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I'm confused. I mean I know I like girls, I came to terms with this a while ago but I think I may be lesbian. Or more into girls than I thought. There's this girl in my art class. Well she's a stud (I don't know much about studs so bare with me). But in the last few weeks of school I started talking to her a bit. She's quiet, but when she does talk shes funny. Shes also extremely attractive. A nice smile a toned body. I guess she isn't really the type of people I'd normally hang out with. I told my friend Kyaira I liked her (shes straight and supportive and event thinks the girl I like it cute). Anyways I think I'm addicted to this chick. I never confessed how I feel but I keep having dreams about her (nothing dirty). One is reoccuring where I'm at her house and we're talking hanging out, laughing. Good clean fun but I'm so happy. I still like guys but I've never liked someone towards the point I keep having dreams about them. Nonetheless a girl. I told a guy friend of mine and he says I'm a lesbian. I dont think I am. I mean I still find guys attractive, I still have guy crushes but none like this.... Help? Advice? Please!!! gonk

Just because you're extremely attracted this one girl doesn't mean you're more attracted to girls than guys, it just means you're more attracted to HER than anyone else.

Don't worry about whether you're a lesbian, bisexual, or whatever, it doesn't actually matter too much what you label your orientation as, just figure out whether you want to confess to the girl you're interested in and/or pursue a relationship with her and how you'd go about doing that.

You could just be predominately homo-sexual.

The key thing to do right now is sit back and BREATHE! Breathing is an important aspect to living, regardless of what people say these days.

Now, like I've read on here from some marvelous women, just because you are experiencing these intense feelings towards this gal, doesn't mean that you're a full- blown lesbian, specially if you can't find it within yourself to classify yourself within a sexuality. People are interesting and the more interest we have for a person, the more likely that the person will be in the brain, coming and going in dreams for instance.

But if you find yourself still catching yourself staring at the opposite sex as much as the same, then you can't say that you're either straight or gay, it's just how it is.

I totally know what you mean, by the way, the almost insurmountable attraction towards another person. The world seems to fade around them, sound becomes nothing, and any and all thoughts cease as soon as you see the other person. It's almost an indescribable feeling that just gushes through your body, your heart races, your mind goes either a billion miles an hour, or ceases any thought apart from all about them. Your hand start to sweat, shaking ever so slightly, and breathing seems to be neigh impossible. You find yourself loss for words, all the while thoughts can be flooding your head, all idiotically ridiculous to say, yet all the while you wish to scream them.

Everyone feels those feelings, at one time or another. Kinda sounds like that gal you're so keen on might be feeling the same for you. So take a risk, make a jump, do something obvious that'll make her know that you like her! Believe me, you might feel stupid during, or embarrassed if she's taken, but it's better to look back and say you did it, than sit around and hate yourself for nevertheless wining the nerve.

If you guessed right, I was the latter, nevertheless gaining the nerve to tell a gal how I felt, learning later that she felt as strongly for me as I her. So just go with it girl, be it dude or chick, just chase your happiness!!,