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 Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 3:12 pm
Hello ladies! smile First real post on the guild here, so please be gentle 4laugh Basically I'm transgendered [MtF] and growing up always went with the belief, the more feminine I looked and acted, the more natural I'd look and seem to everyone. In reality, it made me stick out even more. A fair number of MtF transfolk tend to do that, to be as fem as possible. While it works for some, it just becomes glaringly obvious with many others. I mean I'm no damn model, but I don't think I look like a wreck either... [see below] As I've gotten older and continued my HRT, I've come to embrace the more masculine parts about myself and am now finding myself wondering, is it that uncommon to find a MtF tomboy? Just curious what you ladies thought. Hope everyone has had a great day so far! heart to you all 
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Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 4:28 pm
I think you're beautiful!
I barely know anything about the trans community, but I think that you should be yourself. Do whatever you feel most comfortable and happy with. smile If you feel like a tomboy, then be a tomboy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
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Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 4:34 pm
res novae I think you're beautiful! I barely know anything about the trans community, but I think that you should be yourself. Do whatever you feel most comfortable and happy with. smile If you feel like a tomboy, then be a tomboy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I know I totally agree, it's just I've gotten some grief from a handful of people in the LGBT community here where I live because they are like well if you were born male and you still have and want to 'keep' many of those masculine qualities about you, why didn't you just stay as a man and crossdress...? I have literally LOL'd in some of their faces. There's feminine genetic males [some straight and some gay] and even some trans men are still fairly feminine. And then theres genetic women who are butch or more masculine [and again, some are lesbians and some are straight], so I have told these people 'Why can't you have a transgirl who's a tomboy or a transboy who's a tomgirl? Anyhoo, sorry for ranting. Haha just wanted to get a second opinion that maybe there was just something I wasn't getting... OH! And thank you for the kind words 4laugh
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Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 4:55 pm
justbeingme82 res novae I think you're beautiful! I barely know anything about the trans community, but I think that you should be yourself. Do whatever you feel most comfortable and happy with. smile If you feel like a tomboy, then be a tomboy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I know I totally agree, it's just I've gotten some grief from a handful of people in the LGBT community here where I live because they are like well if you were born male and you still have and want to 'keep' many of those masculine qualities about you, why didn't you just stay as a man and crossdress...? I have literally LOL'd in some of their faces. There's feminine genetic males [some straight and some gay] and even some trans men are still fairly feminine. And then theres genetic women who are butch or more masculine [and again, some are lesbians and some are straight], so I have told these people 'Why can't you have a transgirl who's a tomboy or a transboy who's a tomgirl? Anyhoo, sorry for ranting. Haha just wanted to get a second opinion that maybe there was just something I wasn't getting... OH! And thank you for the kind words 4laugh *facepalms* Really, I hear stories like this and it frustrates me. We're supposed to be understanding and non-judgmental about sexuality and gender, because we're queer ourselves. We all have struggled in some way because of it. And then for us to look at someone else and be like, "Well, you're not typical. Something is wrong with you." Just... frustrates me! *long sigh* Sexuality is fluid. And gender is fluid (especially for trans people). One day you could feel feminine, and the next more masculine. It's normal. It's very normal. And just like how you can find a masculine straight women out there. You can also find a masculine MtF out there. It doesn't make her any less of a woman in either case.
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Posted: Thu Jul 25, 2013 5:02 pm
res novae justbeingme82 res novae I think you're beautiful! I barely know anything about the trans community, but I think that you should be yourself. Do whatever you feel most comfortable and happy with. smile If you feel like a tomboy, then be a tomboy! I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I know I totally agree, it's just I've gotten some grief from a handful of people in the LGBT community here where I live because they are like well if you were born male and you still have and want to 'keep' many of those masculine qualities about you, why didn't you just stay as a man and crossdress...? I have literally LOL'd in some of their faces. There's feminine genetic males [some straight and some gay] and even some trans men are still fairly feminine. And then theres genetic women who are butch or more masculine [and again, some are lesbians and some are straight], so I have told these people 'Why can't you have a transgirl who's a tomboy or a transboy who's a tomgirl? Anyhoo, sorry for ranting. Haha just wanted to get a second opinion that maybe there was just something I wasn't getting... OH! And thank you for the kind words 4laugh *facepalms* Really, I hear stories like this and it frustrates me. We're supposed to be understanding and non-judgmental about sexuality and gender, because we're queer ourselves. We all have struggled in some way because of it. And then for us to look at someone else and be like, "Well, you're not typical. Something is wrong with you." Just... frustrates me! *long sigh* Sexuality is fluid. And gender is fluid (especially for trans people). One day you could feel feminine, and the next more masculine. It's normal. It's very normal. And just like how you can find a masculine straight women out there. You can also find a masculine MtF out there. It doesn't make her any less of a woman in either case. Hahaha I just spit out my tea when I saw your *facepalm* because that has literally happened a time or two for me in those situations! And yes, again I couldn't agree more, everything about is fluid, not just figuratively, but LIETERALLY as well! I mean c'mon, the human body is what, 75% water or something? lol And thank you for your words also Res! smile
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Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2013 12:13 pm
justbeingme82 Hello ladies! smile First real post on the guild here, so please be gentle 4laugh Basically I'm transgendered [MtF] and growing up always went with the belief, the more feminine I looked and acted, the more natural I'd look and seem to everyone. In reality, it made me stick out even more. A fair number of MtF transfolk tend to do that, to be as fem as possible. While it works for some, it just becomes glaringly obvious with many others. I mean I'm no damn model, but I don't think I look like a wreck either... [see below] As I've gotten older and continued my HRT, I've come to embrace the more masculine parts about myself and am now finding myself wondering, is it that uncommon to find a MtF tomboy? Just curious what you ladies thought. Hope everyone has had a great day so far! heart to you all I've literrally never met a trans person before but I kind of can understand.when I started to have crushes on girls I felt like I couldn't possibly be gay because I was so girly.to this day no one can tell I'm not straight unless I tell them.yet even i have some boyishness in me somtimes. I think everyone probably has some boyishness and some girlyness in them sometimes whether they are gay,straight,bi,trans or whatever.so I see no reason you can't be a trans tomboy.
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Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2013 8:40 pm
You look like a model to me smile first thing I noticed was that you have a great smile. I don't think it's uncommon to find a MtF tomboy, you should always feel comfortable with what you wear no matter how feminine or masculine it is, it's all good.
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Posted: Mon Jul 29, 2013 9:19 pm
NYrHIPPIE You look like a model to me smile first thing I noticed was that you have a great smile. I don't think it's uncommon to find a MtF tomboy, you should always feel comfortable with what you wear no matter how feminine or masculine it is, it's all good. A MODEL!? Oh wow! Haha Well thank you sweatdrop Uhm, nope just me. And thank you, yes I'm finding it easier to live my life wearing whatever I want everyday regardless of what others think. smile
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Posted: Tue Jul 30, 2013 8:37 pm
justbeingme82 NYrHIPPIE You look like a model to me smile first thing I noticed was that you have a great smile. I don't think it's uncommon to find a MtF tomboy, you should always feel comfortable with what you wear no matter how feminine or masculine it is, it's all good. A MODEL!? Oh wow! Haha Well thank you sweatdrop Uhm, nope just me. And thank you, yes I'm finding it easier to live my life wearing whatever I want everyday regardless of what others think. smile Haha of course biggrin you're welcome
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Posted: Wed Jul 31, 2013 8:42 am
If it means anything, I think your reeeaaaallly pretty *my awkwardness is showing*
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Posted: Fri Aug 02, 2013 7:14 pm
i am a mtf trans hehe anybody wanna chat with me i love me some trannys or women im kinda a lesbian trans 
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Posted: Fri Aug 02, 2013 7:48 pm
ShiningStar KiraKira If it means anything, I think your reeeaaaallly pretty *my awkwardness is showing* Aww smile thanks Hun! Don't be awkward, then tht makes me feel awkward too sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Aug 02, 2013 8:08 pm
justbeingme82 ShiningStar KiraKira If it means anything, I think your reeeaaaallly pretty *my awkwardness is showing* Aww smile thanks Hun! Don't be awkward, then tht makes me feel awkward too sweatdrop Ok, I'll quit being awkward!
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Posted: Sat Aug 03, 2013 8:41 am
ShiningStar KiraKira justbeingme82 ShiningStar KiraKira If it means anything, I think your reeeaaaallly pretty *my awkwardness is showing* Aww smile thanks Hun! Don't be awkward, then tht makes me feel awkward too sweatdrop Ok, I'll quit being awkward! Yay! Party time! dramallama
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Posted: Sat Aug 03, 2013 11:07 am
justbeingme82 ShiningStar KiraKira justbeingme82 ShiningStar KiraKira If it means anything, I think your reeeaaaallly pretty *my awkwardness is showing* Aww smile thanks Hun! Don't be awkward, then tht makes me feel awkward too sweatdrop Ok, I'll quit being awkward! Yay! Party time! dramallama Awesome cat_biggrin where's the food?
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