back, I broke up with my boyfriend, and asked God for forgiveness for breaking my promise, then reaffirmed that I would never AGAIN date an atheist.
Sounds good, right?
Mostly. Until it gets hard.
I have a guy-friend who I've been really good friends with for two years now. Recently, I started kind of liking him, and I didn't know what his stand on religion was. So, I asked him, and, unfortunately, it turns out that he's atheist. It was upsetting, but I know that I absolutely cannot let this go any further. I know he likes me, too, and it'll be hard to distance myself from him. I just want some encouragement/advice for this! I'm not in danger of letting these feelings grow, it's just upsetting that he's atheist...
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2012 7:13 pm
Dolphina Oceanus Yes, I am a teenaged girl, and I've been dating for a few years now. I broke up with my third boyfriend a few weeks ago. Now, I am a Christian, and I had been falling away from God. My first boyfriend was an atheist, and after we broke up, I promised God I'd never date another atheist. My second boyfriend was Christian, though it unfortunately didn't work out. My third boyfriend, however, was an atheist, because I'd fallen away from God again. We had been dating over the summer, and I went to my first ever Christian summer camp, called Hume Lake. There, my whole life was flipped around and I realized how wrong I had been, and I was resolved to not keep falling from God. I spent three nights in a row crying and praying, because the sermons spoke directly to me and my situation, and everyone around me was so encouraging. Shortly after I got back, I broke up with my boyfriend, and asked God for forgiveness for breaking my promise, then reaffirmed that I would never AGAIN date an atheist. Sounds good, right? Mostly. Until it gets hard. I have a guy-friend who I've been really good friends with for two years now. Recently, I started kind of liking him, and I didn't know what his stand on religion was. So, I asked him, and, unfortunately, it turns out that he's atheist. It was upsetting, but I know that I absolutely cannot let this go any further. I know he likes me, too, and it'll be hard to distance myself from him. I just want some encouragement/advice for this! I'm not in danger of letting these feelings grow, it's just upsetting that he's atheist... I know that any advice coming from a guy will not be as well recieved as it would be coming from another female. But one of the best pieces of advice that I can give you in regards to this, is too keep on praying for him and commend him unto God and ask for the Holy Spirits guidence in what to say, when to say it, and how to say it too him with out seeming like your beating him over the head with the Bible the entire time that your around him. It is best to be, and set an example to those around you as to what a Christian really is. You can when the Holy Spirit opens the door, drop a few suggestions to him like coming to church with you one Sunday, or even ask him if he would like to go to a youth get together that your church is having and let him see how other Christian youth act/are when they are out in the public eye. When we all became saved by the grace of Christ Jesus, we all became children of God and called to service to do 'The Great Commisssion', which is to share Jesus with others. As long as you are trying your best to put your best Christian foot forward in all that you do, then your doing what God and Jesus has asked us all to do; which was what Jesus said unto Paul-'If you love me, then feed my sheep.' So, as long as you are doing your very best to share the Lord with those who do not yet believe, then you are doing as Paul said,"I planted the seed, Apollis watered, but God is the one who gained the glory and the increase from it all.' So, Just keep on planting. The Holy Spirit will be the one who actually plants the seed with in whom ever you speak with, but it will be because the Holy Spirit gave you the oppurtunity and the boldness to verbally do so for the Lord. I pray that this all makes sense to you (my babbling like this-lol), and that it helps out in some small way. If you ever need to talk to any of the staff here about anything, Please feel free to I/M-P/M, anyone of us. We all are always willing to share the Lord with anyone who wants to. May the Lord continue to use you as a blessing and an instrument of His love to all those you come in contact with. Your brother in Christ Jesus our Lord, David D. The Hawk
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Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2012 8:24 pm
Thank you so much! This helps a lot! God Bless You!
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2012 11:45 am
Dolphina Oceanus Yes, I am a teenaged girl, and I've been dating for a few years now. I broke up with my third boyfriend a few weeks ago. Now, I am a Christian, and I had been falling away from God. My first boyfriend was an atheist, and after we broke up, I promised God I'd never date another atheist. My second boyfriend was Christian, though it unfortunately didn't work out. My third boyfriend, however, was an atheist, because I'd fallen away from God again. We had been dating over the summer, and I went to my first ever Christian summer camp, called Hume Lake. There, my whole life was flipped around and I realized how wrong I had been, and I was resolved to not keep falling from God. I spent three nights in a row crying and praying, because the sermons spoke directly to me and my situation, and everyone around me was so encouraging. Shortly after I got back, I broke up with my boyfriend, and asked God for forgiveness for breaking my promise, then reaffirmed that I would never AGAIN date an atheist. Sounds good, right? Mostly. Until it gets hard. I have a guy-friend who I've been really good friends with for two years now. Recently, I started kind of liking him, and I didn't know what his stand on religion was. So, I asked him, and, unfortunately, it turns out that he's atheist. It was upsetting, but I know that I absolutely cannot let this go any further. I know he likes me, too, and it'll be hard to distance myself from him. I just want some encouragement/advice for this! I'm not in danger of letting these feelings grow, it's just upsetting that he's atheist... I'd have to agree with Hawk. And helping others by living by example can sometimes help us to stay closer to Yah. Another thing that you might consider is that structurally we are told that any relationship in the Father's eyes should be equally yoked. Time and again, I'm called to witness a couple and their relationship problems. And while a lot of things center around finances and health, what I see mostly lately is that one will be walking with Yehsua (Christ), and the other will not be. Sometimes this can put a greater strain on a relationship than anything else. If they're on the same page, even if they aren't with Yah, a lot of times they'll figure it out. But if they're close in their walk, it'll hurt but they'll pull through pretty well. A prayer for each of you. Yahweh bless you and yours. Your sister in Yeshua Messiah, Shalom. ~MW
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2012 4:45 pm
Hey girl! I do agree with the Hawk. And as the Bible says 'Iron sharpens iron.', so seeking council with other believers is always a good thing to do. Christian huggles and have a good and safe blessed weekend and the same for your new relationship. ~Lyn~
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2012 6:17 pm
Thank you all! This is wonderful! God Bless you!
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