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1. When you meet a new person (female) what are some of the first things you notice about them? And what are some of the last?
Are these things different when it comes to first meeting a new person (male) and if so in what way(s)?

When I meet a new female, I always notice their eyes. I love eyes!
I love big brown eyes <3
The last would be their figure. I don't really lean towards the thin, I like my women with curves, but still. I'm not weight judgmental.

With men, I don't check them out at all. Besides the eyes, but everything else is just like....not attractive hehe.
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2. Do you find you are more attracted to women that are more physically/personality wise more masculine, more feminine or a certain mix of both? Example: personality more feminine, physically more masculine, etc. Do you have a preference?
Do you not label people by societies preconceived gender roles?


I like feminine women. If i wanted masculine, I would just date a dude.
I, myself am not very girly, I'm rather tomboyish, but I like being a girl that likes girls, and don't want to become maleish.

My preference is all woman :3

Nope. People, Whatever the gender, should be able to do whatever they want if they believe they are capable of it.
Like female construction workers. If she thinks she can handle a job like that, then more power to her.
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3. What kind of body type do you prefer when it comes to women? Thin? Curvy? Athletic? Short? Tall?

Curvy, and just as long as they're shorter than me :3

And if you have a preference why do you think that is? Is it from past experience or because of those you emulate or is it just a natural attraction whose origin is unknown?

I like curves C:

Is your preference different or the same as your own body type? If you do have a preference for or against your own body type can you explain why?

I'm rather curvy, but I like girls curvier than me :3
The saying "More to love" is correct.
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4. what are traits in women you find attractive?
Example: Being hard working, intelligent, funny, honest, and confident?
If you had to pick one what trait do you think you find most attractive?
Do you find that trait attractive in men as well if it be relationship wise or just as being friends wise with a male?
Or do you find other traits in males more agreeable? And if they are different from those in females, what are they and why are they different then from females?

I loooove confidence in women. Especially since curvy girls find it difficult to be confident since they just want to be skinny. FYI: YOU DON"T HAVE TO BE SKINNY TO BE BEAUTIFUL! Confidence is beauty, not skinniness.
I also like smart, and funny, and most important HONEST!.

In men, i don't really find it attractive, i just find it nice.
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5. If you are bi, (if lesbian skip the question) do you find that you are more likely to be in a relationship with a man or a women? Why? Do you then consider the other gender more physically/sexually attractive then attractive as a possible relationship partner?
Or do you have an equal feeling of physical attraction and relationship attraction with both women and men and then judge by individual rather than gender?
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6. If you are lesbian, (if bi skip the question) do you find it offensive when a man hits on you?
Even when you’re sure he knows you are a lesbian and wouldn't be interested? Do you take it as the man not believing you when you say you are a lesbian and/or that he thinks he can somehow convince you your bi or straight?
Would your feelings change if you know the man hitting on you was A-sexual and only looking for a relationship/companionship and nothing physically intimate?
How would you feel if you know him to be an FtM transsexual but unclear on his physical genital composition?

No, because how are they to know that I don't like the D?
I just casually smile, thank them for the complement, and just let them know that I like kitty :3

When they keep pushing it, it doesn't offend me, then it just kind of pisses me. you can't "convince" anyone to change their way of being.

Nope. I don't date men because I don't like D. I don't date men, because I don't find men attractive. I will never fake love.

I most like wouldn't put myself in a situation like that. I hope i succeed.
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7. If you are in a relationship with a women (or a man for that matter) what is one personality trait that could be a deal breaker for you in a relationship?
Why would it be a deal breaker? From personal experience/bad memories of having to deal with someone having this trait?
Or is a trait you have yourself and that you find unattractive in partners/yourself?
To what degree would this person have to have the trait for it to be a deal breaker (mild, moderate or severe?)?

Dishonesty.

Because in a relationship, there needs to be trust. and without it, there will always be unease of where that other person could be, and what exactly could they be doing.

Mild is bad enough, but I would probably just leave when it came to moderate.
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8. Are you currently/actively trying to keep your sexuality private from those around you or do they already know your sexual preference? If you are keeping your sexuality private, then why is that? If you do not care to keep your sexuality private or you yourself expressed it to others then what made you decide not to keep it private from others? If you did/do keep it private and decided you no longer wanted to who was/is the first person you felt comfortable enough telling?

I'm out and proud. I wont hide somethings that's a part of me.
If people want to trust, love, and think im worthy of friendship, then I believe that they should know the person they think they know. even if that itself makes it a deal breaker, then oh well. Never be afraid of what people's reactions will be. You are YOU. If you can't love yourself, don't expect other to.

The first person I told was my best friend. Then we dated cause she then turned bi-curious. but it only lasted for like a week haha. That was like when i was 17. Now I'm 20, and now she's engaged to her prince charming, and has a 10 month old :3
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9. Do you believe/think that it is 100% possible to know that you are bi or a lesbian even if never having been physically intimate or in a relationship with a women?
Or do you think that it’s different for each person and for some it takes experience to fully know their own sexual and relationship preferences?

Yes, because even if you haven't been with a female, you still hold the feelings of WANTING to be with one.

Maybe once you really are with one, and then you actually know that that is what you do/or do not want, then maybe it isn't 100%
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10. And finally do you believe/ that you are born with a certain sexual preference ingrained in your brains functions or that it’s developed over time as you grow up through experiences, memories or environment?
(Nurture v.s Nature)
Or further still a conscious choice made during puberty, etc?

This is something even I don't even know. I know kinds that are like barely 7 and already know they are attracted to the same sex. So this makes me wonder if its Nature (right, nature? born with it?) Sorry if I'm wrong. I don't really look up after this stuff haha. I know what I am, and I'm proud of it :3
No ifs, ands, or butts.

Only big, curvy butts :b

1. When you meet a new person (female) what are some of the first things you notice about them? And what are some of the last?
Are these things different when it comes to first meeting a new person (male) and if so in what way(s)?

A. Their smile. I definitely am a smile person. And then their eyes. Males... I tend to just notice their hair. Or a t-shirt their wearing.


2. Do you find you are more attracted to women that are more physically/personality wise more masculine, more feminine or a certain mix of both? Example: personality more feminine, physically more masculine, etc. Do you have a preference?
Do you not label people by societies preconceived gender roles?

A. There's a certain mix of both that I like. I don't prefer the full-masculine or full-feminine. I'm well balanced and I like to be with a girl who is balanced as well. I tend to date women who are more masculine looking, though. I don't prefer any specific preferences. If a girl wants to do her hair and makeup in the mornings, more power to her. If not- that's fine too. As long as she isn't stealing my makeup- we'll be cool. I don't necessarily believe that there are labels as there are just inept roles needed to be "played" in order to make a house functional. Everyone keeps asking me "So.. which one of you wears the pants in the relationship?" Well... we both do! Just not at the same time.


3. What kind of body type do you prefer when it comes to women? Thin? Curvy? Athletic? Short? Tall?
And if you have a preference why do you think that is? Is it from past experience or because of those you emulate or is it just a natural attraction whose origin is unknown?
Is your preference different or the same as your own body type? If you do have a preference for or against your own body type can you explain why?

A. Body type? I've loved a variety and range of different women in different bodies. I don't think there is a specific body-type that I like. Super skinny girls are the only exception that I just wouldn't be sexually compatible with. I get grossed out if I can see someone's rib cage through their skin. It freaks me out, and that is just a personal thing with me. I don't mind if someone has the same body type as I do or not. I have a pretty average body type, so most girls that I've liked or dated have been around my body type. I'm not against it. smile

4. what are traits in women you find attractive?
Example: Being hard working, intelligent, funny, honest, and confident?
If you had to pick one what trait do you think you find most attractive?
Do you find that trait attractive in men as well if it be relationship wise or just as being friends wise with a male?
Or do you find other traits in males more agreeable? And if they are different from those in females, what are they and why are they different then from females?

A. Has to be able to make me laugh, and a hard worker. Not that they can be completely intelligent-lacking, but I thrive off of mental stimulation. I want to talk about philosophy and current events with them. The most attractive? Confidence. Not cocky-confidence, but just pure, natural confidence in themselves. I'm not interested in males as far as relationships go- but in males I look for more of a person who I can go out and enjoy a couple of beers with and kind of be "one of the guys". It's my decompress-get-away-from-women outlet that helps me group myself together. So just someone who's really relaxed.

5. If you are bi, (if lesbian skip the question) do you find that you are more likely to be in a relationship with a man or a women? Why? Do you then consider the other gender more physically/sexually attractive then attractive as a possible relationship partner?
Or do you have an equal feeling of physical attraction and relationship attraction with both women and men and then judge by individual rather than gender?

A. Lesbian. Skipped.

6. If you are lesbian, (if bi skip the question) do you find it offensive when a man hits on you?
Even when you’re sure he knows you are a lesbian and wouldn't be interested? Do you take it as the man not believing you when you say you are a lesbian and/or that he thinks he can somehow convince you your bi or straight?
Would your feelings change if you know the man hitting on you was A-sexual and only looking for a relationship/companionship and nothing physically intimate?
How would you feel if you know him to be an FtM transsexual but unclear on his physical genital composition?

A. I don't find it offensive if a man hits on me. That's certainly not an insult to me. I'm flattered if anyone wants to compliment me or sees me as potential. Well, if he's really forward and KNOWS that I'm gay- yes. I'll get a little more distant because obsessive flirting is kind of redundant and annoying. I don't feel that unless the guy is being really pushy- but I have yet to meet a guy who was super pushy. Even if he didn't want a sexual relationship, I couldn't "date" the guy. I have needs that I like other people to meet. Okay, I sound blunt, but I like the v****a. I don't like any kind of phallic anything be it real or fake. As much as I admire transgenders, and I get along with them- I couldn't be intimate with them if I don't know what's going on down there, and what they plan to have going on down there.

7. If you are in a relationship with a women (or a man for that matter) what is one personality trait that could be a deal breaker for you in a relationship?
Why would it be a deal breaker? From personal experience/bad memories of having to deal with someone having this trait?
Or is a trait you have yourself and that you find unattractive in partners/yourself?
To what degree would this person have to have the trait for it to be a deal breaker (mild, moderate or severe?)?

A. Lying or drug/alcohol abuse. The Lying is just dumb because I want them to be honest with me no matter what. And the drug/alcohol abuse messes with their priorities and would make it really difficult to live together and whatnot. I've never dealt with anyone with a drug/alcohol abuse, but I have dealt with liars and I'm going to concur that neither of those are fun. It would have to be a moderate problem. I get white lies- but I don't understand why they'd have to be said the entire time. Or told. There would be something being covered up, and I'm not okay with that.

8. Are you currently/actively trying to keep your sexuality private from those around you or do they already know your sexual preference? If you are keeping your sexuality private, then why is that? If you do not care to keep your sexuality private or you yourself expressed it to others then what made you decide not to keep it private from others? If you did/do keep it private and decided you no longer wanted to who was/is the first person you felt comfortable enough telling?

A. I'm fully out and open. I just hate hiding. It's also a huge burden on a relationship and really hinders a relationship from growing and thriving. The first person I told was my Aunt, only because she's gay too. So there couldn't have been too much hate! Haha.

9. Do you believe/think that it is 100% possible to know that you are bi or a lesbian even if never having been physically intimate or in a relationship with a women?
Or do you think that it’s different for each person and for some it takes experience to fully know their own sexual and relationship preferences?

A. Yes. I think that you just know. I didn't say "Hey, wait a second. I need to sleep with a girl to know if I'm into females or not." It was certainly just there. There was no cognant choice of doing so, or needing to be with someone to verify it. I think that people know. It might take a while, but people do know eventually at one point in their lives. Whether they're comfortable being with men or women- it's known before they're even with the person.

10. And finally do you believe/ that you are born with a certain sexual preference ingrained in your brains functions or that it’s developed over time as you grow up through experiences, memories or environment?
(Nurture v.s Nature)
Or further still a conscious choice made during puberty, etc?

A. I never made a "choice" to be gay. I wish I had a choice, because honestly I would've chosen not to be gay. It's easier to be heterosexual in society, and I grew up "different". No one wants to be "different". It would've saved me a lot of problems if I was just straight. So no, I didn't choose this. It's just who I am. And I'm finally, after a long, long life, coming to terms with it.

1. When you meet a new person (female) what are some of the first things you notice about them? And what are some of the last?
Are these things different when it comes to first meeting a new person (male) and if so in what way(s)?

When I meet girls... the things I notice are always different. Sometimes it's hair, sometimes clothes or piercings, sometimes other things. Once, I saw a girl who was a friend of my boy's or one of his friends' friends and one of the first things I noticed was she had this bright blue hair. Then I noticed she had a lot of scars covering her forearm. Occasionally I'll notice things like breasts, but it's mostly hair, clothes, face. It's the same thing with guys. girls I notice the face more, guys I notice the shirts more. For the most part anyways, lol.
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2. Do you find you are more attracted to women that are more physically/personality wise more masculine, more feminine or a certain mix of both? Example: personality more feminine, physically more masculine, etc. Do you have a preference?
Do you not label people by societies preconceived gender roles?

I don't have much of a preference. Sometimes, I prefer more feminine partners, especially if they're girls. I don't care much otherwise and while I do use labels, I don't care much for them otherwise. In fact, they're confusing sometimes and I'm generally more complex than that.
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3. What kind of body type do you prefer when it comes to women? Thin? Curvy? Athletic? Short? Tall?
And if you have a preference why do you think that is? Is it from past experience or because of those you emulate or is it just a natural attraction whose origin is unknown?
Is your preference different or the same as your own body type? If you do have a preference for or against your own body type can you explain why?

Body type preference for women.... Hour glass. Which is actually the template for human body shapes used by nature in both sexes/genders. I just want my partners, male, female, guy, girl, doesn't matter, to have proportionate bodies and be healthy. I don't want an orange, but that's kind of hard to find, so I'm good there. I don't exactly like "skinny twigs", but if someone has a naturally small frame then that's okay as well. I prefer people who don't get cosmetic surgery, especially facial surgery. I prefer more natural things.
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4. what are traits in women you find attractive?
Example: Being hard working, intelligent, funny, honest, and confident?
If you had to pick one what trait do you think you find most attractive?
Do you find that trait attractive in men as well if it be relationship wise or just as being friends wise with a male?
Or do you find other traits in males more agreeable? And if they are different from those in females, what are they and why are they different then from females?

Traits I find attractive... Intelligence, intellectualism, open-mindedness, nerdiness... That goes for platonic and romantic relationships. I like a good sense of humour as well. A lot of things.
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5. If you are bi, (if lesbian skip the question) do you find that you are more likely to be in a relationship with a man or a women? Why? Do you then consider the other gender more physically/sexually attractive then attractive as a possible relationship partner?
Or do you have an equal feeling of physical attraction and relationship attraction with both women and men and then judge by individual rather than gender?

I judge more by individual than anything else, to be honest. In a way, I prefer women, but I don't really care that much. I find women more attractive than men, but I still think men are pretty attractive. As for likelihood, I'm more likely to end up with a guy than a girl. It's nothing about preference and more of nerves and ease of social situations. I'm more likely to tell a guy I like him than a girl, mostly because every time I fall for a girl she's either straight or I don't know what her orientations are and she's always a friend of mine and I don't want to make things awkward or ruin or currently standing relationship.
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6. If you are lesbian, (if bi skip the question) do you find it offensive when a man hits on you?
Even when you’re sure he knows you are a lesbian and wouldn't be interested? Do you take it as the man not believing you when you say you are a lesbian and/or that he thinks he can somehow convince you your bi or straight?
Would your feelings change if you know the man hitting on you was A-sexual and only looking for a relationship/companionship and nothing physically intimate?
How would you feel if you know him to be an FTM transsexual but unclear on his physical genital composition?

I may not be a lesbian (I'm bisexual), but I feel that there are some things in this question that can be addressed by girls who aren't lesbian.
What I find offensive is when people (you normally hear this about guys, but I've experienced similar situations with girls) hear you're bi and assume you're confused, are going to end up either gay or straight, or that you're up for threesomes just cuz you like both genders/sexes. I once had a girl ask me when I was going to turn lesbian. Sigh.
If I was only looking for a specific gender (there have been times when I wanted a partner of a specific gender, though I don't normally care) and someone not of that gender hit on me, I'm not sure how I would find it. If someone asexual hit on me and was looking for companionship, I'm not sure how I would feel. Then again, I'm not one to flirt my way into a relationship, so whatever.
If someone was FTM or MTF, that would be alright with me. I would want them to tell me their gender identity, regardless of their assigned sex, so I would know if I had a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I may or may not prefer them to be all the way physically their gender identity, but it doesn't really matter, since it's not about their genitals or anything like that, and it matters even less if we're not even having sex. And if I don't know about their genital composition, then I don't care. The same kind of goes for intersex partners.
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7. If you are in a relationship with a women (or a man for that matter) what is one personality trait that could be a deal breaker for you in a relationship?
Why would it be a deal breaker? From personal experience/bad memories of having to deal with someone having this trait?
Or is a trait you have yourself and that you find unattractive in partners/yourself?
To what degree would this person have to have the trait for it to be a deal breaker (mild, moderate or severe?)?

A deal breaker... Hating cats. Because I ******** love them. Also, having the kind of ignorance that is not just not knowing, but also the kind that refuses to even learn what they don't know. That's the kind of ignorance that leads to hate, discrimination, and other such things I don't like. There are some things I can't stand. I need someone caring, kind, loving, understanding, accepting, and open to new things, be it sexually, romantically, socially, religiously, spiritually, intellectually... There are other things as well, probably.
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8. Are you currently/actively trying to keep your sexuality private from those around you or do they already know your sexual preference? If you are keeping your sexuality private, then why is that? If you do not care to keep your sexuality private or you yourself expressed it to others then what made you decide not to keep it private from others? If you did/do keep it private and decided you no longer wanted to who was/is the first person you felt comfortable enough telling?

I'm basically officially out of the closet. If it wasn't for things like Lizzy the Lezzy and National Coming Out Day, then there are some people I would probably never tell unless I had to. So, for the most part, I'm actually pretty open about it. If someone asks me, I'll tell them, and while I don't outright say it to everyone I meet, if someone assumes I'm straight, I correct them. My friends have pretty much always known for the most part, but it was my family that would always assume I'm straight and my father still talks to me like I am. And when it came to the internet, I've pretty much always been open.
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9. Do you believe/think that it is 100% possible to know that you are bi or a lesbian even if never having been physically intimate or in a relationship with a women?
Or do you think that it’s different for each person and for some it takes experience to fully know their own sexual and relationship preferences?

It is possible!! Some people know that they're straight or LGBTQ before they've even hit puberty. Also, straight people are never asked if they've met the right same-gendered person or how they can know they're straight without any heterosexual acts or relationships, so I still don't see why LGBTQ people are asked this, especially those that are bi or pan. I've only been in three relationships, all hetero relationships, and I've only kissed four people, only one of them being a girl. But I knew I liked girls before I ever had my first kiss or romantic relationship, though I didn't know I was bi until four years later after my first relationship. I always hated being told that, because I'd not been with a woman, I was straight and only thought I was bi because I was confused. Sigh. a lot of people go through stuff like that; it's awful.
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10. And finally do you believe/ that you are born with a certain sexual preference ingrained in your brains functions or that it’s developed over time as you grow up through experiences, memories or environment?
(Nurture v.s Nature)
Or further still a conscious choice made during puberty, etc?

I think everything is a mix of nature AND nurture. A part of it is your experiences in life, part of it is the chemicals in your brain and the hormones in your body, part of it your own thoughts and such. It's not really something you can choose, and though sexuality is fluid, it's not something you can willingly change.